Another mom making me nervous...WWYD?

bridesea

I sometimes get together with a bunch of other twin moms for play groups, and I really like all the moms. But one of them seems... inattentive, to the point where it worries me.  I've seen her do things on several ocassions that I think are unsafe-- not strapping her kid in a swing; leaving a kid propped on a couch (who then rolled face down onto the cushion), etc.  She adores her kids, but she seems kind of dangerously inattentive.  I don't know how (or whether) to mention it... this seems like a very touchy subject.  She's not a friend of mine, aside from playgroup... and it's hard not to sound judgemental.  Should I just not say anything? 

nope19401

Never let her babysit for you!  I'm not sure what to tell you.  I think if you say something, she might get very defensive.  Maybe next time just say, "Wow- you are so brave to not strap the baby in. I would be terrified that the baby would fall out."  That gets your point across without outright telling her that she is not careful

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i have a freind like that - all my other mom friends feel the same way - and will NEVER let her watch our children.... there's not much you can do other than that.

we do make comments like "wow - you are brave", etc- but it has never changed anything.  She lets her kids roam all over- near their huge staircase, the x-mas tree with small glass ornaments - all while nobody is watching.... it's crazy.

 

gabbylou

I am a bad Mommy!  I never strap my kids into the swing!! Although I don't see how it is possible for them to fall out because of the way my swing is designed.  Oh well...I suck!

groovygrl

Ditto pps, not sure what you can really do other than not let her watch your kids.

We were at the pool one day & a friend of ours had her 4 yr old twins (who can more or less swim) with her and her friend came along & brought a 2 1/2 yr old (who could not swim) and they let them sit on the steps into the pool to play (no swimmies or anything, and  no lifeguard b/c this is the 'adult pool' where technically kids aren't supposed to be in it at all). Well, the older ones of course can go down to the lower steps so the little one wants to follow...the mom(s) were totally not paying attention, chatting, etc and I was trying to keep an eye on them & I looked over & all I saw was the little one's hair floating on the top of the water...I started yelling & MH ran over & pulled her out and she was ok (scared & crying of course), and the mom ran over but didn't even thank us once for noticing. We were so uncomfortable after that, feeling like we had to watch other people's kids, that we left.