Shower Drama :(

Perisky

My dad, my sister, and mom are planning my shower together. ?None of them have any money and I just found out today that there has been some arguing and drama about splitting the $ evenly between them. ?They are all arguing over who has "less" money than the other and?apparently?everyone is being mean. ?I talked to my mom about it today telling Her that I got a vibe that there were some issues. ?I feel like telling everybody just to do it at someone's house but then they would all know i know about the drama. I also feel like telling DH to give them some money towards it since we are the only one's that have any money. ?What should I do? I am worried this will make everyone hold permanent grudges and that is the last thing I want.?

manda_mullins

I'm sorry! Your family sounds sucky like mine in that respect. I don't know what to tell you but I hope things work out for the best.?

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I would definitely go for doing it at someone's house if that helps the cost.?

manic mama

I'll tell ya, frickin showers bring out the worst in people.

I don't know what to advise, though. I can just empathize.

MissLMS

I would just talk to your mom (or whichever family member you are closest with) about it. I wouldn't necessarily offer them money to help pay for it.

But, maybe you can offer suggestions of ways to cut costs. (Suggest to have it at someone's house, say that your DH wants to bring some food or something, etc.)

sept04brideinMD

I'm so sorry about the drama!  As PP said - showers (really any life changing event) bring out the worst in people.

I wouldn't necessarily offer them money either, but perhaps offer Dh to make food or offer your home as the site (depending on how you feel about that).  Ask if you can be apart of some of the plans and find ways to cut costs.  My family is doing a shower for me at the church rec hall (free) and between like 5 of them it's going to be pot luck.  They're even making cupcakes (which I like better!)  instead of getting a cake made, etc. 

This should not be something that stresses you out.  At this point, you have way too many other things that will stress you out.  Sorry!

Perisky

ooh I love the church rec hall idea

grettaz

Why don't you offer to let them have it at your house? You could say that it would be easier for you that way so you don't have to transport all of the gifts, and that way your guests would get to see your nursery.  Then you wouldn't have to mention money at all.