My DH...

grinsandgiggles

Our pregnancy wasn't a planned pregnancy...and while I am sooo happy, I have never seen DH get excited.  Sometimes I think he is happy, but most of the time I just think he could care less either way.  I think it's mostly his nerves, he had this whole big plan, and right now it's not going in that direction as fast as he would like.

I feel like I am alone when I hear all of you talk about your DH.  Is there anyone else that's in the same boat as me?  I think it's because he has never been around babies, and has only recently begun to be around kids.  I know once the baby is here things will change...but I want that now.  Right now I have to ask him to put his hand on my belly, he doesn't do it on his own.  I tell him I can see the baby kick, and he sounds like he could care less.  The only time I ever see anything is when he kisses me or hugs me.  Sometimes he'll also kiss my belly or pat it saying "hey buddy." 

Sorry to be a drag, but I just showed that video of the baby kicking to him (he was at work) and his reply was "that's it?" and closed out of it so fast....makes me sad sometimes.

lhull

Some men are just scared.  My DH was very scared at first.  I still have to tell him to feel, he is not the type to just rub my belly or anything like that.  I think, they think there are bounderies they do not want to cross. 

I am sure he is excited, and he loves you.  This is new to him too, and since it is not happening to his body, he doesn't know how to feel.  He is scared for you and the baby.  Just keep doing what your doing and make him feel that it is ok to be near you.  Share everythign with him.  Good Luck!

Tinkermeg

I accused my DH of not caring the other day. He said he's excited for the baby, but she's not here yet. I yelled, "she's right here!!" and pointed at my belly.

It's just not real to men like it is to us. He has been trying to show he cares though since then.

 

P.S. His ears must been burning cause he just asked me what I'm typing. I told him and he told me I'm mean to say that about him.

E&Jhssweethearts

I think to some extent it is common for men to not be as excited as women. We feel different as soon as we find out we're pg. I don't think the excitement really hits men until right before, or during delivery. I guess it's kind of understandable, their daily lives don't really change until then. My DH is excited about baby but I still tell him to put his hand on my belly to try to feel the baby. As always, the best advice is just talk to him, make sure he knows how you are feeling, and be receptive to what his response is, it is understandable if part of him is sad that his "plan" didn't pan out, but that shouldn't stop him from being happy about this DC.

grinsandgiggles

Thanks girls...I'm sure that's what it is.  He often says that..."the baby's not here."

Sum06Bride

My DH is supportive, but in his own ways...kinda like yours he's not that into feeling the baby move, he doesn't talk to it, "I'll talk to her when she's here, I don't have anything to say to her right now"...I expect him to be more involved emotionally, but that's just not him...I bet yours is the same way...

Rather than focusing on what he's not doing, think about the things that he is...my DH is great about making sure that the driveway is salted and cleaned so I don't slip, he cooks more and wants to watch what I'm eating and lifts laundry baskets...stuff like that...that's his way of being involved...maybe there is something that your DH does like that, that you don't notice right now?

He will come around, like pp's have said, wait until the baby's born, it might not be in his plan, but it will change...

grinsandgiggles

Sum06Bride:

My DH is supportive, but in his own ways...kinda like yours he's not that into feeling the baby move, he doesn't talk to it, "I'll talk to her when she's here, I don't have anything to say to her right now"...I expect him to be more involved emotionally, but that's just not him...I bet yours is the same way...

Rather than focusing on what he's not doing, think about the things that he is...my DH is great about making sure that the driveway is salted and cleaned so I don't slip, he cooks more and wants to watch what I'm eating and lifts laundry baskets...stuff like that...that's his way of being involved...maybe there is something that your DH does like that, that you don't notice right now?

He will come around, like pp's have said, wait until the baby's born, it might not be in his plan, but it will change...

Thank you!

Yes, he does do all of this stuff.  He even told me to call off work one day because "a pregnant lady shouldn't be out on those roads."  I will try to remember this.