Hi, I hope you are all well. Like most of you who have been trying for some time, BFN every month is taking a toll psychologically - feelings of confusion, dashed dreams and failure, and I hoped reaching out might help. I am turning 36 next month and we have been trying continuously for 9 months. I haven’t used any hormonal contraception in 8 years. We had one chemical pregnancy after 6 months, which was very sad and has made the sight of blood every month, when AF arrives, all the more painful. We have had some tests done and basically seems ok, though egg reserve is on the normal-low side. There is no real history in my family of trouble conceiving, which makes this all more confusing and, dare I say, makes me feel ashamed. How do you “relax” and stay positive, yet keep trying, while dealing with the disappointment every month... I hope this is an appropriate post here.