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Jenny3

Hi there! I'm 14 weeks today and can officially join this board

My question is for anyone who is on their 2nd, 3rd or more child. I have two girls and naturally, the pressure is there for this one to be a boy. Of course, my husband and I just want healthy, but if we could choose, a boy would be preferable since this will be our last child.

I'm also feeling a lot of pressure from the family - especially my MIL. She has outright admitted that all she wants is a boy. It seems everywhere I go, as soon as I mention that I have 2 girls, the comments come. There is a lot of hype and lots of family and friends anxious to know the sex (as are we). I'm starting to get worried that if this baby is a girl, there will be disappointment, like the hype is for nothing. Does that make sense? I hope this doesn't make me sound insensitive or anything, because I don't mean to be. Has anyone else dealt with gender disappointment? We will find out around probably the end of March and I'm nervous.

Shanseur*

Oh...they'll get over it.... especially when they see that beautiful baby girl when she's born (if that's in fact what it is).  I mean...really?  You can't do anything about it.

thatgirlang

Hi!

I don't think that our family will necessarily be disappointed but there is a lot of talk of wanting a girl. I have a 9 yr old SD and a 2 yr old son. SD WILL be disappointed if we have another boy as she was very upset the first time and she has been very verbal about it. Everyone I know keeps saying they hope its a girl. I don't know why or what the big deal is! But on the opposite side of your case, I am *slightly nervous of the responses should we end up learning and announcing that we're having another boy.

GL! And here's to healthy babies no matter what!

KSimone619

Welcome and happy 2nd tri to you!!!

Ekstasis

I?ve three girls 16, 14 and 8-years of age.  I know exactly what you?re going through.

 

In regards to your family you need to remind them males are the ones that produce the male or female gene. Not yourself.

 

We will find out on the 27^th of this month what the sex of our baby will be. I?m hoping to see a ?package? on the screen and if not will be just as happy. We have enough estrogen in this house.

Finally_Mrs.Garcia

Have you guys considered not finding out the sex? That might keep the comments to a minimum. And, like pp said once they see the baby, they'll get over it. Good Luck!

berry25

It sounds like you have a good attitude - healthy baby is the main goal, and it would be great to have a boy.  But you don't seem like you'd be overly upset with another girl.

Your family's attitudes are quite frankly rude and I wouldn't let it get you down.  They will come around when they see that beautiful grandchild! 

Honestly, I think three girls would be a wonderful dynamic.  I've met several women who come from families of three or more girls and they have all raved about how fun it was to grow up in a home with sisters.  Just keep your eye on the ball - there is so much that can go wrong with a pregnancy and childbirth, and every healthy child is a blessing and miracle. 

Jenny3

Thank you for the responses! Maybe disappointed wasn't the right word... I'm not sure how to put it into words exactly. Well, actually, I know my MIL will be disappointed. My husband is one of 4 boys. And those 4 boys have a total of 6 girls/1 boy and this is the last one for quite a long time. All she talks about is "all those girls" and wants to know when her next grandson is arriving :::roll eyes:::

I think I will need a day or two to adjust to another girl, but I will be fine with whatever I get

Jenny3

Finally_Mrs.Garcia:

Have you guys considered not finding out the sex? That might keep the comments to a minimum. And, like pp said once they see the baby, they'll get over it. Good Luck!

 We did consider it, but we both really want to know. Both of the girls were surprises, and I would like the time to prepare for this one since this was a bit of a surprise in itself!  Plus, it would be nice to have a nursery that isn't green

lainek1176

Why don't you just try being surprised, and not finding out the sex of the baby. This way you won't have to feel that kind of pressure and everyone will be excited either way once the baby is born. Just a suggestion. Who cares what everyone else thinks. It's a miracle and your family should just be happy for a healthy baby. Good luck!

Finally_Mrs.Garcia

Jenny3:

Finally_Mrs.Garcia:

Have you guys considered not finding out the sex? That might keep the comments to a minimum. And, like pp said once they see the baby, they'll get over it. Good Luck!

 We did consider it, but we both really want to know. Both of the girls were surprises, and I would like the time to prepare for this one since this was a bit of a surprise in itself!  Plus, it would be nice to have a nursery that isn't green

 I hear ya...DH and I decided that this would be our surprise and if we're blessed with more, we will be finding out the sex. 

P.S. Our nursery s green, lol 

JacobsGirl

I have three boys, so I have the EXACT same problem.  It drives me INSANE when people first of all assume I MUST want a girl, and second say that "it better be a girl".  I would absolutely love to have another boy.  We hope to have more, so it's not like this is our last chance or anything.  And even if it was, I wouldn't care.  Yeah, I'd like to have a girl, but if I don't it's not the end of the world. 

And it doesn't matter WHO determines the sex, either way you can't help whether it's a boy or girl.

Part of me actually hopes this one is a boy just to bug people. =P