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MrsLeanna
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Sex poll: before and after baby(ies)
MrsLeanna
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Hale's post got me thinking. How often do you do it? Before baby and after. Is it different? Better / worse? For those Preggos - you can answer how often you do it now.
For us - it's A LOT less frequent and less spontaneous. We used to do it 3 - 4 times a week, now I'm ashamed to admit it's once a week. We also are less spontaneous. Once we're there, it's the same though.
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Re: Sex poll: before and after baby(ies)
okay....opening up here.....
before I got pregnant....almost every day. We have been together for 10 years last month and had a really fun time pre-pregnancy...
think stilleto's, and making it exciting and different.
I'm almost ashamed but since I have been pregnant it went to 2-3 times a week to now almost 1-2 a week. From first tri exhaustion to nausea to now feeling like I'm fat, huge and again tired I'm just out of it. (and I can't fit into my sexy only for home clothes...I actually told DH I wanted to start a line of clothes (thinks Frederick's or adam & eve type clothes) for pregnant people becuase one time I wanted to wanted to cry when I had to say goodbye to the bustier corset (sp?). I was maybe 4 months pregnant and it just wasn't happening.
One thing I want to add is I used to hear sex goes downhill after marriage and I think sex can get reduced but because people are having babies and pregnancy takes alot out of you and most people get married, then have a baby. Oh, and I don't believe anyone that says everything is all puppies and rainbows in that department, it's just not realistic, IMO.
LOL, I didn't do it once a week before getting pregnant!!!
I got the green light post-baby about a week and a half ago and we have only done it once so far. It didn't really hurt, either, so there is no excuse. Oh well.
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We are down to about once a week on average but there have been some stretches since having Sophia that we have gone longer due to schedules or one of us being sick, etc. Sometimes it is more making ourselves shake off our fatigue and get in the mood to do it whereas before we did it because we were in the mood. But, like Leanna, once we are in the mood its like it was before - sometimes better.
Its A LOT less spontaneous. I was all about the morning sex before the baby was born and now we never have morning sex because she gets us up before we are awake and the thought is even in our heads! I miss morning sex.
But naptime sex is not so bad either. ;-)
Mel's response got me thinking....remember lunch sex?? lol
When you would meet up for lunch just to do the deed (we used to live together before marriage so if one of us was playing sick then it was on...lol)
please tell me I wasn't the only one to do this.....that was a long long time ago.....okay...I feel old and 30 now
Hale, I wish!
Abel and I lived well more than an hour away from each other when we were dating so nope there was never lunch time sex - and then once we got married one or both of us had a crazy commute and worked no where near each other. I had plenty of friends who were able to take part in this activity, tho!
Ditto Mel!
Even though we lived together when we got married our commute to work did not make coming home at lunch time feasible.
I don't know if it was the tear or the stitches or the hormones or what, but it took at least 6 months post-baby for me to be able to have sex without pain or difficulty. We tried about once a month or so from the 6 weeks mark, and by 6 months we were back. The frequency picked back up again after that. And I'll about naptime!
you girls all need a good kick in the butt!
Our sex life is at it's best and we have replaced "lunchtime sex" with "naptime sex"!
While dating, it was whenever we visited (we lived in different states), then when we got married, it was whenever he was home sex, which was once every 3wks, to 6mos. Then, 2x's when I was pregnant, once Ayden arrived it's been a handful of times.
Since we've been visiting in FL, we had the best yet, and I can't wait to go home, he left early, and I'm still here. I miss him. My drive, is starting to pick up again.
Before preggo - about 4 times a week.
After preggo - about 2-3 times a week.
Not to bad
sigh. i really, really want to. we've only done it 2, but ok...
to be completely honest, i stress out about abby. if she's sleeping and we go into our bedroom, every little peep that comes out of her makes me want to run and check on her. it can't be much of a turn on when mid fooling around i say "do you think she's ok??"
i REALLY need to get over that. pre-baby it was a LOT and often.... and everywhere lol. (we need to do a poll on craziest places we've done it!)
for us before the wedding we used to be very spontaneous since it was whenever we could sneak it in...you know since we didn't live together still with our parents. then we got married and started TTC and spantaneous went out the window! it was all planned. then during pg every time we had sex I would go into labor so no sex allowed lol great! then sex was totally painful after angelina. it took 6 months before I enjoyed it. now with this pg I just don't want it at all!!! like I don't even want to be touched or kissed...I don't think this boy likes his daddy much! plus now with the preterm labor I'm on pelvic rest. but I've had DH on NO sex since 17 weeks...and I'm 31 weeks right now lol
anyway before this pg it was like 1x per week or 2 weeks so yes kids makes this slow things down. but not totally their fault!