shower vent

jess&b

Just learned yesterday that DH's sisters are hung up on setting a shower date, because they are trying to decide if they should have one before I have the baby, or after. This will be a large family shower, which I was hoping we would have before, so we could receive some of the things we need. The reason they can't decide is because we aren't finding out the sex of the baby, and they keep making comments about how much easier it would be if they knew (which is slightly irritating).

I learned all of this from my MIL (nobody has asked me about it). I am appreciative that they are excited and want to buy things for the baby, and obviously I know I should be grateful for any kind of shower, but am I crazy here? There are plenty of things we need that are not gender specific and would really help us out. Also, I don't want a bunch of clothes for a baby who is going to outgrow them so fast. I am also apprehensive about how things are going to go after I have the baby, with breastfeeding and all and trying to schedule something.

I feel like a little bit of a diva here,somebody give me a reality check. This isn't really like me, but I just feel a little annoyed. Maybe it's just the hormones!

krstokes

There a lot of "baby products" out there that are neutral... although finding neutral clothes is a little bit harder but baby gear... that's pretty easy to find I would just talk to whoever is throwing the shower just so they know what your opinion is GL.....

Is it June yet?

I'd feel the same way if I were in your shoes.  Are you registered?  If not, do it asap.  If so, I'm sure it's for gender-neutral stuff and I can't see what the hell their problem is.  You're right - there's lots of stuff that you're going to need before the baby arrives.  Can't your DH say something to your MIL about preferring it to be before the baby arrives? 

lilaclilly122

I totally agree with you.  I would want the shower before as well.  Don't they understand that the point of a shower is to help you out with all the supplies you need so you're ready for the baby.  I'm guessing they don't have children???  Drop some hints to your MIL about how overwhelmed you feel with everything you still need/have to do.  Hope it works out!

suscq

They shouldn't be giving you attitude about not finding out the baby's sex.  Somehow, for decades before the technology was there to find out the baby's sex, women had gender neutral showers before the baby was born.  It's not like they are trying to throw a shower under some terrible circumstances that no one have ever done before.  They need to get over themselves.

Finally_Mrs.Garcia

People get really ridiculous around the gender issue IMO.

It's crazy to see that they would go that far in order for it to be "easier" on them. Ugh. There are tons of stuff you can register for (as we have) that are gender neutral. I would spread the word that you guys would like a shower before hand. Maybe even register and let certain people know. Or, try finding another family member who is willing to throw you one before and then these people can throw one after.

 I hope it all works out.

mrs.serrato85

i would have DH talk to MIL about it...  especially since it seems they are just upset about the fact that you guys decided not to find out what you are having. 

DonnysBride09

suscq:

They shouldn't be giving you attitude about not finding out the baby's sex.  Somehow, for decades before the technology was there to find out the baby's sex, women had gender neutral showers before the baby was born.  It's not like they are trying to throw a shower under some terrible circumstances that no one have ever done before.  They need to get over themselves.

really couldnt have said it any better... DITTO

mommy411

screw that Id be pissed..tell someone that you want it before! Dont feel bad!

ashleynicole_65802

i'd be pissed too. i found out my mom was wanting to thow my shower in mid may and i'm due june 2nd, so i asked her to move it to april so that we would still have time to get the things we needed if we didn't get them at the shower.  i wouldn't want to rush around trying to get everything right before i was due.