FFFC 2/21

emeraldduchess

Ok ladies, let's hear those confessions! *Not guaranteed to be flame-free.

mvt2003

Ok, here we go. 

I'm secretly delighted that the BMBs are also getting hit with drive-bys - I feel like we've gotten most of them on a regular basis in the past, spreading them around just feels more fair.   

gingermama29

@mvt2003 I (most of the time) love when drive bys happen because I love the level of sarcasm and snark that comes out in everyone. 

emeraldduchess

Ok, here's mine. When DH and I first got married, we used to watch WWE every week. Flame away.

 

mvt2003

@emeraldduchess MH watches all of the pay per views still - not a weekly watcher unless something big is happening. I follow along (and watched Total Divas). Aaaaand this year for Christmas I got him tickets to see Smackdown next week! (He's saying we're not going if I get a positive beta because he won't want me in a crowd or exposed to germs.) 

legallykate

@emeraldduchess @mvt2003 MH watches alllll the WWE shows, it's like 6-8 hours a week and I totally judge him for it but it also gives me time to watch my shows (most of which are not exactly highbrow) so I just judge silently lol. We also went to NXT when they came to town a few years ago as a gift to him. 

emeraldduchess

@mvt2003 I gave DH tickets to an event 10 years ago (Degeneration X was fighting so I couldn't NOT take him). It was definitely an interesting experience. The REALLY hardcore fans are like a whole subculture I didn't know existed. They show up wearing replica belts and everything. 
@legallykate DH will tune in occasionally if he recognizes some of the characters. I always enjoy the shocked look on my students' faces when they find out I know who John Cena is and can name some of his finishing moves. Ha!

keikilove

I had a great confession at the beginning of the week that I wanted to save till today. Now I can’t remember.😩

inthewoods23

@keikilove saaaame. I had a good GTKY idea that I wrote a note for in my phone so I wouldn't forget it because I've forgotten so many of my ideas over the months. Once the afternoon hits I figure it's too late to get good discussion if it's started when half the day is over.


FFFC - Everytime I notice a siggy that shows ages like 5+ years apart I'm always like how TF did you meet because I don't hang out with people more than 5 years my senior (excluding robotics student's parents). Then again it's not like I regularly go out to the bars and meet people. I'm such a homebody.

krystrist2014

@inthewoods23 I wonder the same thing except my threshold is 10+ years. 

Maybe this is my FFFC.... but MH is 7.5 years older than me and we met..... wait for it..... on MySpace! 🤣🤣🤣🤣 that also basically tells you how long we’ve been together because if someone else told me they met that way I’d assume that wouldn’t last cuz it’s so random and weird. Lmao. At the time, he was living in NM and I was living in Halifax, NS Canada (was in my first year of university). We were long distance for the majority of the first 5 years of our relationship. Somehow we managed to make it work despite many many bumps in the road. 

inthewoods23

@krystrist2014 yeah 5 years really isn't too bad. Creeping up on 10 year age gap is a little 😬 to me depending on when the relationship started.

My side eye of age gaps like that probably comes from reading too many Reddit relationship posts where the girl is barely 20 and she's dating a 30+ year old and sometimes it comes out that she's probably the side piece for him 😬😬

bserena

Oops... my husband and I have a big age gap... lol! It works for us but I also do see tons of age gap relationships that probably shouldn't be one, so I understand.

inthewoods23

@bserena haha no worries! It certainly can work for some couples! I'm part of the I met my husband in high school and have been dating since college boat so it's hard for me to fathom meeting and becoming interested in someone much older or younger than me.

And what's that weird equation? The acceptable age range for dating is twice your age minus 7 years or half your age plus 7 years? 😆

dobiemom11

@inthewoods23.  Yes the golden math of dating.  I can't even imaging dating someone half my age plus 7.  My DH and I have been dating since high school and I am so glad.  

spinnylinny

@bserena  same here! 

@inthewoods23 my hubby and I are almost 13 years apart  😬 hahah. It sounds cringey but it works for us. We have been together for 10 years and were totally that 20 something + 30 something couple that sounded weird If you didn’t know we were friends first... 

He was the bartender at my local corner bar, I used to get off work late and we would Have a drink and chat as he was closing up most nights. I remember when our friendship started to seem like something more—  my mom said something to the effect of “just go on a date with the guy... you don’t have to marry him!”...  Whoops! 

Honestly at this point I forget my age...

I do totally agree though that not every couple with a big age gap should be a thing...  

ashaislurking

DH and I are 22 years apart but we were friends for a few years before we started dating and we were both DEFINITELY adults. It's not at all strange to us, but I effectively had to cut off half of my family because they treated DH like shit because of his age. 

keikilove

@spinnylinny MH and I are also 12 years apart, which I thought was gross until I found myself in the situation haha. We were introduced by a mutual friend at a social event. MH looks & acts much younger than his age—some people thought I was ‘robbing the cradle’.🙄 The only time I notice the age difference is when he mentions a TV show or movie that was ‘before my time’. 

Before him the biggest age gap I experienced was when I was 25 and my boyfriend was 34. I broke up with him because he seemed sooo old & boring😆. Now I realize it was just his personality and that 34 isn’t actually old. 

inthewoods23

Had to treat DH like a toddler this morning after he resisted my request for him to empty our dishwasher and fill it with what is on the counter.

You want your damn bacon and eggs for breakfast? Clear that shit off the counter so I actually have room 🙄

What a man-child

dobiemom11

@inthewoods23. I feel you today.  Walked into the kitchen and there was an empty ice cream container on the stove.  When I went to throw it away, the trash was full.  So why didnt the guy who ate the ice cream handle it?  My guess is he was in his boxers and didn't want to take the trash out.  

inthewoods23

@dobiemom11 always a battle. Late yesterday he also left a soda can on the counter. What was a foot below that? The f*cking garbage/recycle bins. Like really?? You can set it down, but can't spend the 2 seconds to open the damn garbage to actually dispose of it? I don't even understand where he gets this. Probably doesn't help that he never lived on his own to learn to clean up his own messes.

dobiemom11

@inthewoods23. I was talking with my therapist about this.  My DH will gladly help if you ask him for it, but just doesn't seem to "see" problems.  Like it doesn't seem to cross his mind that the reason the dishes are piling up is that the dishwasher needs to be emptied.  But since I am currently working part time, I am trying to take care of more of the house stuff.  The dishwasher is my nemesis though.  I think of our conversation a few weeks ago about how two people can make a whole load of dishes a day every single time I unload it.  But it does make me thankful for this group Everytime.