OK-Thanks...this may be tough to follow, but I'm sure you'll get the point!
Last night we received an e-mail forward from DH's ex regarding ss. She had received an e-mail from his teacher regarding some issues in school. Basically, he is flat out lying to the teacher and other school staff about home work assignments being done, books that he needs to return, etc. He also talks too much in class and is basically overall disruptive.
SS NEVER displays this behavior when he is with us. He is lazy, but when asked to do something he will. He never, ever tlaks back to DH or myself and is great with DD. He is a beast at home according to the ex, and she can't control him. We are just waiting for him or her to ask if he can move in, although she won't give uup the support too easy so I'm sure that's what keeps her hanging on.
So, here's the part where I need help...
Her response to the teacher made my skin crawl, and I want DH to contact the teacher directly to set up a meeting so she knows we are not like her! Some of her exact quotes: He has an I don't give a *** attitude", "He is very ballsy and in my face", "He is in his room digging through the rubble to find X", and my favorite "I'm just going to forward this to his father to see if he can do anything because I can't". It is total WT.
Would you not read that and think, Now I see where he gets it? She never tells us anything about conferences, etc until after she attends them. I want to talk to her myself. I want her to know that we DO give a crap, even if his mother does not.
I would most definitely have your dh set up a meeting with the teacher and explain that you don't see that same behavior from him while he is at your house. It seems like mom's don't give a s*** attitude may have rubbed off on your ss and perhaps he is acting out when he is with her because he is unhappy. I am sure the classroom teacher would appreciate the gesture and I know if it were me I would feel better knowing that the student has a set of caring parents involved. GL with everything!
*Corrina born August 30, 2006* *Kaya born August 6, 2009*
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As his father, your dh has a right to be involved with everything school related. I've been in situations before where I had to photocopy and mail all correspondances and notices to a father who didn't live with the child.
I would defnitely schedule a meeting with her and your DH. Just let her know that you are concerned and willing to work with her. Request that all emails be sent to your H as well as his ex.
Oh, we would never do that! It's hard enough to try co-parenting when you do get along fairly well. If she thought we were criticizing her it would be awful.
Thank you all for your help. It's only going to get worse if someone doesn't try to fix it now. SS is only 12.
Re: Any teachers on?
I am a teacher/ consultant... I worked in the classroom for 5 years, so shoot!
I work with teachers.
That's lame, I know, I'm just being nosy so I thought Id try
OK-Thanks...this may be tough to follow, but I'm sure you'll get the point!
Last night we received an e-mail forward from DH's ex regarding ss. She had received an e-mail from his teacher regarding some issues in school. Basically, he is flat out lying to the teacher and other school staff about home work assignments being done, books that he needs to return, etc. He also talks too much in class and is basically overall disruptive.
SS NEVER displays this behavior when he is with us. He is lazy, but when asked to do something he will. He never, ever tlaks back to DH or myself and is great with DD. He is a beast at home according to the ex, and she can't control him. We are just waiting for him or her to ask if he can move in, although she won't give uup the support too easy so I'm sure that's what keeps her hanging on.
So, here's the part where I need help...
Her response to the teacher made my skin crawl, and I want DH to contact the teacher directly to set up a meeting so she knows we are not like her! Some of her exact quotes: He has an I don't give a *** attitude", "He is very ballsy and in my face", "He is in his room digging through the rubble to find X", and my favorite "I'm just going to forward this to his father to see if he can do anything because I can't". It is total WT.
Would you not read that and think, Now I see where he gets it? She never tells us anything about conferences, etc until after she attends them. I want to talk to her myself. I want her to know that we DO give a crap, even if his mother does not.
As his father, your dh has a right to be involved with everything school related. I've been in situations before where I had to photocopy and mail all correspondances and notices to a father who didn't live with the child.
I would defnitely schedule a meeting with her and your DH. Just let her know that you are concerned and willing to work with her. Request that all emails be sent to your H as well as his ex.
Oh, we would never do that! It's hard enough to try co-parenting when you do get along fairly well. If she thought we were criticizing her it would be awful.
Thank you all for your help. It's only going to get worse if someone doesn't try to fix it now. SS is only 12.