Another birthday dilemma...

Galena99

we're tossing up having just immediate family (my parents, DH parents, 3 of DS uncles) or a larger thing for extended family and friends.

I know DH's aunts will be upset if we don't invite them, but if we do, then we're obligated to invite all of my mom's siblings (there are 6 of them not counting my mom).  Then do we invite a few friends? Only friends with babies?  Lots of kids may overwhelm DS as they tend to steal his toys and push him.

What did you do/are you planning on doing?  Were you happy with that choice?    I just think it's unfortunate that his birthday is in February and we can't just hold it outside where it would be more manageable for larger groups. 

tinytot_924

We were in the same situation.  We were throwing around the idea of immediate family and some friends (about 30 people total) or having a large family function.  Because of space issues, we decided that it would just be immediate family.  MIL threw a FIT (she wanted her sisters there) to the point that she told DH that he was a huge disappointment to her.  WTH!  Bottom line -- if we invited DH's aunt, then we would have to invite my mom's siblings and my step-dad's siblings, and my dad's siblings.  The total for the big family shinding -- over 100 people! 

While I would love for the entire family to be there to celebrate DD's birthday, I also don't want her to be overwhelmed and I really don't feel like rent a space to have it.  Lord knows, we can't fit over 100 people in our house! 

LisiLynn

We did a playdate on Friday during the day so it was friends and their children. We invited 11 and 5 showed up. It was perfect. And we had a larger family and friends w/o children party on Saturday. Though I have to admit, Saturday was a bit much. DH and I both have 5 siblings, many of which have children, add our parents and friends and we had quite the full house. DH said next year we're having the party elsewhere like at a restaurant or something. I'm also tossing around the idea of having one party for my side of the family next year and another for his side as well as a playdate. The playdate was by far the most fun.

cess525

We just sent out invites and it was just immediate family.  If I added in my aunts and uncles and DHs aunts and uncles and grandparents and then DH's cousins would have to be invited...I am not renting a place for a first birthday not with the economy the way it is:P  So small only my siblings and his sibling and our parents.  (I asked about grandparents and DH said no since they are coming to town the following weekend)

annak23

I would keep it to immediate family.  The rest of the family will send a gift/card. 

lishalou

Our babies share the same birthday!  Anyway, I kind of have the same problem...  I wanted to just have a few people over, but I'm inviting more because I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings....  So, we're inviting apprx. 30 people....

pharmacygirl

We did a big blowout the weekend before DS birthday and had about 90 people in the backyard. Then on DS actualy bday we spent it at home with just him. We also had a videographer start video taping DS at about 4 months and she would come and tape him pediodically till his first bday. She then put together a whole video of his life to our favorite songs for him and we played that at his party. It was a big hit.  You tend to forget how little they start out and this way we got to see him grow up before our eyes. We had everyone in tears.