TTCAL w/o 8.1

abjm0325

**This is a general trigger warning that CP, miscarriage / spontaneous abortion, selective abortion due to medical complications, and/or stillbirth may be mentioned.**

Introduce yourself and anything you think is important: number of loss(es), when you had the loss(es), diagnosis/conditions surrounding loss, etc.

Status: 

How are things going? What is something that you are struggling with and/or what is going well? 

Any testing coming up/any recent results?

Questions? 

GTKY: What is your all-time favorite dessert?

nicmkw

Introduce yourself: 1 miscarriage and a history of heat injury (1 almost heat stroke, but an EMT caught me and pulled me immediately into an ambulance, and 2 major, untreated heat exhaustion incidents)

Status: TTC

How are things going?: Sitting in the TWW and trying to focus on positives.

Meanwhile, I'm worried that my heat injuries (nearly hit heat stroke last year and the year before because of my Army work) and current heat intolerance may (anything nearing 75 is brutal) may be factoring into this. I'm actually terrified to think that might be why I miscarried, but at this point I'll never know. I was treated so badly by my last PCP re: heat concerns that I had to find a new provider at the same time I was finding an OBGYN. For the moment, there's nothing I can do about either issue and it's wearing on me. I can't actually exercise and I've been unable to be a solid coach for my cadets for months now because of the heat. Everyone understands, but this time last year I had been hospitalized because of it. (I have *never* been afraid of anything being in the Army and I was absolutely terrified of going outside for more than 5 minutes in the sun for a full two weeks. (Instant headache and symptoms returning.) I lived like a vampire on third shift and the stress of the heat intolerance this year is eating at me almost the same way.) I will say that swimming helps since I do it at 5:30 AM when it's still cool out and I'm new enough that I still have to go slow, so I can't overheat, but it's not enough. I usually handle my stress with exercise since I'm an athlete and I prefer active meditation, but all the uncertainties are hard to manage when I'm just scraping by. The fact that we're also trying to conceive in a way that lets me not mess up my Army career (timing it in between two major training events) is also crazy, since the Army situations may have done this to me, but again, nothing I can do about that now. No way to change what happened, so I move forward. ((Oh wow, I really needed to get all that off my chest... Thank you for listening.))

Any testing coming up/any recent results? I'm about 6 days out from when my cycle should start. Today's test was negative, but I know it's super early. I'll test again on the 8th.

Questions?  I've been trying to find resources that explain the science-side of happens during a first tri miscarriage and have been coming up with nothing. (All those hormones flood your system and make changes and then.... what?) Most articles I can find discuss the emotional aspect of it, but if anyone has any good resources for that I'd love to check it out. That sciency bit helps my emotions, so I figure it's worth asking here. 

GTKY: What is your all-time favorite dessert? Probably s'mores...

hestia-is-wearie

@nicmkw Those heat injuries sound so scary! Have you always had heat intolerance, or is this something that developed recently?

Introduce yourself and anything you think is important: number of loss(es), when you had the loss(es), diagnosis/conditions surrounding loss, etc.: CP last cycle

Status: WTO (still on period)

How are things going? What is something that you are struggling with and/or what is going well? I posted in the mental health thread about my general ambiguity about my CP experience. It's still weird to think about. I've heard from a few different people/sources that fertility can increase after a CP, and I hope that ends up being true for me.

Any testing coming up/any recent results? Nope

Questions? Nope

GTKY: What is your all-time favorite dessert? I will always order tiramisu if it's on the menu!

ReadyForaB

@nicmkw how scary!  I also know what it's like re: timing things.  July and August are extremely busy for me at work.  I work at a very small law firm and I genuinely do not know what they would do if I were out.  If this cycle doesn't work out (would be April due date) I really think it's possible that I might need to bench for like four months. I am trying not to think about it honestly.  I might go for one more after this then bench for three if it doesn't work out.  But that would be really pushing it and I would likely have to cut my leave short.  Ugh!

@hestia-is-wearie Love a good tiramisu!

Introduce yourself and anything you think is important: number of loss(es), when you had the loss(es), diagnosis/conditions surrounding loss, etc.  2 MMC.  One in March 2021 and one in June 2022. 

