Seen some strong responses to AlwysAwsm 's DH

HDxNxJ

Does your DH have a guys night out?

Mine does.. I honestly don't see a problem with DH going out with the boys for a few drinks.... I think my situation is much different. My DH doesn't get off of work till 10:30pm so by the time he gets home and goes anywhere it is around 11pm. 

I seen some girls say their DH's wouldn't go out or stay out that late ever without them... I just don't see every relationship that way.  DH and I have always had our seperate nights out and I think it's a good thing to have.

 I do think it is a problem in her case that he did not answer the phone and caused unnecessary stress!

DoubleDiamond

I wish my DH had a regular guy's night!  I have plenty of girl things that I senak off to do, but since we've moved my DH just hasn't connected with the guys around here.  But I think he could he could use more "guy time"...and I would love some home alone time!!

Steffsjet

I think he does this to her frequently...not a guys out since there are always girls going too.  Just not her.  Which isn't cool.

I don't have a problem with guys night out....I say let them go and have fun.....and don't call me if you need a ride.  Take a cab, I will be asleep or in my pj's watching the movies I want to watch. 

 

MegDC

Mine goes out with his friends-- but I know where hes going, we stay in contact via blackberry so I usually talk to him a lot and I know when he is coming home.  I trust my husband, I know his friends and he is responsible.  Last night's post sounds like something way more than DH going out.

Daisy22

Dh and I both have our nights out every once and a while. It's not a weekly thing and we don't go out to get drunk with our friends. But neither of us really like the bar scene and there's no way we could stay out that late on the weekdays. If we go out its for a drinks at a restaurant or something along those lines.

I think the thing with last night's post was this particular girl has posted several times about her dh leaving her alone and stressing her out. And just that he doesn't consider her feelings what so ever.

shipian

DH and I have our night's out with friends. They often don't fall on the same night. I think it's important to have this. We spend so much time together, it's important to have our own time with friends. DH is pretty considerate though and I trust him completely. It works out well for us, but I understand pp's frustration as it seems her DH often doesn't have any consideration for her feelings.

rommelea

My DH will occasionally go out for guys night out.  The thing is though all of his friends live in Virginia and so if he's going to go I know in advance that he'll be crashing at one of their houses.  If and when he goes he calls me a lot - not because I want him to, but because he wants to call and let me know that he's thinking about me.  There have been nights where I've had to say STOP CALLING ME!  Even if his phone dies (which it has more than once) he will borrow a friend's phone and call to either let me know he won't be calling anymore, or to tell me that if I need him this is the number to call.  If he ever pulled a disappearing act like her husband did, we would have a serious conversation the next morning.

Mamashev2b

I think that AlwysAwsm is in a bad position.  As for my hubby, he does have guy night.  He has a poker night once a week.  This is when either we have it at our home one week and it rotates to other guys houses other weeks.  This way they are not lurking in a bar and usually I am with him - however the wives are off doing our own thing. And then he gets home safely at night. NOT DRINKING AND DRIVING. This makes for good friends and great times!!!

erino&chrish

HDxNxJ:

Does your DH have a guys night out?

Mine does.. I honestly don't see a problem with DH going out with the boys for a few drinks.... I think my situation is much different. My DH doesn't get off of work till 10:30pm so by the time he gets home and goes anywhere it is around 11pm. 

I seen some girls say their DH's wouldn't go out or stay out that late ever without them... I just don't see every relationship that way.  DH and I have always had our seperate nights out and I think it's a good thing to have.

 I do think it is a problem in her case that he did not answer the phone and caused unnecessary stress!

My DH does something once every week or two, whether it's guy's dinner out, then he's home early, or they go play pool or beer pong until the wee hours of the morning.

prettyshoes

I don't have a problem with a guy's night out. Like you, I have a problem with the fact that he is unreachable. And it sounds like, in awsm's case, this is not the first time this has happened. The blatent disrespect of being unreachable is a big deal IMO.

nolebride

My husband doesn't have as specific guys night out but he does go out with his friends. I'd say it's once or twice a month. He stays out late although if it gets to be past 2 am (when the bars close) I start to get annoyed. I don't sleep well when he's out so I try to remind him of that. If he doesn't check in I get really angry. I figure it's simple to shoot me a text just to check in and confirm that he's alive.

I go out with my friends too. Before we thought about kids I had girl's nights a lot. Now, I'm usually just too tired but I plan to hang out with them after the baby is born. I'm a strong believer in couples being independent.

mollymurphy

Does my husband go out w/o me? Sure, and I'm glad that he does. So, why am I not posting anxious "WDYT?" threads on message boards when he does? Because he has never given me a reason to doubt that he's where and with the people that he said he would be and he calls if he's going to be late. It doesn't have anything to do with whether or not your guy goes out without you...it's whether or not you trust him, and if you don't, you need to look at why you don't trust him. Seriously.

niracess27

DH goes out once a month with his friend. They go to a sports bar near our home so it's nice, the friends wife and I occasionaly tag along if they do it twice a month but with my pregnant now it's just better if he goes. It's nice because I can go drop him off and pick him up. Since we both have the potential of losing our jobs and different licenses if we were to get a DUI. I think it's nice for him to go out without me for a change though however he does always let me know if he will be late. He will call or text regularly.

HisLobster

My DH has a guy's night but it doesn't involve drinking and I'm welcome to go if I want to (but I'd be the only female). I don't go because I believe he needs that time out. I think we all do.

Mama Jan

If my DH goes out, he is home by 9/9:30.  I'm glad he is but it's not my "rule".  It's something he has chosen to do so that he and I still spend some time together and still go to bed together.

Oh, and I do the same thing when I am out with the girls... who also do the same thing.

robynlesley

I wish my DH's friends lived closer, but they're in Maryland and Virginia. So he seldom goes out without me. I, however, abandon him on occasion for a girl's night (or afternoon) out. But I don't stay out late.

He doesn't drink (hates the taste of alcohol) and he's very considerate. If he did go out and was running late, he'd call or text me.

Califragilistic

DH and I are firm believers in separate time. I NEED alone time..i am independent and need to/like to go out without him (with friends or alone) sometimes. I like when he goes out with his friends bc he gets to have fun (and sometimes miss me.) I like going out together of course but I prob wouldnt be married if we never did our own thing...i just cant handle that.

Im sure people think its weird that we are so independent but I think its weird when people ONLY spend time together...his guy friends dont always want you around..cut the cord