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Is this rude?

DD hasn't been sleeping well at night. DH works during the day, so I'm often up with her at night so that isn't a zombie at work the next day.

When she naps, I nap too. It's the only way I get any sleep.

So, I started placing a note on the front door that says "Please come back later, We are napping."

My grandmother showed up while we were napping today and proceeded to bang on the door until I finally woke up (We were upstairs) and answered it. I pointed out the sign and she said "That's the rudest thing I've ever seen, If I want to see the baby I'm not going to "schedule" a time."

I told her to leave, that I wasn't waking her up.

Was I rude? Or was she?

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    She was.
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    She was. However I wouldn't put a note like that on my door because I wouldn't want solicters to know that I was home with my baby and napping. And other mothers and grandmothers should know about the sleep deprivation and respect your time.
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    She was the rude one! If she isn't going to pay attention to your sign, then she needs to at least call before she comes over.
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    I think she was rude.  The sign said Please!!!
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    People just show up at your house?  Hell yeah that's rude.  There are no uninvited guests at my house, that just wouldn't fly.  Of course she needs to "schedule" a time.  That's the craziest thing.
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    She was rude to ignore your wishes. A baby isn't an animal in a zoo; and even they can go out of sight (indoors) to sleep.
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    You are not rude, actually you may be my HERO!! :) Good for you!
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    She was, definitely.  She must not remember the sleepless nights with her little ones...you are fully entitled to uninterrupted nap time at this stage!! She can call ahead, IMO.
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    She was.  I am sorry, that is SO rude.  I would have been super pissed! 
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    WOW! she was rude
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    she was rude.  not a thing about your note was rude.  people shouldn't just stop by - even if they are family (IMO)
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    omg...seriously? She was!
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    OMG!! No you were not beign rude- she was!!

    I went to my neighbors to drop off christmas cookies around christmas and they had a sign not to knock or ring doorbell cause their son was napping. I didn't think that was rude at all. i was actually glad cause I would have felt bad if I woke him up! 

    Your GM was completely out of line especially considering you have a 3 week old!!! Sleep is like beyond precious at that point!

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    Rude on her part.  Tell her for me she needs to start respecting her family, as she respects others.

      My mom is a bit like this.  Today, she was suppose to come at 10 for a visit.  She shows up at 11, then they leave at 12:30.  Basically, I wasted my whole morning sitting around waiting for her, so she could drop by for a very short visit.  She would never do that to a friend, but has no problem being disrespectful of my time.

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    yup..she was!
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    She most definitely was the rude one! I sometimes put a little sign over my doorbell that says "quiet, baby sleeping." She should definitely understand!
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    I don't really know your relationship. She was rude to bang on your door when it said you were sleeping. I don't think the note was rude, but it was probably rude to tell her to go away (instead of inviting her in to wait until baby woke).

    ETA: However, she was uninvited, so that is doubly rude!!

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    She was. However I wouldn't put a note like that on my door because I wouldn't want solicters to know that I was home with my baby and napping. And other mothers and grandmothers should know about the sleep deprivation and respect your time.

    You're right. However, we live in the middle of nowhere. In the 2 years we have been here we have never had someone other than family show up at our door....but you're right, maybe I should re-think that.

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    She is very rude. No
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    She was very rude.  I have to agree with the pp that said this could be dangerous though.  I wouldn't leave a sign, I just wouldn't answer. 

    No call= no visit in my book

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    She sounds like my grandmother! I could so see her doing that. SHE was rude, not you. I guess they forget what it's like, you know. Sorry!
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    I'm behind you 10000%! 

    I put a note on my door that said "New baby Delilah is looking forward to making new friends, but because she sleeps so much she would like you to call first before coming in, because knocking on the door or ringing the bell could wake her.  THANKS!"

    The only person who ignored this was the 8 year old in our neighborhood whose parents don't pay attention to her so she kept banging on my door to "play" with Delilah.  Ugh.

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    Yep, not only was she rude to disregard your notice, she took it a step further and was even more rude when she argued with you after you explained your situation.  Rude all the way around.
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    I guess it depends on the relationship with your Grandma. I would've bent over backwards at the opportunity for my Grandmother to meet and see DD if she were here.

    On the other hand a phone call would have been nice. I don't know if I would have gone to the extent of asking her to leave though, again I really think it depends on your relationship. Sorry I hope you can get some rest!

     

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    imageSunny1inTucson:

    I don't really know your relationship. She was rude to bang on your door when it said you were sleeping. I don't think the note was rude, but it was probably rude to tell her to go away (instead of inviting her in to wait until baby woke).

    ETA: However, she was uninvited, so that is doubly rude!!

    We are actually very close, which is why I didn't really think twice about telling her to go away!

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    She was very rude!!
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    imageJanimal:

    The only person who ignored this was the 8 year old in our neighborhood whose parents don't pay attention to her so she kept banging on my door to "play" with Delilah.  Ugh.

    Haha, Oh man. I would have sent her back with a note "Please refrain from ignoring you child. When you do that I get blessed with her presence."

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    she was. what she said takes some big balls.
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    she was!  SOOO rude!

    However I wouldn't put a note on the door cuz I wouldn't want strangers to know I was sleeping. 

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    SHE totally was!  That angers me for you.  What is it with people thinking they are owed the right to see OUR children whenever they want.  We finally had to have a talk with the IL's after MIL decided that she would stop by the day-care one day w/o checking with us first and then tried to come by our house that same evening to see DD AGAIN!  It is so frustrating.  Angry Don't feel bad, your grandmother was in the wrong on that one.
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    She was definitely out of line. My grandmother once showed up without calling first and with a friend who was visiting her from Canada on top of it! I was pissed, but at least Sasha wasn't sleeping or anything.
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    She was rude.

    I have started just handing baby to visitors and going back to sleep. Hows that for rude ;)

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    No, she was rude.? You are the mom and you make the rules.
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    Dude, you even have to ask?

    I would have slammed the door in her face.

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    She was unbelievably rude. Regardless of her thoughts on your sign, it's not her place to dictate how you run your day. Really, I would be pretty furious at that kind of disrespectful behavior. Next time, if you're serious about getting naps and want to keep the sign, do not answer the door. Period.
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    SHE was rude!  She absolutely should have to schedule to visit YOUR baby!  And if you don't answer the door for an uninvited visit, that is your right.

    Sorry, good luck explaining this to grandma.

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    Ugh! I hate it when people just stop by. Our family is awful about this. Except for my parents....They always call first. You definitely were not rude!
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    She is absolutely being rude... as you know already by the responses .
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    She was.  People should call before they come over.
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