TFAS W/O 5/13

kbrown2385

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What number are you trying for? 
Month/Cycle? 
WTO/TWW? 
Ages of other child(ren)? 
Any thoughts about this cycle? 
Any questions? 
Rant/Rave/Brag: 
GTKY: What did you want to be when you grew up?

mrsvp614

What number are you trying for? 2
Month/Cycle? 5/5
WTO/TWW? WTO 
Ages of other child(ren)? 20 months 
Any thoughts about this cycle? Not yet, but focusing to nail our timing this time (no pun intended)
Any questions? Nope
Rant/Rave/Brag: Rave: We had a great mother's day weekend! DH knows I love sentimental gifts and never really does anything like that. But this time around, he got DS and I matching hats that say "mama" and "babe," and a sweet, personalized book called "My Mom is My Superhero." It was the best!
GTKY: What did you want to be when you grew up? Besides a princess? Lol. Since 4th grade I wanted to be a meteorologist, after a local TV guy came to our class. I stuck with it through college, but during my internship, I shifted into producing for TV instead. That's what I do now! 

varimama

What number are you trying for? 2
Month/Cycle? 1/1
WTO/TWW? WTO
Ages of other child(ren)? DS is 2
Any thoughts about this cycle? Just trying not to expect anything since we’re just starting this journey again
Any questions? Not right now
Rant/Rave/Brag: My cousin just asked DS to be ring-bearer in her wedding and I’m so excited. Though a littler nervous as idk what he’s going to do. He’s gonna look so cute though!
GTKY: What did you want to be when you grew up? So many things: vet, archeologist, starship captain... I became a semiconductor engineer and now I stay home with my son though lol

NYTino24

My phone is not letting my paste for some reason!!

Trying for THB #2. Month/cycle 6, WTO.

Not a good weekend, and then DS had a rough morning. Add in being late to work because someone spun out on the parkway ramp plus the OB office not returning either of my two calls after they called me on Friday = I’m a mess over here. I’m worried it’s my pap results, but hoping that the RE just requested my paperwork. I spent two hours doing their online paperwork and mandatory education courses. Luckily I knew all of it from TB and TCOYF... let’s hope the rest of the day is better. I’m praying that my earring shows up and DH not only washes, dries, and folds the laundry but also that he can get a free part to fix the vacuum. I’m also praying we don’t get water in the basement. Come on, good mojo!!

shamrocandroll

@MrsVP614 Woah a TV producer!?  That is such a cool job!!!

@varimama I'm an engineer as well!  I work in an industry that uses semiconductors (specifically IGBTs), but I mostly just break them, as I'm a reliability engineer. 

@NYTino24 Wow, that's a lot!  I hope your day turns around ASAP!  

shamrocandroll

What number are you trying for? THB #2

Month/Cycle? 10/1AL

WTO/TWW? TWW

Ages of other child(ren)? Just officially turned 2.5! 

Any thoughts about this cycle?  Mostly just confused.  BFN on Saturday, but my boobs are killing me and I'm SSing.

Any questions? Nah.

Rant/Rave/Brag: I'm feeling kind of guilty because when I was PG with DS 3 years ago, I officially announced on social media on Mother's Day.  **TW: loss

Now that I've been through 2 losses, I realize how triggering that is for some people and I feel terrible that I may have caused some people some pain by doing that.  Cue the guilt trip.  

GTKY: What did you want to be when you grew up?  I thought about being a veterinarian, but I don't do well with blood and guts, plus I couldn't handle not being able to save all the animals.  I ended up being an engineer.

kpearse99

Morning ladies!!  Happy Mother's Day to all of you, I hope you all had a great day with your little ones and that they made you feel as special as you truly are!

@MrsVP614 I saw those books advertised on facebook, they are super sweet and sentimental! What a wonderful gift

@varimama omg my DS was a ring bearer when he was 3 and it was the cutest and sweetest thing seeing him in a little tux!  You're gonna love it and bring tissues because it will make your mind rush forward 25 years or so and you'll start thinking of the day your DS gets married!!

