I think my friend may have an eating disorder...or at least an unhealthy obsession.

mamarazzi

She's gone all crazy about nutrition and working out.  I'm all about being excited about getting in shape, but it's ALL she talks about.  Seriously.  She obsesses about every.single.thing. she puts in her mouth (she called me four days before DS's birthday party to see what we were serving so she could "make arrangements") and I really think she may have exercise bulimia (any time she "splurges" in the slightest, she gets all freaked out and has to work out right away).  She lost 13lbs in like two weeks and has lost even more since. 

Do I say something to her?  If so, what?

~Kat~

That is awful. I probably wouldn't say anything, but that's just because I'm not confrontational. You probably should say something, but I don't know what.

Bellisimo

Sounds like it to me.  That's sad.  It's usually so obvious and I think they honestly think no one notices.  As for saying something to her about it, I don't know what I'd do in that situation.  I guess it depends on how good of friends we were.  I'd probably talk to her though.

cbidt*sgirl

i agree with the 1st poster "i'm concerned about you" is a good opener.  be prepared for her to blow it off or be defensive and have a few examples of why you are concerned.  I'd also be prepared with names/numbers of therapists so you can say "here are some people you could talk to in case you want help."

mlkbride03

It seriously sounds like we have the same friend. I think it depends on your relationship and what kind of personality she has as to how you can approach it. ?It is such a touchy subject. I did confront my friend- we are quite close, and I feel like I can be pretty honest with her. I have confronted her several times about it. I told her she no longer looks healthy, I am worried about her. I have told her she needs to eat more.I have joked about stealing her scale. When she talks to me about food, I do not condone her behavior at all- when she tells me she lost pounds, I give her unapproving raised eyebrows. ?Lots of people have confronted her, but she needs to come to terms with it on her own. Nothing we have said has really sunk in enough for her to change yet. ?I would not say these things to all of my friends, though... I think it is safe to discuss your concerns, and let her know you care about her.

HasteTheDay

That's tough. I think I would ask her lots of questions about her "weight loss plan" so that you know exactly where she's coming from. That might help clarify her behavior and help you decide how to address it. Maybe she doesn't realize she's overdoing it. Or maybe she doesn't know what it looks like to lose weight in a healthy way! You could tell her that you're proud of her motivation, but are concerned about the amount of weight she's lost.... I'd try to stay positive and, like the other poster said, try not to "diagnose" her by using those kinds of words. That might turn her off right away. ?

That's all I've got! I hope that helps! ?

P.G.&A.M.

I've had a few friends like that. If you do decide to talk to her know she may deny she has a problem even if she really does.

annak23

Has something happened with her lately that is causing this sudden obession that she's trying to "gain control" of? Exercise can be a very addicting obesssion when you start to lose weight like that. Was she bigger to begin with (does she have the weight to lose)?