DH and baby

RusticBrideNH

i know it must be very strange to know that you are about to become a parent and not FEEL anything. we feel the baby move, feel the pain, the aches that come with pregnancy. DH has felt the baby kick a few times and i know that he is excited to be a dad but lately he's been sort of distracted every time i tell him the baby is moving. he doesn't get as nearly excited as i do. it sort of bothers me. he just seems very removed from it. i'm sure i'm being super sensitive and hormonal but does anyone have the same feelings?

manda_mullins

I'm kind of in the same situation.

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The first couple of months DH was really into everything. Learning about the baby's development, eager to be able to feel the kicks etc.

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Since then he's lost ALL interest. He says he can't wait to be a Dad, but when I tell him the baby's kicking or something he doesn't wanna put his backberry down to feel it. He doesn't even know how far along I am.

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It hurts me but I try to understand that to him it's hard to be as excited or for it to be as real. Plus I'm sure he's scared shiitless and trying not to show it. ?

newyoungmama

::breathes sigh of relief::?

I am SO glad others are going through the same thing I am. DH is just very disconnected. Its been really trying for me. He shows almost no emotion towards it at all and Im just hoping that maybe once I start showing more, and we find out the sex, etc. that he may become more excited :?

rmarruffo

It wasnt until after we found out the sex that DH was more "into" it. He admitted beforehand that it really hadnt sunk in since we didnt know what it was yet, also his fear that it was a girl. He said he was more comfortable with the fact that its a boy, better understand what to do with him?!?! Since then, he plays with the baby when he gets home, and Im even asleep most of the time! I also dont have to tell him to talk to the baby either, hes doing it more on his own.