Couples Shower Question

CharLou

Are any of you having a couples shower?

3 of my friends are throwing my "friend" shower and today we went to lunch with one of them and her husband. She asked me and DH how we felt about a couples shower. I turned to him to see what he thought... he of course never says no and responded with "whatever you want to do sounds great to me" WTF - what guy really thinks that!?

Anyhow, would any of you do this?  Do guys really like to go to these things. My DH said as long as he could drink beer and as long as he wasn't made to play any games other than Shuffle Board (my friend has one at her house) then he was ok with it.

We have several (yes, I said several - it is out of control, but so kind of everyone) showers... one at his parents who live further away... one for my family and then each of our works have offered so it isn't like there won't be any other babyish all girl showers. None of the others (except his work shower) are a couples shower.

I guess I am asking how you guys or your DH's would feel because I just don't know how I feel about it.

berry25

I just asked DH and he says he would never want to attend a baby shower and doesn't feel it's for men.  LOL.  I had a traditional woman's only shower and he wasn't actually invited at the time.  ;-)

skylooo

I asked my DH about this and he said that if I really wanted him there, he would go, but he would not force his buddies to go to a baby shower.  I understand, I guess.  I think couples showers are kind of uncomfortable.

CharLou

berry25:

I just asked DH and he says he would never want to attend a baby shower and doesn't feel it's for men.  LOL.  I had a traditional woman's only shower and he wasn't actually invited at the time.  ;-)

I sort of agree with your DH... I have 3 brothers and planned to invite their wives to this shower and they will laugh if they have to go - so will my dad.

IselaCid

As long as it's more like a party than an shower then I think guys are OK with it.  Ours was very much like a get-together/party/bbq.  We had plenty of beer and even a game of beer pong.  It was super casual and fun and just another excuse for all the regular friends to get together.  If it's a bunch of strangers, it may not be so much fun for the guys though. 

cochranb

It depends on if your DH knows the males at the shower. They are a lot of fun if all the couples are friends and know each other well, but if it is just the girls that know each other well the men hate it, and I don't blame them. I think it really depends on how well the couples all know each other. My DH however would not want this, he would rather go out with the guys somewhere else and I don't blame him.

berry25

CharLou:

berry25:

I just asked DH and he says he would never want to attend a baby shower and doesn't feel it's for men.  LOL.  I had a traditional woman's only shower and he wasn't actually invited at the time.  ;-)

I sort of agree with your DH... I have 3 brothers and planned to invite their wives to this shower and they will laugh if they have to go - so will my dad.

I remember coming home from my shower and trying to show DH all the gifts and he was completely uninterested.  He was excited for the baby but really didn't give a hoot about the receiving blankets and toys and mobile.  They are just wired differently (or at least my man is)!

During the shower though he did go see a ridiculously violent guy movie with some of the husbands whose wives attended my shower, and got an afternoon beer with them.  He did like that part of the day.

Traycee1242

Not a chance in hell would my DH agree to a couples shower.

CharLou

cochranb:

It depends on if your DH knows the males at the shower. They are a lot of fun if all the couples are friends and know each other well, but if it is just the girls that know each other well the men hate it, and I don't blame them. I think it really depends on how well the couples all know each other. My DH however would not want this, he would rather go out with the guys somewhere else and I don't blame him.

 This would be a problem - DH is so not a fan of a few of the guys that their wives would be invited. I just don't think it is going to work. I just e mailed my friend and told her to hold the idea for the couples shower - me and DH would have to discuss it further and really think about a guest list. I don't think any of his friends are going to want to go to it.  I don't blame them. I am not sure I would even want a bunch of guys there.

MaMa~MoOrE

Well, we are not exactly the "traditional" type but I think it is what you make of it. For DS we had a Tiki Party themed shower at the pool where it was more like a fun party for EVERYone to enjoy themselves, which I liked more. As far as games we had the basics like guess the belly size w/ string etc. but being where it was everyone could kind of float around and mingle if they didn't want to participate. We did have a really fun couple the guys REALLY enjoyed though.

One was the mini bottles that had to be chugged fastest (no hands, and choice of drink- most did beer lol)

The other was they blew up balloons to my size of belly, put them under their shirts and see who could live a day in my shoes and tie their shoes the fastest (if they wore sandals we tied some left over string from the other game to it)

We had surprise gift bags for every game and "special" ones for the guys... my mom and aunt even threw a gag one in there that the guys were fighting over that was hilarious w/ a condom and KY jelly lol

It might not be your style but it was nice because we all got to have fun like a regular get together but that is just our wacky friends & family. GL w/ whatever you decide... ?it will be fun no matter what.

margeincharge2

I just asked my DH and he said he would like to be involved in our shower. It's news to me. He basically said he wouldn't force other guys to go, but he would like to be there. Then he said, "you should be happy I'm not perpetuating traditional gender role stereotypes." I wouldn't have expected him to be interested but sometimes they surprise you.

Mrs.B07

I think it all depends on how the shower is thrown. We have been to two couple showers. The first was more of your traditional shower, not to fun for the men actually the men stayed outside and the women were inside. The other shower was awsome it was a BBQ theme without games and everyone mingled together women, men and kids it was a lot of fun and because of that my DH is excited for a couples shower.

If you want to play games here is one that is male friendly and your DH may want to actually join in on

Baby Bottle Drinking Contest ? Guests compete to see who can quickly guzzle down beer (or any other beverage) through a baby bottle.

krstokes

I am having a ladies only shower but DH is invited (poor thing).... I think where I am from it's traditionally ladies only but if it's a friends shower that might be a little more laid back you could open the invite to men ??? Just personal preference I guess.... although most of the guys I know wouldn't attend just because it isn't there type of scene LOL....

thatgirlang

We had one and it was great. A lot of guys came. There was a room for them to retreat to with beer and basketball games playing. But they mixed and mingled with the girls, too. Really, you can have a BBQ or regular party that you might throw for couples and just add some baby gifts and cake. Oh, and since we did this instead of DH having a diaper shower, the hostesses suggested that any single guys just bring diapers. So they didn't have the stress of shopping for a baby gift.

bparkhur

My DH is very enthusiastic about the idea of a couples shower. In fact, he said he would feel very left out if he weren't invited to a party for his baby. I guess he's not your typically guy though.

Kendall13

We already decided to have a couples shower.  It would be less girlie games, more of a get together.  My DH is excited about it.

Beccaboo0713

We are having a couples shower. It's a bbq type thing. I will play a few games, open presents and mingle. It should be fun!

almostanO

Dh and I threw a couples shower for his friend last year. Dh's friends get excited about it and think of it as a time to hang out. We didn't really do games or anything. Just food, drinks and gifts. We are having a couples shower in April that several of my friends are throwing. Maybe it is because my Dh isn't American though. He didn't have the preconceived ideas attached to baby showers. Now that I think about it more...The fact that he likes them is really weird I guess because he said at home the man doesn't even go to the hospital with the woman when the baby is being born...her mom or sister goes with her and the man waits at home. I am glad he like them though. It is his baby too and he's excted!