@NYTino24 goodness, girl!!  I'm sending positive thoughts and vibes your way for your day to turn around!

@shamrocandroll I'm sorry about the BFN but try and give yourself some slack, mama... you're body is still normalizing it's self after your loss so your hormones are gonna do all sorts of things right now.

What number are you trying for? THB # 2

Month/Cycle? 8 / 6 (AL)

WTO/TWW? TWW

Ages of other child(ren)? almost 7...waaaah!!

Any thoughts about this cycle? Trying not to think about it while remaining optimistic and hopeful! My boobs have started to hurt a bit but I'm doing my best not to get overly excited about it!

Any questions? Nope

Rant/Rave/Brag: Had a really nice mother's day yesterday!  Got a cute little mama bear book and tickets to see Sara Bareilles in concert in November, so I'm so excited for that!  Also had a really nice weekend with DH as DS was with his father Friday and Saturday night so we were able to get some solid dates in.

GTKY: What did you want to be when you grew up? A dancer for awhile and then in high school it changed to wanting to be a teacher.  Went to college for teaching, graduated with a dual cert to teach elementary and early childhood education but didn't end up doing that.  I'm a trainer now (which isn't too off of my teaching degree) and I get to still fulfill my teaching dream with teaching dance on the weekends!

mercury94

What number are you trying for? 2

Month/Cycle? 5/3

WTO/TWW? Definitely AnO CD 28

Ages of other child(ren)? 19 months

Any thoughts about this cycle? Starting Provera this week. Starting Clomid on CD5, so feeling hopeful for next cycle. This one can go away now. 

Any questions? Nope

Rant/Rave/Brag: Rave: Decent Mother’s Day. I got new glasses, which I’ve been meaning to do for like a year. I really like them. Plus, I can actually see. DS has started say poo poo shortly before he poops, so we’re thinking it might be time to discuss potty training. 

GTKY: What did you want to be when you grew up? A lot of different things, but mostly a writer (romance novelist). When I was in kindergarten, my paperwork home said “not a lawyer.” Any guesses what I do now? Yep, totally a lawyer. 5yo me would be so disappointed. 

I’ll come back for tags. 

bows22

What number are you trying for? 2

Month/Cycle? 6

WTO/TWW? TWW

Ages of other child(ren)? 17 months 

Any thoughts about this cycle? I think we had decent timing despite being away from each other for some of my usual FW so I’m more hopeful than I thought I would be. Probably too hopeful. 

Any questions? 

Rant/Rave/Brag: DD was in children’s hospital sat night-Sunday for her asthma but she was fine the whole time so it really wasn’t that bad. The room we were in was on the same floor as the NICU where we spent 2 months and it was oddly comforting to walk past and think about how far we have come and how much more confident I am dealing with the doctors and her medical issues now.

GTKY: I always wanted to be teacher, I think just because I loved school and my teachers so much. By the time I was in high school I figured out that I would never have the patience for that!

shamrocandroll

@bows22 Oh no!  Im glad your DD is doing okay!  Asthma can be so scary!  Let me know if you ever need to talk about it.  DS has virus-induced asthma.

m6agua

What number are you trying for? 2
Month/Cycle? 2/2
WTO/TWW? TWW
Ages of other child(ren)? 2.5
Any thoughts about this cycle?  We had really terrible timing so I am positive this cycle will be a bust, but I am ok with that since were are taking a more relaxed/NTNP approach right now.
Any questions? Nope
Rant/Rave/Brag: I woke up to the garage cleaned out and the dishes done! It was so nice. DH worked all day yesterday so it was just me and DD until he was home for bedtime.
GTKY: What did you want to be when you grew up? I never remember from when I was really young, I will have to ask my mom sometime. I knew I wanted to be a graphic designer after taking a class freshman year of high school and that is what I do now.

flinstone-2

I have been gone a long time just out of self pity and frustration, but lurking and cheering everyone on.. 

