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2nd Trimester
Mumma2B
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Who feels guilty for lack of sex drive?
Mumma2B
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So here's the questions:
Do you feel guilty?
Do you talk about it with your man?
What are you trying to do if anything to make up for it?
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Re: Who feels guilty for lack of sex drive?
I do. I try and talk to my hubby about it but he doesn't get it. He keeps saying I just am not attracted to him anymore. The other night we did it and it really was the worst it's ever been. When I actually am in the mood he is never home. It's hard though... I can't help it if I am not in the mood.
:::raises hand really high:::
I do feel guilty but he works, and is in school every night until 10:00, except Fridays and I work full time. We really don't talk about it. I figure having his child makes up for it- and if he wanted it that bad he would say something. We are on a once every other week schdule at this point.
Do you feel guilty? No, not particularly. If he wanted it that badly, he could probably work at it & get me to willingly give in
I'm hoping I'll feel up to it this weekend.
Do you talk about it with your man? Yes. All the time. We both agree that it is very sad.
What are you trying to do if anything to make up for it? Meh, we hug & cuddle & kiss, which is OK with both of us for the moment. Don't get me wrong, we wish we had more energy/less naseau to want to do it, but we're not dying for a lay or anything.
Do you feel guilty?
No. We've been together for nearly 7 years now and this is the only time in our lives together that I have had a lower sex drive. He and I both feel its worth it.
Do you talk about it with your man?
I check in with him and make sure he's not feeling neglected.
What are you trying to do if anything to make up for it?
I just try to remember that it isn't all about me and he has his needs to. I get myself in the mood and if not then I find other ways w/out DTD
I feel guilty about it. DH & I have talked about it alot & he's beenunderstanding but he's definately getting a little frustrated.
I don't know. I just don't have any urge to right now. I'm tired all the time and keep falling asleep at 9pm when I put DS to bed. I'm hoping it's a hormone thing and my desire will come back when the fatigue fades.
oh me me me!!!! ::raises both hands::
DH didn't understand how uncomfortable I was during the deed until the last time we tried. I had some minor cramping afterwards and he said (word for word) "we're not doing this again until after the baby's born. I don't want hurt either one of you.". So he understands now. We cuddle at night and we read books together before going to sleep (i read out loud) so that takes the pressure off a little.
yes
yes
nothing (oops)
YES! I feel EXTREMELY guilty...
Yes we talk about it...
BJs (sorry if TMI) - I think it helps :0)
Do you feel guilty? Yes, I do. I am never in the mood.
Do you talk about it with your man? yes, we talk and sometimes makes jokes. He is so understanding or at least he is to me. I guess because I'm always saying how uncomfortable or tired I am so he feels sorry for me.
What are you tryitn to do if anything to make up for it? I cook dinner and we cuddle. I try to be so sweet to him even when I'm cranky...which we all know is so hard to do! Hopefully this weekend I can make it up to him.
Yes - i feel incredibly guilty
Yes, we talk about it
Basically i told him that i just dont feel so attractive, so i need a little extra attention...seems to be working so far...
Yes I do because I didn't have this problem with the first pregnancy. Dh has been super understanding but it's been a loooooong time. This really sucks because second tri sex was amazing with my first.
Oh yeah, we make jokes about our sex drought all the time.
Unfortunately not much. My stomach is in constant turmoil and my gag reflex is off the charts, I can't even kiss with my mouth open.