UO Thursday 10/24

emeraldduchess

Let's hear those UOs, ladies!

NYTino24

I think it’s perfectly acceptable to eat breakfast foods for every meal. Diners rock for this reason. BUT eggs over easy are gross.

tyrion_

I have one but it’s about parents. I was inspired by @b_1029’s coworker. I’m scared because it’s unpopular for sure 😬

kpearse99

@tyrion_ just say it 😂 

@NYTino24 I agree about eggs over easy 🤢 

mine is..... I only eat half of an Oreo cookie... the side that gets the cream. Then I throw out the other plain cookie side (all while feeling bad for the half i am throwing away!)🤷🏻‍♀️ 

tyrion_

***TW parents mentioned***

Why should a parent have a hard time getting to a 9am meeting? In general I can’t stand tardiness. Being a parent doesn’t excuse you. Yea something crazy or out of the norm can happen. But that goes for literally any human. Just don’t be late. Parent or not. 

emeraldduchess

In keeping with the food theme, I like the green apple Skittles more than the lime ones. Flame away. 

millpe

@tyrion_ not unpopular with me... I didn't even know people started work that late... I judge anyone who shows up after 8am. Today I'm judging myself and think I'm running late because I got to work at 8 (but I'm also switching time zones later so really its 7 where I will be working).

mvt2003

I know it's cheesy and corny but I live for the Hallmark Christmas movies. I made it a goal to watch all of the new ones last season, and I'm doing it again this season. I have the app to check them off as I watch!  

krystrist2014

@tyrion_ response under spoiler since topic is parenthood.

I agree with you! I’m a parent and yes, having a child presents some complications but everyone has their own issues and complications. Some people have high maintenance pets, health/medical issues, mental health complications, and then just every day life stuff that can come up. While these things make people late occasionally, you don’t get a pass to be consistently late. 

tyrion_

@krystrist2014 yes! That reminded me that my old pup was diabetic and got insulin shots twice daily. We took her to my mom’s house everyday for “camp grandma” in case she had any sort of blood sugar related issues while we were at work. 

Everyone has stuff going on. No one set of people get a pass. Drives me nuts. 

ruby696

*lurking*

@tyrion_ In spoiler because LC

I'm a parent and I manage to get to work on time (early actually) every single day. People who can't, probably didn't get to work on time before they had kids and now they just have an excuse. 

gingermama29

@tyrion_ TW: LC

I agree. If I'm running late, 99% of the time it's because I couldn't get my lazy butt out of bed, or DH is taking forever to get ready. My DD is rarely the reason I don't get out the door on time. 

That being said, I hate being late and strive hard to be early or on time.

b_1029

@tyrion_ totally agree!!!! Like, my mornings are a breeze just because I don’t have a kid? Shit can happen to anyone. 

@millpe I usually get to work around 9 but no one in my department is usually there before 8:30 so I’ve just been trained haha 

@mvt2003 ME TOO!!! Even though I hate Christmas before Halloween / thanksgiving, I may start watching some when DH is on a business trip next week lol. They’re my guilty pleasure for sure 

Also... whipped cream is a gross, useless topping 

kmalls

@tyrion_

TW:LC

Are you talking about being late to one 9am meeting? Or late to ALL 9am meetings? Because while I don’t believe parents should get a blanket pass to be late every single day, I would hope co-workers could give some grace on a single instance here and there. This is the battle working parents are constantly facing: parent as if you don’t work, work as if you don’t parent. If a kid falls and scrapes a knee on the mad dash to the car in the morning, sometimes you have to pause and give some comfort. And if that makes a person a little late? I mean...I guess I’d be ok with that. 

tyrion_

@kmalls I’m all for giving grace when it happens once in a blue moon...for everyone, not just parents. 

kmalls

@tyrion_ gotcha. I would be unhappy in any work environment where a parent being late is ok but anyone else is reprimanded. 

tyrion_

@kmalls I worked in that environment and it was such BS. It also was super unfair for holiday scheduling. It was a hospital so we “rotated” holidays. Guess who got preferential treatment? 

kmalls

@tyrion_ ughhh that’s such crap and would totally breed so much resentment. Management needs to be better than that. I’m sorry you experienced that. 

swizzlemalarkey

Even though I do love a fresh bouquet of flowers, I also like how they look when they die. Especially when it’s Halloween time. 