Status: TWW

How are things going? What is something that you are struggling with and/or what is going well? I have had a very stressful past couple of weeks between it being a very busy time at work and having a bit of a falling out with my sister.  I am not one to get easily stressed but I have been feeling it lately. Things are calming down at work so I am trying to work on relaxing more. 

Any testing coming up/any recent results? Nope.  

Questions? Nope

GTKY: What is your all-time favorite dessert? Bananas foster!

abjm0325

@nicmkw That heat intolerance sounds so scary. Are you doing any testing or anything to try to figure out what's going on?

@hestia-is-wearie I didn't get the chance to respond on the mental health thread yet, but sending you lots of hugs. I think sometimes the unknown is its own kind of awful. We will support you however you need to think, talk, or process last cycle. 

@ReadyForaB I'm sorry for all the stress you're feeling and the possibility of needing to be benched that is coming up. Sending you hugs.

abjm0325

Introduce yourself and anything you think is important: number of loss(es), when you had the loss(es), diagnosis/conditions surrounding loss, etc. MC at 8 weeks in Aug. 2021 and CP in Dec. 2021

Status: TWW

How are things going? What is something that you are struggling with and/or what is going well? Work has been stressful and life in general has just been full of changes this fall. None particularly bad, but change is always exhausting to me. I am trying to get back on track with running and knitting (I have a scarf that has been half finished for like a year) to hopefully interject some more normal. 

Any testing coming up/any recent results? Nope

Questions? Nope

GTKY: What is your all-time favorite dessert? Creme brulee!

wunderkai

@nicmkw Heat illness sounds scary! Hoping you recover quickly.  In terms of 1st tri miscarriages I've been reading up on progesterone...I've now talked to 3 people who have had multiple miscarriages and after a progesterone RX once they got a PPT they had a healthy baby.  I'm not a Dr, but I'm hoping to find out more info about it at my next appointment.  

@hestia-is-wearie crossing my fingers fertility increases after a CP...I'm in the same boat with ya there.  We had tiramisu as our wedding dessert! I love it also!

@ReadyForaB ohh yum! Banana's foster is one dessert I have yet to try and make myself.  Maybe that will be my next cooking adventure. 

@abjm0325 I agree, change is exhausting.  Hopefully you can get into a good routine soon.    


Introduce yourself and anything you think is important: number of loss(es), when you had the loss(es), diagnosis/conditions surrounding loss, etc. MMC at 8W in January, 2022. CP at 5W in July 2022

Status: WTO

How are things going? What is something that you are struggling with and/or what is going well? Feeling better about moving forward and trying again after my last CP.  Of course the day I found out I was having a CP my friend sent me a picture of a PPT for her 3rd.   I told her about my CP, and she was supportive and just told me to keep trying.  Still though, it was a little ouchie.  I feel hopeful though.  

Any testing coming up/any recent results? Dr. appt Aug 11th.  

Questions? natm

GTKY: What is your all-time favorite dessert? hmmm...French Silk Pie for me!

nicmkw

Thank you for the kind words, everyone. Following up with my new primary care provider should help get me on a path to taking care of it better.

@hestia-is-wearie This constant heat intolerance is new this year, but last year was brutal. I do know that when fall hits it will be much easier, so there is that. It's possible I have an endocrine or thyroid issue, but I'm a lawyer not a doctor so I'll let them figure that out. My last PCP didn't take me seriously at all and just could not comprehend why I would push so hard in the heat. (I'm in the Army maybe, fueling helicopters in 100 degree heat, maybe?) I should have left them last year, tbh. 

@ReadyForaB As far as I can tell, being out of office as a lawyer is actually easier for moms than dads. It's a small office, but they should be able to shift work or maybe temp-hire a younger atty who wants experience in your field while you're on leave. (An actual, paid internship to help keep everyone's files moving.) I know they've done that for us. 

@abjm0325 All of my knitting friends remind themselves that knitting is actually crafting and making art. So it's not that they're trying to finish something, it's that they need to go back to their art. We can't make good art all the time, so when you do get back to it, let it be a celebration of being artistic again? Maybe that can help motivate you? (As for running, all it takes is two weeks to set your pattern and then you'll be back in the swing of it. I love to exercise because i feel so good afterwards, but I will dread it going in, every time. haha)

@wunderkai - That is rough, finding out like that.