MrsVP614 that’s funny, I wanted to be a meteorologist too! I went into production management for remote tv broadcasts with major sporting networks until I had DS. I miss TV. 

@nytino24 whoosh what a start to the week. I hope it gets better!

@mercury94 I can’t wait to hear about your clomid experience this time around. 

@bows22 I hope your DD is doing better!

What number are you trying for? 2
Month/Cycle? 5/3
WTO/TWW? No clue
Ages of other child(ren)? 19 months 

Any thoughts about this cycle? I don't know what's going on right now.. I got a positive OPK and O pain to indicate O, plus a temp rise, but it shot down at 2dpo and went back up 3dpo (today) however, we traveled over the weekend and I'm not sure if I can trust my temps.

Any questions? I got a positive pregmate OPK and a negative wondfo from the same pee.. adding in travel I haev no idea if I can trust my charts. This is my first unmedicated cycle after two failed letrozole cycles.. so I don't eve know if my body can ovulate on its own.. I think the only thing to do is keep temping until it's clear? Anyone have thoughts on the varying OPKS? Is the best option to go get a 7dpo progesterone test with all the factors? 

Rant/Rave/Brag: At least with all the did I O or not O I have the RE followup on Thursday. I'm hoping to have a clear answer for ovulation by then so I know if I should start provera or wait to see if I can get a BFP.. 

GTKY: What did you want to be when you grew up? A broadcast meteorologist or TV host of some kind... then just ended up working behind the scenes in TV and let my college broadcast days on regional cable be enough. 

puppylove8910

What number are you trying for? 2

Month/Cycle? 2/1 AL

WTO/TWW? WTO 

Ages of other child(ren)? 2

Any thoughts about this cycle? We opted to do EOD this cycle + Digital OPK to confirm my peak. So I guess we sort of ended up doing the SMEP. I got my Peak reading this morning so I suspect O will be tomorrow. FX! No real thoughts except I'm just grateful I keep O'ing from my left side (I don't have a right tube). I don't seem to alternate months like I used to before my DS was born. 

Any questions? Silly question, but if I O tomorrow does it really make a difference HIO in the AM vs PM? As long as we hit this evening?

Rant/Rave/Brag: Mother's Day is officially my favorite day of the year. All the cute creations my DS came home with last week made everything worth it. I just love him so much! 

GTKY: What did you want to be when you grew up? A doctor. 

mercury94

@MrsVP614 That book sounds amazing. Good for your H for finding great gifts for you. 

@varimama Your S is going to be such a cute ring bearer. 

@NYTino24 Wow. Hope your day turned around. 

@shamrocandroll So sorry about the BFN. The SSing can be so cruel.

@kpearse99 So glad you had a nice weekend and got dates in with your H. 

@bows22 Hope your D is doing better. That is so scary. 

@flinstone-2 I missed you. Glad you’re back. I’m so sorry that you felt that way. This process is such a brat down. As for dealing with questions on if you O, I totally get you. I fool myself every cycle into thinking I O’d due to CM or O pain or both. It’s frustrating and painful because it always hits so hard when I finally confirm that I didn’t O. Honestly, I think it’s my body trying and failing to O, but I don’t know. I usually wait until I’m sure I didn’t O before starting Provera. Sometimes I take an HPT to be certain. Hope you get some good guidance from your RE to help you out going forward. 

kpearse99

@flinstone-2 you're not alone in having to step back for a bit due to self-pity and gathering your thoughts.  I've been a little MIA too... sending you hugs!

@puppylove8910 I don't think it matters if you HIO in the AM or PM tomorrow... if you are HIO tonight though I would probably wait to do it again tomorrow night so that there's more opportunity for sperm to build up more.  If that makes sense?

puppylove8910

Yes, it definitely makes sense. Thank you @kpearse99!

