Burnt out on the whole SAH thing

tifvolley

I'm hoping it's just the effect of a long winter and being cooped up, but I'm starting to get so stir crazy.  I'm so down about it that I'm still in my pj's and haven't brushed my teeth today (ick).  I just don't see the point if I'm not going anywhere and keep getting covered in spit-up and drool.

I know part of the problem is that I've been solely focused on DS since the day he was born.  If I'm not taking care of him, I'm on these message boards or reading up on the newest baby carrier, etc.  Also, between him teething and wanting to nurse 24/7 and DH doing stuff with his friends and hobbies, I haven't gotten a moment to myself for over 2 weeks.   

loveybear

aww, i'm so sorry you feel that way! do you have anyone (other than DH) who can watch ds for the day and let you have a "me" day? i can't tell you how much just a few hours for myself made me feel better when I was feeling like you are. maybe grab drinks with a friend, go to a movie, etc? i hope you feel better!

Miminator

Just wanted to let you know that you are not alone... at all. I'm feeling exactly the same way. And in addition, my DH goes away for work for days at a time & we moved 3hrs from our hometown for this job, so I have no family or friends close. I told DH today that I'm just having a realllly hard time right now. I can't wait for the weather to get better. Hang in there. We'll get through it!

tifvolley

I think I'm going to put DH on baby duty tonight.  I have no idea what I'd do though, money is tight so it's have to be pretty cheap or free!

Lucky_Dragonfly

yeah the weather doesn't help. You should at least take 30min when he is sleeping to go shower and change. Even if it is into another pair of sweat pants or gym pants. You will feel better. I started to go crazy after a while as well.

honeybeez

Your post describes me and makes me want to cry. I am here existing while DH is out living (working and hanging with friends). I wish that I had someone to help that didn't need to be paid. Can't afford to pay anyone to "let me out" right now. So I'm stuck in the house and it's freezing out.

Brookie-Cookie

I hear you too.  Especially with the weather so cold right now.  It was supposed to be a few degrees above freezing today and I was so excited to go outside w/ the babe but nope, it's freaking cold and snowing.  so im inside again.  we also live far from all our friends and family and my H works OOT a lot.  we also just have 1 car so I take transit which is tough with a baby for so many reasons.

punkfiction

one thing that helped me was getting a gym membership. so at least every morning i go to the gym and they go play at the gym child center for like an hr and a half. we are out of the house, i have time for me, and my kids have a blast with other kids.

samfish2bcrab

I'm making a rule that I have to leave the house for at least an hour 4 days a week.  2 days I have a Post-partum fitness class that i can go to with Lila, one day of grovery shopping and one day just walking around the mall.  Just seeing other people helps a lot.

brandonswife07

right there with ya.

i got a PT job that starts next month (i can take DS too!), and i can't freaking wait.  adult interaction, exercising, and being around more kids (but middle schoolers!), it will be fun to do what i love while still being around DS.

have you thought about this any?

my PPD was at its worst when i just never wanted to get out my pjs, get off the couch, or see/talk to anyone.  i hope you are okay.

CandyM

i feel the EXACT same way and am trying to stay positive. even if we scrounged to get someone to watch DS, i dont think id want them to.

ktorkelson

Yesterday this was totally me. DD has been so grumpy lately, she has a cold and naps like crap. Today has been so much better. I totally have days where I stay in PJs even if I do take a shower. I think all of us need to institute a couple hours to ourselves each week. I also can't wait for the weather to be nice so DD and I can go out, go for walks.

tifvolley

Honeybeez-You described exactly how I feel.  He's out living and I'm stuck here!

Brandons-I have a part-time job, but our hours were drastically cut.  I went from working 10-15 hours/ week to nothing.  I think that's part of the problem.  I didn't realize what and outlet it was! 

megs042107

i try to do the same as samfish. ?i try to run an errand every day... or at least most days of the week, just so i can get out, and DS can get some fresh air. ?it doesn't help him to be cooped up either. ?

i am longing for warmer weather so that we can just get out and walk around the block. ?definitely try to put H on baby duty tonight, even if you just take a nice long bath and read a book.... you need time for yourself.

hang in there! ?we will get through it!?

springbride0515

Whenever I get down, I remind myself why I am doing this-- not so that I am entertained and having fun necessarily, but because I believe that it is the absolute best thing for my son.  Some days are harder than others-- but it really, really helps to get up, take a shower, and make every day as productive as possible.  Make lots of to-do lists-- even if they are just full of simple things like organizing closets or painting your nails-- you'd be surprised at how functional you feel when you get them done.  Check out this website-- www.flylady.com-- it helps you get your booty in gear to get things done and take pride in yourself and your home.  Because you are  doing SO much more than existing-- you are spending invaluable time with your child and keeping your life in order for your family.  GL!

CrazeyJaneyR

Do you have a mall? I go to the mall with DD. Sometimes she freaks out and i just park the stroller in the food court and take her out and hold her. It feels good to be out and the mall is full of screaming kids, mine is just one of the many.

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Sometimes I go really early, and there are many moms just walking with their kids, before the stores even open.

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anniya77

I know how you feel! I didn't last 4 weeks at home after LO was born before I was climbing the walls. I ended up going back to work early, even after my c-section. I commend you for SAH as long as you have. I couldn't do it.

Is there a hobby, group or activity that you can join?

rynhales

I'm sorry sweets. If I was in town I would totally hang with you tonight. I have been in a hotel room for 5 days with no car if that makes you feel any better. We will hang next week and get out and about. Hang in there and take a shower, you'll feel better!

tifvolley

Hey Rynhales.  Sorry to hear you're stranded.  Hope your trip is going well otherwise!  I think I'll feel a lot better after getting out a bit tonight.