Appointing guardianship?

Amymichelle925 · February 2009

a little spinoff of an earlier post

DH and I were discussing who would we feel comfortable raising our children last night.

A mini background. We live in TX near DH's family I am from MA and all my family is up there. Given some MAJOR family issues within DH's family right now I would not feel comfortable with any member caring for my child permanently should something happen to DH and I. DH agrees for the most part. I would like to ask my Aunt and Uncle to be guardians (they have a son who is 5).

My question/dilema is that God forbid something happens to DH and I within the next couple of years I think it would be okay for my son to move back across the country but if he were older (school age) I think it could be traumatic leaving a familiar home and friends. Although he would know and love my side of the family, realisitcally they will be family he only sees once or twice a year.

Would it be inappropriate to ask my Aunt and Uncle to be guardians but let them know that we would reevaluate our situation as our son gets older (for reasons above)?

Deegirl322 · February 2009

Just go with who you think will be the best parent. It would be traumatic enough for him to lose both his parents.

Bellisimo · February 2009

Nope, not inappropriate at all. That's exactly why we didn't appoint my SIL and BIL....they live in another state and will be moving two more times in the next couple of years. I didn't want my son to be uprooted. We'll revisit it at a later date if needed.