@bows22 I'm glad your DD is doing much better! That must have been so scary.

@shamrocandroll I'm sorry for your BFN. The end of the TWW is genuinely the worst part of the whole cycle! The SSing that goes on can make any sane person go crazy. Hang in there!

bows22

The drop down isn’t coming up for tags so not sure if these are going to work...

@mrsvp614 those Mother’s Day gifts are so sweet! I’m glad you had a nice day 

@varimama that’s so exciting about DS being a ring bearer. I hope DD gets to be a flower girl someday. I never got to when I was little and it was a tragedy for my younger self haha

@nytino24 wow you are really having a day. I hope you have some resolutions now 

@shamrocandroll thank you! I will probably take you up on that. I struggled this year with putting anything on social media for Mother’s Day for the reasons you mentioned. It wasn’t something I thought about before this group but I’m glad to know better now. 

@kpearse99 very jealous of your Sara Bareilles tickets! I saw her when she was in waitress on broadway and it was so awesome, I would love to see her in concert. Off to google if she’s coming near me...

@mercury94 5 year old you’s incorrect prediction is hilarious haha - I also laughed your “plus I can actually see” comment - always a bonus!

@m6agua if I woke up to the garage cleaned out I would maybe die of happiness. That’s awesome!

@flintstone-2 no clue on the varying OPKs but I did have fallback rises like you described several times when I was temping so maybe your temps are OK?

@puppylove8910 I’m curious to see others answers to your question. On the cycle I got PG with DD we HIO on the morning of O day so I’ve been curious if morning is better 

m6agua

@MrsVP614 I'm glad you had a great weekend and DH was thoughtful with your gifts.
@varimama My nephew was about that age when he was ring bearer at my wedding, his mom ended up having to help walk him down because he was too shy. It was still cute though.
@NYTino24 I hope your day has gotten better!
@shamrocandroll I think our kids are both November babies, mine was on the 20th. They are growing up so fast!
@kpearse99 That is an awesome gift!
@mercury94 That is a good sign that he is saying when he poops!
@bows22 I hope your daughter is doing better.
@flinstone-2 I hope you get some answers at your appointment.

NYTino24

Not good news, guys. Mild inflammation, but I do need a culposcopy. I’m not benched, but boy am I feeling down today. They also said that it isn’t a reason for the TTC struggle. I have to take another half day off in addition to the full day off for the RE. Scheduling sucks around here. It took NINE calls throughout the day to get through to someone. It isn’t making me feel that confident about switching to their office, although the staff has been much nicer than my previous office. If the highway is any indication, our basement is probably flooded...

kpearse99

@bows22 I hope she's playing in your area too!  Also, so sorry to hear about DD and the hospital visit but I am relieved that she's doing well and on the mend!

@NYTino24 on no, I hate that you are feeling down on your luck lately, you certainly deserve some good things to start happening.  It's crazy it's taking you to call all those times just to get someone on the other end of the phone, that's absurd actually!  I'm sending you as many positive vibes as I have!

shamrocandroll

@bows22 I still post about it, but I'm also sure to post something that recognizes people who struggle with the holiday.  I think moms still deserve to be recognized, but I also try to be more sensitive to others now that I know.

@m6agua I remember you from N16.  I think you came over to the private group, but then didn't come over to FB with us.  It's great to see you again!  Maybe we'll end up in the same BMB again.  DS is Nov. 11. 