I agree with all of the opinions of parents who work and take advantage of the fact that they’re parents.

My manager told me one of our employees said that we wouldn’t understand what it’s like because we don’t have kids (I WISH I heard her say that) she was mad we wouldn’t let her leave early when we were slammed because she needed to go pick up her kids without finding coverage for her shift. 

kmalls

@konoha: response below! TW: talk of working parents.

Edit: shit, my spoiler didn’t work and now TB ate the response. I’m just gonna move on

b_1029

@tyrion_ my department definitely gives preferential treatment to those with kids. Really busy around the holidays and there’s PTO/ leave early constraints? Somehow all the people with kids are able to be off when they need to. They let people with kids log off right at 4:30- 5 during busy times because they have to get home to spend time with their families....right, just because some of us are childless/single, we must not have anything better to do. It pisses me off to no end. 

charmedlifex3

So another take on the kid / late thing. Lc tw

Lc mentioned

Before I had my son I didn’t *do* mornings. I still don’t, but now someone is jumping on me at 5 am yelling about how it’s not darked anymore and he’s hungy. Makes getting to that 9 am meeting a lot easier than when it was just me and the cat. 

NYTino24

TW: kid

Trust me, I understand the whole people without kids have different expectations. My boss voluntold me to read at Barnes and Noble Night at 8 pm or wanted me to go to the 7 pm chorus concert because other people who had kids needed to be home. I have a long commute and didn’t get home until 9:30. It’s not fair sometimes, BUT as for getting to work in the morning.... 

It is much harder for me to get to work early because of several things:
1) RE appointments are 5:30-7:30 and days like today they have 65 people coming in. I can’t get there until 7 because my son’s daycare doesn’t open until 6:30. I cannot take him to appointments. 
2) I have a commute that ranges from 45 - 90 minutes depending on weather, time of day, sun glare, day of week, construction, etc. An accident on one of the 5 highways or several side roads I take can easily make it 2 hours. 
3) My husband does shift work plus landscaping and isn’t home when we wake up 5 days a week. Others have partners who travel for work.  Some people, like my sister, have to do 3 different drop off locations for her kids in the morning and she’s a single mom. Her daughter has ADD and needs monitoring to get ready for school even though she’s 15 and her son has Down Syndrome with GI issues so he isn’t fully potty trained yet even though he’s 4.5, meaning she’s still changing diapers. 
4) Some people have stomach issues like IBS that attack, especially after eating and especially in the morning when they are stressed. Other medical issues for themselves or others include needing asthma treatments, insulin adjustments, and for kids like a former student whose two siblings also have muscular dystrophy, assistance getting dressed and in and out of a wheelchair, bed, toilet, shower, changing colostomy bag, etc. Other people have elderly parents who need to get to adult daycare or Alzheimer’s day programs. 

Not saying any of these are excuses to be late all of the time, but you never know the challenges others are facing, whether temporary or permanent. 

babyodo

I'm in the military and all of the times I (a childless person) have had to cover work for those with kids would be infuriating enough to make your hair curl. What's worse is we get reviewed annually and even though I've done far more work (and with fewer errors), they say that "everyone gets marked on the same scale" so those people look stellar even though they do less/lower quality work. And what's worse is if I'm more than fifteen minutes late for work, I am expected to stay late or come in on the weekend to make up for lost time. I don't see that happening for those who use their kids as an excuse for being late. Literally, not even once.

I get it. Life happens, kids happen, people are late. But when others are having to pick up the slack for repeated failures to either show up on time or provide valid reasons for chronic absenteeism, then maybe this isn't the career for you. 

That's just my two cents.

NYTino24

Snapchat is annoying. I don’t have time to look at them before they expire half the time. I turn off alerts and yet I get alerts. Doesn’t make sense.