1st Trimester

For those of you who live far away from your Fam

DH and I move around a lot and our closest friends and family live far away from us right now. My mom and BFF know that I'm pg, but as far as everyone else is concerned I feel weird about telling them over the phone.

I have this fantasy of just showing up in July all fat and pg and letting them work up the nerve to ask if I'm pg.

Am I insane, or is anyone else attempting this?

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Re: For those of you who live far away from your Fam

  • i told my mom and bff over the phone cause i had no choice.

    for everyone else i sent a funny card from someecards.com, cause it is fitting with my personality. it stinks to not be able to be around them, i especially wish i had my mom and dad here for the whole 9 months. but alas, i am alone with no family anywhere near. 

     do what feels right to you. there is no  right and wrong for this

  • my closest fam is like 1200 miles away, so i get this. but your fam might be hella pissed if you're like 7 months pg. but it would be humorous. i say do it.
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  • they would probably pretend to be hella pissed, but they are also cheap asses and would love any excuse not to throw a shower.

    seriously MIL and SIL didn't attend by bridal shower. cheap hoes.

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  • I'm kinda in the same boat. ?DH and I are in New York and both families and friends are all in Texas. ?DH and I still haven't told anyone at all. ?I'm fine with it, unless someone from home calls, but DH is?dyeing?to tell his family. ?I want to wait until we hear a heartbeat. ?When we do tell, I'm planning on doing it over iChat or Skyp so I will be able to see their reaction. ?DH just wants to call his mom and dad, and a few friends.
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  • lol  I could never do that.  I'm just calling people that matter and then from there I'm sure it will spread like wildfire.  You know how that goes.
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  • haha at cheap hoes. hahaha!
  • You should spill the beans on your MySpace page.  That is what all my family does.  I won't do that, but its a good idea right?
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    lol  I could never do that.  I'm just calling people that matter and then from there I'm sure it will spread like wildfire.  You know how that goes.

    Maybe that's what bothers me, I found it creepy after we got engaged and random people were like "oh I heard you're getting married". I just don't like the idea of random people talking about me and analyzing,,, I come from a long line of snarky biznatches, as does DH so that explains a lot as well.

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    You should spill the beans on your MySpace page.  That is what all my family does.  I won't do that, but its a good idea right?

    Yeah, I would post it on my facebook, but DH's family lives so far out in the boondocks they don't have internet service, and satellite internet is really expensive. Like I said, cheap hoes.

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    lol? I could never do that.? I'm just calling people that matter and then from there I'm sure it will spread like wildfire.? You know how that goes.

    Maybe that's what bothers me, I found it creepy after we got engaged and random people were like "oh I heard you're getting married". I just don't like the idea of random people talking about me and analyzing,,, I come from a long line of snarky biznatches, as does DH so that explains a lot as well.

    This is the reason I haven't told my mom yet. ?I hate not telling her, but I'm not ready for all of Texas south of San Antonio knowing just yet.?

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  • LOL  Yeah, I have a hard time believing that it's going to stay contained even though our intentions are to tell ONLY family after our 9w ultrasound.  I'm sure some idiot will write something on my Facebook wall for all to see.  We'll just see how many hours it takes.
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  • I feel your pain.  I see my friends 1-2x per year.  Luckily I was right around 12 weeks at Christmas when I was at home and got to tell most of them in person.  For everyone else, I sent out a mass email which included distant relatives and other people I don't necessarily talk to, but would still be interested in the news.
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  • All of our family & friends live about 12 hours away.  So far only the parents know - told them over the phone.  We'll email or call everyone else in a couple weeks. 

    It does stink not being able to tell them in person.  With the last pg I happened to already have a trip home scheduled when I was just over 6 wks so I told them all then. 

    This time we won't be going home until May & they'd be really upset if I didn't tell them before that.  Gez - my gma is probably already going to be a bit upset that I've been keeping this from her - we're very close.  We just wanted to wait a bit longer this time due to the m/c.  Plus if anyone wants to try to have shower for us - that's when it'll have to be - those 3 short days we'll be home in May for my brother's h.s. graduation.

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  • My parents are in Florida and husband's mom is in Maryland (we are in Detroit, MI), so I feel your pain!  We are going to tell our parents after I find out my "exact" due date.  This is both of our parents' first grandchild so I wanted to make it really special.  I bought a couple of baby items: bathrobe with "Here comes trouble" written on it, some baby booties, a baby bib that says "What happens at Grandma stays at Grandmas", and a grandma/pa coffee mug.  I am making baskets with these items (mail it to them) and a card that asks for them to give us a call when they get the package.  I thought this was a cute idea.  Hope it helps.

  • Im doing what you are doing! except it wont be July..I am telling family and close friends now, but when I get to CO in a few weeks I am going to suprise my friends from my old work and not-so close friends! I feel weird telling anyone over the phone.
  • I told everyone over the phone. I didn't really have a choice though.
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