It's over

Mrs.Johnson

We got a call from our agent last night.  The birthmom has changed her mind.  She's had 4 abortions and her doctor told her this will be her last baby.  She decided she cannot give him/her up.  This still doesn't change the fact that she has no job, 2 other kids, has a warrant for her arrest, etc.  Overall we lost about $2500 on this failed adoption.  DH and I are taking off from work tomorrow to go out of town for the day to just get away.  We have to decide what to do next.  I guess it is a blessing in disguise that we didn't find out the gender.

I'm sorry but I may have to take a little break from this board.  I just need to clear my head and figure out what we're going to do.  Thanks for all your advice, support, help, etc. over the past few months.  I hope I can come to a decision and be back with ya'll soon.

love_ya_babe

I'm so sorry to hear this. I can't imagine what y'all are feeling. Definitely take some time to be together, just the two of you. I'll be keeping y'all in my thoughts and prayers.

jacksjerseygirl

I'm sorry. Take care of you.

I know that this isn't going to make you feel better right now but someone (who went through three matches, two failures, and became parents all over the course of three months) told me: if the match fails that means that was not the child that was meant .. and it had to happen so that the child you were meant to parent could find you When that child finds you and you them, you'll know that you could have never lived without them in your life.

joeandkristie

Take care of you first.  The right child will find you and you will know that your life was never the same before.  I am sorry for your loss but cling to each other and take it one day at a time.

itsmyangel

I"m sorry.....you will be a wonderful parent someday...the right baby just has to find you

iluvhimso

I'm so sorry this has happened to you and DH.  Take care and you will be in my prayers.

candm

I'm so sorry. I can't imagine your heartache. I hope you and your DH are able to have a nice weekend and can be a comfort to each other.

BeachJenn

So sorry for your loss. Wishing you peace with you circumstances.

Honeydew1894

I am so very sorry. My heart is breaking for you. I will keep you in my prayers.

MyColonyNJ

I am sorry that this has happened.  The right child is out there. 

{{HUGS}}

Temp206787500007404

I'm so sorry lady.  (((HUGS)))

Art Teacher

I'm so sorry.

kirstenw05

So, so sorry. Take all the time you need.  We will all be thinking of you and supporting you virtually.

TTCgradstud

I am so sorry for your loss.  Even if you aren't here we will be thinking of you and hoping you and DH find peace and decide what is best for your family. 

Capricornbaby80

I am so very sorry that this happened to you and your DH. It must really hurt. Taking time out to just get away and enjoy each other is a great idea. I hope that you can move past this very painful time soon. Thinking of you

Lana 

 

lovemymonkey

oh no, I'm so so sorry. :-(  ((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))

BurkeJax

I am so sorry to hear about that. I wish you all the best.

galbraith2be

I'm so so sorry... hugs

Dr.Loretta

I'm so sorry. Take your time and take care of yourself and your husband.

MrsA2Be

I am truly sorry.  I hope the time away with your DH is helpful - take whatever time you need and grieve this loss however you need to.  We'll be here for you if you need support or when/if you are ready to return.  {{hugs}}

Dragonfly_Bride

I'm so sorry.

Amy720

I'm so sorry.  My DH and I have been through this.  We were matched with a birth mother for about 2 months when things started going south.  The adoption fell through and we felt like we'd lost a family member.  The PP were right....God has chosen the baby for you and when the time is right you will have that baby in your arms.  I know it's tough to think of that right now.  I know that Ben is the one that God chose for us.  I don't know why we had to go through 2 IVF's, 2 miscarriages and a failed adoption to get him, but God does and that's all that matters.

Take Care and know you're in my thoughts and prayers!

karalee402

Oh my goodness, I am so sorry.  Take such good care of yourself - the pain of a disruption is so great.  We had a similar situation prior to adopting Lily.  We'll miss you while you're gone and will be thinking of you!

NH2006

I am so sorry...take some time for yourself. (((hugs)))

MrsMike0527

I am so so sorry.  I'll be keeping you in my T & Ps.  Best of luck to you.

CaptainSerious

I'm so sorry.  I wish you and your husband all the best as you grieve your loss.  You will remain in my thoughts and prayers.

silliestbunny

I am so sorry. 

Take care of yourself...

so1966

oh no!  i'm so so very sorry. (((HUGS))))

517butterfly

(((hugs)))  A failed attempt is just like a loss so allow yourself to grieve if you need to.  I think its great that you and your DH are taking time to be away.  I know that it was important for MH and I to do the same after our failed attempt.  I wish you the best and hope to see you back when you feel the time is right!

BabySweetPeasMom

I am so sorry 

 Please make sure to take the time to grieve.  And have faith that your child is going to find you when the timing is right....

*Erin&Mike*

Ugh....I'm SO SORRY!  Know you are in my thoughts and prayers.  Take care of each other!

pinkwedding05

Oh sweetie, I am so sorry.  Take care of yourself.  Huge hugs.

MsBlake

I am so sorry. : (

I can't relate from a parent's perspective, but from that of an adopted child, I feel as though I am meant to have the parents I do. Your baby will find you eventually. It doesn't make this any less hard, any less sad or any less traumatic but you will be okay. Take time for yourselves. I wish you and your DH peace.

triumphantreturnofplanningbug

I'm so sorry.  Many thoughts and prayers to you as your

hearts heal from this.

mrs.trisha_nicole

I'm so sorry!  I can't imagine the mix of emotions you are feeling now.