@NYTino24 Ugh, I am so sorry you're going through all of this.  I've had a culposcopy and tissue sample done before (11ish years ago now) and it isn't pleasant, but it's a quick and pretty minor procedure.  I hope it goes smoothly and things turn around for you soon!  And also hope your basement isn't flooded!!!

puppylove8910

@NYTino24 I am so sorry you're feeling down today. I, too, have had a culposcopy (9 years ago). I agree with @shamrocandroll that it isn't a pleasant procedure, BUT it is quick. Call your OB to see if Advil is allowed beforehand. If yes, then definitely take some an hour before the procedure. I did this with my HSG and it helped a lot! 

flinstone-2

mercury94  thanks! it really makes me wonder if I have PCOS even though before DS I had pretty normal cycles. I know some people get regulated after a baby, maybe I went the opposite direction. 
bows22  yes, that's what i'm hoping for.. a fallback rise. I've never had one before so I'll take it! Temping gives me so much anxiety to get my hopes up and then have them shattered at like 6am. 
@NYTino24 I'm so sorry about your news! FX that things look up from here .
kpearse99 thank you, I hope you are doing ok and hanging in there!!

NYTino24

Thanks @shamrocandroll @puppylove8910! I also had one 12 years ago and luckily it wasn’t too bad. Basement hasn’t flooded, but we have two more rainy days to go...

@MrsVP614 Sounds like some great gifts!

@flinstone-2 You aren’t alone, friend. Hoping that O becomes clear and / or that you can move onto the next cycle soon if it isn’t the one.

@m6agua Sorry for the crappy timing. It’s so tough.

mercury94

@NYTino24 So sorry about the culposcopy.  I had one about 5 years ago. Not my favorite day, but not the worst thing I’ve done either. Glad your basement is holding up. Hope it stays dry. 

m6agua

@shamrocandroll yup, I was in the private group and never moved over to FB. I am still friends with a handful of women from the N16 group.

madcouplewithabox

@NYTino24 glad the basement isn’t flooding. It’s been crazy here as well with rain. One of our main bridges is shut down because of damage. FX things start looking up for you and sorry things are so sucky right now. 

@MrsVP614 those sound like such sweet gifts❤️

What number are you trying for? 2
Month/Cycle? 6
WTO/TWW? TWW
Ages of other child? Almost 16 months
Any thoughts about this cycle? Just trying to not really think of it much this month. 
Any questions? Nah
Rant/Rave/Brag: DD has been sick. First with a temp then congestion. Because of it she’s been nursing like 5 times as much as normal. I not sure how much more either of us can take. 
GTKY: What did you want to be when you grew up? a judge, a vet, lawyer. I was kind of all over the place lol

mrsvp614

Wow! Glad to see so many TFAS ladies moving onto BMBs!

@varimama Love that your DS is going to be a ring bearer! So cute! When my cousin was around that age, he was the ring bearer in his dad's wedding. He thought he got to wear a "bear" costume, and was so confused when they put his tux on him. Ha!

@NYTino24 Thinking of you and sending some positive vibes your way!

@shamrocandroll Don't feel guilty about previous social media posts. It's definitely good to have the perspective that this group has given me, but I also think that everyone deserves a chance to celebrate when it's their time. ETA: Major sore boobs were my first sign of pregnancy, so fingers crossed that your BFN was just too early.

@kpearse99 Awesome Mother's Day gifts! I love that you get to teach dance! I wish I had more opportunity to do that.

@mercury94 I'm also wondering if I should start trying potty training with DS. I may discuss with his daycare, since they'll have a heavy hand in it. 

@bows22 Scary about DD, but glad she's doing better. It's good that you have those feelings about the NICU. I still have really strong anxiety surrounding DS's NICU experience.

@flinstone-2 It's funny, because I'm looking to get out of TV, but I know when that day comes, there will be things I miss about it.

bows22

@madcouplewithabox your poor DD and poor you too! I hope she feels better soon

@MrsVP614 I definitely still feel anxiety. We have to go back to the hospital a lot for appointments and I have to give myself a pep talk each time. But over time it has gotten better. I hope it does for you too❤️

mrsvp614

@bows22 That's good to know. I've changed my OB who delivers at a different hospital with a better NICU, just in case, for this next time around. I also haven't gone back to the hospital where we delivered DS. When 2 friends had babies there last year, I couldn't bring myself to visit there. DH had to do a video shoot in the same NICU and said it was really hard. I realize I'm lucky that all is well now, but it's tough to face all those feelings again. 

bows22

@MrsVP614 we were in our children’s hospital’s NICU because DD needed surgery so I have been forced to go back a ton of times because the specialists she sees all have clinics there. So that probably has helped me move past it. Also I think that now that we are TFAS some of that anxiety has transferred to, will I even know what I’m doing in the newborn stage since DD didn’t come home until she was 2 months old, etc. So maybe I just have anxiety about different things now haha. 

