TW Tuesday!

miss.sally

Share them here friends. I know we all have a TW or two!

miss.sally

I started this thread selfishly to vent. 

My TW today is MIL. I woke up at 2:30 with DS and never went back to sleep, needless to say I feel like death. So anyways MIL called me to ask a question, and asked what was wrong because I must also sound like death. Her response? “Oh been there done that” like ok. I know we have all had nights without sleep but would it KILL you to just say sorry first? I’m pregnant and hormonal and trying to keep my toddler alive and happy and I’m not effing allowed caffeine so I’m basically a scary monster right now and can’t handle MIL and her rude-ness. She’s like that all the time. Loves complaining about her ailments but has no room to hear about anyone else’s. Grr. Ok vent over. 

treetop19

@miss.sally,  unsympathetic people suck.  sorry your mil is being such a TW!

varimama

@miss.sally I hate when people are like that or worse when people try to top everything and make it so their life is so much harder. It’s not a contest, just say sorry that sucks and move on! 

varimama

Mine is technically from Sunday but why do fun kid events turn into madhouses? We went to boo at the zoo and we got there early and it was ok but by the time we left an hour and half later it was insane. People were parking on medians and we had like 6 people trying to claim our parking spot before DS was even out of his stroller. Plus DS only wanted to go down the slide and look at a blow up T-Rex so DH and I were like well next year we’re just going to Home Depot to look at blow ups and a playground 🤣

jenEP

Mine is my MIL, who I actually get along with very well but sometimes she drives me nuts. She really wants this baby to have the same initials as DH. The baby is getting DH's middle and last name (I have a different last name), so I don't think baby needs his initials as well. Anyway, she thew out the name Ezekiel nn Zeke a few weeks ago. It's a perfectly fine name, but we already have two other names we love, and I don't want another E name (DH's and DD2's start with E). Yesterday, when I showed her the ultrasound pic, she kept saying, "oh, baby Zeke" and another annoying things. I said, "just so you know that name is completely off the table and we will not be naming him Zeke," to which she responded, "well I am going to call him that until he comes out then." She has ZERO opinions on the girls' names, so I don't know why she chose this baby to dig her heels in about. 

stassischroeder

@miss.sally the appropriate response would have been "man that sucks. Let me come watch your kids so you can nap"  What a cow!

@varimama agreed. I'm lucky that we live in a state with minimal population numbers, but kids events are still nuts.

@jenEP I want to slap your MIL. You're very brave to even involve her in the naming process. 

EmilyLove25

@jenEP OMFG that would enrage me. It's HIS child... why the heck does it need to have his initials? BTW DD and DS both have E names, so I am conflicted but likely trying to avoid E names as well haha.

@miss.sally Ugh. You have ALL my sympathy. A 2:30 wake up is insane... I can handle wake ups with newborns because I know what I am getting into and I design life during those times to work around it. Toddler MOTN wake ups are HARD. So hard. Hope you get a nap. 

mrsvp614

@miss.sally @jenEP MILs can be the worst sometimes! 

Mine is work related. Last week, I finally moved to a "normal" schedule, after more than 5 years on my shift that started at 2am. I'm #3 in management and #1 promoted me. #2 was against me moving to the new schedule, and totally sees me as a threat to hear job, although I'd prefer us working in peace and harmony together until she decides to retire in a few years. Well this morning, apparently #2 told #1 that she thinks I should go back to mornings. Ummm, no. She tells me to my face, "it's so nice having you on this shift," and "you're making such a difference already," but then runs to the boss saying things like this.

EmilyLove25

@mrsvp614 Ew. I like legit hate #2. 

treetop19

@jenEP, that is so weird your MIL is digging in her heels on this LO - for some reason it seems like people get more fanatical with 'passing on' names with boys than with girls.  my sis ended up naming her DS after her DH because it was 'tradition' in his family, even though she didn't really want to at first.
@varimama, definitely agree. big crowds just ruin events like that.  IDK why cities/towns don't schedule more events for little kids, or at least have the ones they do have be longer running... then maybe they'd be less crowded and more enjoyable.
@mrsvp614, two-faced (and jealous) coworkers are the worst!  hope yours retires soon...

silverhope

@mrsvp614 what a jerk. I hated having coworkers that were threatened and therefore trying to sabotage me. I'm just trying to do my job and go home. Bleh.

I'm so paranoid IRL people I know stalk this board so I'm gonna have to woosah my TWs instead of venting ha. 

kagesstarshroom

@mrsvp614 Boo to #2! That kind of 2-facedness sucks.

@jenEP This makes me GLAD my in-laws seemingly don't care about us (neither have visited for the now over 4 years we've lived here--in fact, NO ONE from DH's family has.) bc I would just have to straight up be like, please stop talking to my womb with your preferred name for our child, as that is OUR decision not yrs, lady. And that might cause some drama haha.

My TW is the stalled process that is me keeping my assistantship this spring. I was told it's in the works to get me signed up for online training & I should expect an email from this person, but basically I've heard nothing since I floated the idea except "we could probably swing that." Like, this is my life and livlihood--I need some affirmatives and some action. I hate feeling like it could just not happen--though, if they tried to be like "oops, sorry" I would throw a fit and make sure I was able to get paid/graduate in the spring. I just... don't want to have to do that-- I want things to run efficiently.

EmilyLove25

@kagesstarshroom Ugh that would cause me anxiety. I hope it works out and you get an answer/clarity sooner rather than later. How will it work with maternity leave? I always wondered that with graduate degrees and assistantships.

kantobean

I’m boring and my TW is just this damn cold! 

H was being kind of a TW this morning, but he sent me a text apology, so we’re good.

silverhope

@kagesstarshroom that really sucks. I would probably be nudging and asking about it once a week, but I guess being up their butt might also backfire. 

kagesstarshroom

@EmilyLove25 lolll yeah no i get no maternity leave as a grad student. but i am going to teach at least one online class and maybe be someone's "assistant" who won't really need me to do much? and like-- i will probably just be an easy teacher/not the best teacher next semester. i won a freaking award for being the best teacher last year so i'm not worried about having one "off" semester. 

Update: someone got in touch with me like an hour after i wrote this. so things are kind of in motion. but like, i still haven't heard about some other things i need to hear about, but at least there is some progress!

Malidocious

@miss.sally Ugh, I hate when people act that way.  Just commiserate with me over my own bad time and move on... no need to add anything else or be a b*tch about it!!

@varimama One-uppers are the literal worst!!  And kid events turn into chaos EVERY time, so quickly!  I took my 3 year old nephew to this amazing Jack O'Lantern festival last Friday and it was wall-to-wall people, with half of the parents not even watching their little ones in the pitch black darkness.  It was a mad house!  I was ready to leave immediately because it takes the fun out of everything.

@jenEP Omg your MIL refusing to accept that you aren't going to name the baby the name she wants is out of control annoying!

@mrsvp614 Ohhh this makes my blood boil!  I seriously dislike #2.  What a snake!  Two-faced people are the worst, and it's especially shitty in the workplace because you can't get away from them.

@kagesstarshroom Oh I hate when things are up in the air and not set in stone.  I like knowing what is going to happen and I really appreciate having all of my ducks in a row, so when people make that difficult, it's so annoying.  I'd be like @silverhope... asking about it frequently until they do something.  But I guess that could be problematic if you annoy them.  But grr!!  

@kantobean I'm glad he sent an apology text! 

Malidocious

@kagesstarshroom Oops I just saw your update!  Glad they're slowly getting back to you!