Feel bad about my friend...

M+K=3

I have a friend who has been trying to have a baby for years. She and her husband underwent several attempts at invitro and suffered two miscarriages. And now she's pregnant again. I was so overjoyed to hear that she was and that this time it was naturally. But, she sent me a note saying she can't do much and is on bed rest. I feel totally conflicted because here I was selfishly excited that we were going through this at the same time (she's due two days before me) and I feel ok besides my occasional prayer to the porcelain gods in the morning and she's on bed rest. I know there's nothing I can do. But, I just wish her experience could be less difficult. So much fairy/baby dust to my girlfriend and her hubby!

ashleyvc1

Honestly you should go over and try to spend some time with her "gushing" about your pregnancies.  I am sure she is completely bored and scared/nervous so it may lift her spirits more than you could know.  I would see if she is up for painting nails together and going through baby magazines, etc. 

rommelea

It's a tough situation - that's for sure.  Maybe one weekend you could go over with some good magazines, girl movies and her favorite foods and kick her DH out of the house and just spend the weekend in bed with her.  It would probably be nice for her DH to have a break from taking care of everything she needs, and I'm sure she'd love the girl time.  You two could spend some time talking about babies and being excited together. 

lennonlover

That is very sweet to feel bad for her...but she is probably so thrilled to be pregnant that she is just fine with being on bedrest.  Just be happy for her, because I am sure she is!!!

us+1

pp's have some stellar ideas.

i say plan an at home girls day and treat her!

volleydiva

I went through a lot to get pregnant too, thank goodness the acupuncture/natural pills worked for me because we couldn't afford the in vitro, but I had a hard time being around my friends who were pregnant while I was trying so hard and some of the girls who I had coached in volleyball got pregnant "by accident" and it really stung even though they were like kids to me.  I would just do the best you can for her, why not take over some food and have a picnic in her bed and watch a movie, might cheer her up and you guys can spend some time gabbing about the pregnancies! 

b.heather

Take over some movies, maybe a pizza and some non-alcoholic margaritas and have a "bed-rest party" with her. I'm sure she'd welcome the company :-)

alicia023

I think you should also go over there an spend time with her. It is nice to have someone other than DH to talk about preg. stuff.  I hope this baby sticks and she makes it thru..  I don't think I could make it on bed rest!

chyscottbaby

I understand how you feel, but as long as her baby comes out healthy that is all that matters. Sure she is having a really tuff time so try and be supportive and try and spend time with her. Just think your children will be super close in age and you will get to share that time with her.