I’m glad though that you changed OBs though. I’m sure it will be better having a totally different experience this time around. And obviously hopefully you won’t need a NICU stay but it will be good to have a better NICU too. 

varimama

Sorry I didn’t make it back for tags yesterday like I planned!

@MrsVP614 those are such sweet gifts! That is too funny he thought he was going to wear a bear costume! I can totally see DS being disappointed he wasn’t going to be a bear 😂 

@NYTino24 you need to catch a break so bad! I really hope today goes well and your basement stays dry!

@shamrocandroll that’s so cool you’re an engineer who works with semiconductors too! I was a photolithography process engineer so I mostly worked with the fab on the processing end. Sometimes I miss it but I love being home and I didn’t like the last company I was working for. Also I’m sorry about the BFN and SSing is so hard. 

@kpearse99 oh man you’re right I’m gonna cry so hard, I already cry at weddings! But Ive already decided I’m freezing DS as he is now and he’ll stay with me forever bc I can do that right? 😭 Also your concert sounds awesome, what a great gift! 

@mercury94 sorry about this cycle, hope it’s over for you soon. You are way ahead of us with Potty training. My son is 26 months and he has no desire to use the potty yet. We haven’t decided when we’re going to try and push for it. We tried a few months ago and it was awful bc he wasn’t close to ready. 

@bows22 I’m so sorry you guys were in the hospital with your DD, hope she’s doing a lot better now. I also didn’t get to be a flower girl and it was so sad to me growing up so I’m glad DS gets to experience this!

@m6agua waking up to dishes done and garage cleaned sounds awesome! I have no clue how he’s going to act but the bride is pretty chill and says she doesn’t care if he doesn’t want to walk when it comes time. I’ll be standing up front as I’m a bridesmaid so I bet he’ll come down to stand with me though. 

@flinstone-2 I hope it was just travel that screwed up temps for you, either way hope you get some good answers Thursday 

@puppylove8910 I hope morning vs night doesn’t matter bc we can pretty much only do night now as DS ends up in bed with us every morning. 

@madcouplewithabox sorry your DD has been sick, it’s so hard when they don’t feel good. Hope she’s feeling better really soon! 

flinstone-2

Temps plummeted today... so definitely think my body geared up and never actually ovulated. UGHHHHH. 

mrsvp614

Sorry @flinstone-2

varimama

So sorry @flinstone-2

shamrocandroll

@flinstone-2 Ugh, I'm sorry.  FX for a quick reset and a normal cycle next!

Update:  Definitely still negative.  I had a stomach virus (or something) yesterday, and slept for like 10 hours without peeing, so my FMU was definitely concentrated this morning and still a stark while BFN.  Ah well.  I can't say I am surprised this cycle.  Looking forward to the next one!

bows22

Ugh @flinstone-2 and @shamrocandroll I’m so sorry 

kpearse99

@flinstone-2 and @shamrocandroll sending you both creepy internet hugs

m6agua

@varimama that’s good that she is chill. It’s still adorable even if they don’t walk themselves.

mercury94

@flinstone-2 I’m so sorry. It sucks. It is so frustrating when your body doesn’t cooperate. I hope the RE can help you. Do you know when you’re starting Clomid? 

@shamrocandroll So sorry. Hugs. 

varimama

I’m so sorry @shamrocandroll *hugs*

@m6agua aww so cute! That’s the fun part about ring bearer and flower girl, The are pretty much cute regardless of what the do!