TWW Tuesday - 4/21

kpearse99

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asf0613

Month/Cycle: 4/3

CD/DPO: 19/5

Timing: -5, -1, +2

Typical LP length: unsure

Testing: holding off as long as possible

R/R: went grocery shopping for DH's parents yesterday (they're in their 70s and wisely staying home).  store was pretty much empty (food/people) but i got what they needed and a few things for us as well.  so that was my big outing of the week!  as my rant, working from home is so challenging.  my team that i lead isn't used to it and i had a client complain to me that one of my girls was being a little sloppy with some data/scheduling.  its tough because i understand its hard to be working alone from home but also there isn't so much going on and taking an extra minute to double check details isn't a lot to ask.  i just have a hard time giving the criticism (the client went over her head to reach out to me), so i'm brainstorming the best way to give it constructively.

CS/Q:next month i'm definitely going to try out FF (god willing i wont be here but in the event i am).  i think it would be helpful to have that temp cover line, and i know i have to be better about temping at a more consistent time.  I've been doing it within an hour of "waking" but sometimes i toss and turn for a bit rather than when i actually open my eyes for the first time. i do feel good about our timing though!

inthewoods23

@asf0613 WFH is certainly different. Would it help if you do a weekly check in with each person that you lead to make sure things aren't slipping to much? I know we can't expect the same productivity as when everyone is in the office though.

Month/Cycle: month 34

CD/DPO: 46/6 or 4

Timing: Either 0,+1,+3 or -2,-1,+1

Typical LP length: 13 days

Testing: Maybe May 1st?

R/R: DH and I got in a fight this morning. So my mood is pretty sour. I have an appointment with my OB tomorrow to get the lump checked and my next therapy appointment tomorrow evening. I started reading a book, The Highly Sensitive Person. Still struggling on that topic. It's hard to always be misunderstood even though this trait is quite common (15-20%).

CS/Q: My temps keep going down every day. I guess I shouldn't be surprised if this cycle is really wonky!

ashaislurking

@asf0613 Sounds like your team is having a really rough time with the WFH transition right now. I think acknowledging with your team members that yes this is a difficult time for everyone but we still all need to make a reasonable effort to keep things running smoothly will help them see that you're feeling what they're feeling and while you're not expecting 100% productivity things do still need to get done.
@inthewoods23 I'm sorry that you're struggling right now. Are there any little things you can do between now and your therapy appointment to re-center (crafting, baking, soaking in the tub, meditation, yoga, etc.). Hang in there my friend. All of this is temporary. I'm here if you need to chat.

Month/Cycle: 5/5 (3 unbenched)
CD/DPO: 26/9
Timing: -3, -1, 0
Typical LP length: 14 days
Testing: WFAF
R/R: Logged into my online course forum this morning to check out the course assignments for the week. Turns out my ethics professor isn't all that fond of cats and said "you're a bad kitty" to his cat several times during his video for the week. It was honestly pretty hilarious and a much needed break from writing my ethics paper for my drug and alcohol counseling class. I'm about halfway done with this paper and it's just so boring and dry that I'm beyond done with it at this point. I just want to be done with the class. Fingers crossed I'm able to submit the rest of my assignments for it today.
CS/Q: Not temping during the TWW this time

krash_

@asf0613 we have been having twice weekly huddles as a team and we all have to go over our list of current projects/to do's and where we are and if we need help. I have found it good to keep me accountable so I can report out that I have made progress each meeting. It keeps me from procrastinating and then rushing and making mistakes. It might be good to address it as a team and not single her out. We are all trying to balance a lot right now so mistakes and delays should be expected but not habitually. 
@inthewoods23 sorry about the fight with YH. It is particularly tough right now because you have to see them right away and can't go off to work to have your own space but I also think it has helped us address issues right away and not let stuff stew. 
@ashaislurking I wish the cat would have made an appearance! That would have been hilarious!

Month/Cycle: 5/5

CD/DPO: 17/2

Timing: -4, -2, -1, 0, & 1

Typical LP length: 13 days

Testing: waiting til 5/1

R/R: went and got a car wash today and stopped at Caribou for a drink. It was a nice treat and good to get out of the house. It's amazing how dirty the car gets just sitting in the driveway. I think all the pollen is collecting on it. Rant - I took my DHA prenatal this morning, I don't take it all the time but thought I would for this TWW and I have been burping sushi all morning 

CS/Q: nothing exciting 

asf0613

@inthewoods23 sorry about YH.  hopefully you have something to occupy your mind from that and the appointment tomorrow. do you find that DH doesnt understand your sensitivity? might have to give him some homework and have him read along
@ashaislurking i love when pets make appearances on video calls! good luck finishing your paper!
@krash_ ugh i need a car wash too!  however its torrentially downpouring here today so that will help a little.  ha to google Caribou we dont have those by us.  how do you find it compares to dunkin/starbucks?

inthewoods23

@asf0613 No, he definitely doesn't understand. He doesn't understand anyone being emotional. Like there are better things to be done with emotional energy than crying and being upset. I can probably count on 1 hand how many times I've seen him cry too.

@krash_ well at least the cars can get spruced up.... unlike us because all the salons and spas are closed! lol

@ashaislurking I'm not sure what I can do. I tend to feel down for a long period of time. Like I won't want to accomplish anything for the rest of the day because it was really hurtful to me. And trying to talk to DH about it is like talking to a wall, he absorbs none of it.

asf0613

@inthewoods23 im sorry to hear that.  it is tough when someone processes things completely differently than you do, and with no real space right now to let it simmer down correctly.  if YH is like mine, within a day he completely moves on from arguing (even though id prefer to talk it out).

ashaislurking

@krash_ the cat totally made an appearance. It was glorious. Sorry about the sushi burps, but I'm glad you got some self-care and car-care in today!
@asf0613 I managed to finish both of my papers and my final exam for that class. Now I just need to wait for my grades. Fingers crossed! I'm so glad to be done.
@inthewoods23 I'm so sorry you don't have someone there to listen in an empathetic way. That definitely makes it hard, and struggling to bounce back from things that are hurtful is definitely difficult to deal with. I'm sending you lots of virtual love!

inthewoods23

@asf0613 we are actually okay now, and were by lunchtime. My gesture of pomegranate black tea with milk seemed to help, even though he asked if the hot water had been poisoned . I think he's starting to be a little more understanding though because 1, I'm trying to be more communicative about my issues, problems, and emotions and 2, I'm finally in therapy - even though he was against it at first! At some point I hope to have him join me because I think we need a mediator to get us to where we really need to be with supporting each other's needs.

@ashaislurking thanks!