NTTCAL related. Am I wrong?

GenStar

Ok So I really need to know if I was wrong in doing this.  Yesterday my friend (which is pg and is having mild contractions write now)  and her husband came over with there 2 year old son.  We are really close friends.  Well there son was being a 2  year old and telling his parents no to putting his shoes on because they where leaving and he didnt want to go.  So she asked her husband to please take care of there sons behavior.  There son was laying on the floor and told his dad no again so he reaches back and slaps him across the face leaving a hand print on his check.  I flipped out on him.  I told him that was completely inappropriate to do.  And asked him if i could smack him across the face like he did his son so he would know just how hard he hit him.  I told him that i cant control what he does in his own home (even though i wish i could) but i can control what happens in mine and he is to never do that again in my house. 

I really want you to be honest with me and let me know if what I did was wrong.  I have never been so mad in my life if i didnt have self control i would have punched him in his eye for doing that.

Thanks for letting me vent and tia for any opionions on this post.

lovesinthehouse

I don't think you were wrong. I admire you for standing up for something that you firmly believe in. And honestly, if they're such good friends, you guys should be able to talk/argue about stuff like that. What was his response when you told him that? What did his wife do?

superaunt

GenStar:

so he reaches back and slaps him across the face leaving a hand print on his check.  I flipped out on him.  I told him that was completely inappropriate to do.  And asked him if i could smack him across the face like he did his son so he would know just how hard he hit him.  I told him that i cant control what he does in his own home (even though i wish i could) but i can control what happens in mine and he is to never do that again in my house. 

OMG! I cannot believe he did that and GOOD FOR YOU for saying something. Personally, I *Love* that you asked if you could smack him across the face! FFS some people suck!

GenStar

He told her he wanted to go and she told him get there son in the car and she would be out in a min and he wouldnt do it he wanted her to leave with him because he was pissed off bad.  i just texted her to see if she was mad at me. she really didnt say to much in the house i dont know what happened in the car.

luvsbunny

I don't agree with what he did but I don't think you should have said that in front of the child.

You could have called your friend the next day and told her that you don't think what he did was right, but I don't think its our place to tell people how to raise their children, even if they are extremely wrong.

shaysmom05

Kudos for standing up for the little one! I think a swat on the butt is ok when behavior is really bad, but it is NEVER EVER ok to hit a kid in the face! Let him be mad. If his wife is mad, let her be, too. Smacking a kid in the face is like letting them know it's ok to hit. Don't get me wrong, when DD is really acting up, we spank her. But not to that point. Good for you!

KristysRedBarn

I think what you did is okay.  It is your house and it was very unacceptable behavior.  I'm not sure it was good to do in front of the child, but I don't see many ways around that.  If I were you, I might follow up and let them know that you are angry about what happened and that it can't happen again.

GenStar

me and my friend are talking write now she said shes not mad at me but he is.

Luckiest03

I completely understand why you did what you did; however, i think you should have let the parents respond first and maybe not get so upset.  Unfortunately 2 year olds hit until they learn not to.  I probably would have said something like "Oh wow (childs name), that is really disappointing to me to see you hit your Daddy after he takes such good care of you"  or something  like that.  I agree that hitting is unacceptable and we try to teach my DD that.  But, like I said, 2 year olds are learning their boundaries of what they can and cannot do - they aren't necessarily mean children.

GenStar

Luckiest the dad hit the son not the son hit the dad.

Luckiest03

GenStar:

Luckiest the dad hit the son not the son hit the dad.

OMG!  I totally read that all wrong.  Ok, you were SO not out of line, I can't even believe that!!!!!!!!!!!  I am so sorry - I feel like such a moron now!

GenStar

Dont feel like a moron its ok.

texas77

i think you were right to say something to him.  but maybe you could have said something differently.  i'm sure at that moment the dad was upset with the kid (obviously) and then he was probably upset with himself for reacting so violently to his son and then you jumped on him.  everyone looses their cool from time to time...but it's not ok to slap your kid in the face. 

HisKathy

wow, slapping a kid across the face is just wrong!  Good for you standing up for what can and can't be done in your house.  Although I agree with Luvs that you probably shouldn't have said that in front of the kid, but it's hard to make those decisions in the heat of the moment.