My BIL tells his 4 year old daughter she's fat.

J+O

He came over yesterday with his three kids and wife. ?And while they were here I heard the "fat" comment probably five times total and they were here for two hours. ?He called his daughter fat & his wife. ?His wife responded by saying, "Very funny." Or when it was directed towards their daughter it was, "Maddy you're not fat. Don't listen to Daddy."

I even heard the words, "Fatty Maddy."

Nice right? ?Way to boost your daughter's confidence before even becoming a teenager. ?BTW, she's no where near fat and is actually under weight for her age.

I was in shock...?

Their other two kids are boys and of course, not fat single fat comment from dad about them.

What the hell is wrong with him?

**Edit I meant four year old. ?Opps.**

MrsGMRMartin

omg that is horrible!!!  he needs to be smacked!!!!!!!!!

LucyGoosey81

That's horrible!!!

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tifanico:

And thats how my mom destroyed my self confidence when I was a kid.

I know, people just don't realize how powerful words are. ?I told myself if I was pregnant with a girl I would make sure to tell her she's beautiful all the time. ?When I see my nieces that's the first thing I say to them is, "hello beautiful."

And my son, I'm making sure not to call myself fat around him at all.. I want him to know it's unacceptable to call anyone that, and hopefully he'll have higher self-esteem as well.

BIL is just lucky my son didn't know what he was saying otherwise we will be having a talk. ?I don't want my son picking up his rude habits.

CameraPerson

eating disorder in the making.

BrideNamedMeg

Anyone who calls ANY child fat, fatty or anything, even as an "endearing" nickname needs a swift kick in the a$$. 

My grandfather called me "fatso" as a kid (I was a little pudgy, but not fat by a long stretch) and by the time I was THREE I had body image issues.  I'm sure he thought it was cute, and I'm sure he didn't really think I was fat at all, but that's what I took away from it as a child.

Court0026

That is upsetting in so many ways.  UGH. 

exhausted_bride

tifanico:

And thats how my mom destroyed my self confidence when I was a kid.

Me too. He has no idea what he's doing to her. That's emotionally abusive. I would have to say something if they were in my house.

Kentuckychick_8201

Thats a very shitty thing to say.  If I was his wife I would be so pissed.  He is really screwing up his daughters self confidence.