GTKY Friday 4/12

b_1029

let’s get mushy today- how did you and your SO meet? Was it love at first sight?

b_1029

We went to the same university and knew who the other was but never really met. He was in the accounting program with one of my best friends so I had heard the name a lot, tbh she had a huge crush on him in college. I did briefly meet him once when he came back for homecoming (I did an extra semester because of switching majors) and I took a picture of him and said friend. I only remember because he had one of those intense slings on where you can’t move your arm at all after he had shoulder surgery. 

Fast forward 2 years and that same mutual friend came to visit me in Chicago for St. Patrick’s Day. She wanted to meet up with him since he apparently lived there (turns out he went to IU for grad school and his company recruited him from there haha), so we went to his apartment, and it turned out that he lived a mile-ish down the street from me. We all hung out all day and went out that night, and we ended up drunkenly making out that night (such romance). Our mutual friend told us she’d de friend us if we didn’t become friends so we started hanging as friends- DH said it was always more for him but I was actually “talking” to someone at the time. That guy came to visit and I realized what a front I was putting on around him as opposed to DH and that’s when the feelings started developing on my end. We had gone out to eat before just the two of us but for some reason, we both felt like one particular meal was our “first date” even though neither of us talked about it till a couple months later. And here we are! 

Eta clarification and also sorry for the novel

kbrown2385

We were set up. Dh worked with the guy and I worked with his wife. We met at a party at their house. Dh was clueless I was flirting with him and I had to take the leap and ask him out. Pretty much how our relationship has continued to go haha. Im convinced we wouldn’t be married if I didn’t flat out tell Dh we should do the thing 🤣. 

kpearse99

Oh I love this!!

We met at work... he actually interviewed me and then hired me and then was my boss  I always thought he was cute but I certainly never thought he would ever go for someone like me. That first year there I was going through a divorce... *TW* 

and figuring my life out as a single parent

*End TW*
A year later I was settled into my new routine and really happy with where my life was at. It was at that point that I started to pick up that maybe he liked me... I noticed he was complimenting me on my work more or asking if I needed any additional help or simply asking me how my weekend was. Just taking an interest in me and slight hints of flirting. Then it was constant talking which led to our first date. 

I knew at our first date that he was it for me and that I was going to fall hard and fast.  He tells me he knew at first sight when he was walking up to introduce himself for my interview.  He likes to say that "I knew I was in trouble from the moment I saw you sitting there waiting for your interview to start!"

A year and a half later we were engaged and 6 months after that we were married and TTC!  It's been a whirlwind of a 2.5 years but it's been the most amazing, natural and easiest thing!

whitealbum29

How is it April 12 already?

We met on okcupid! (which apparently no one uses anymore according to my single friends.) Our date was the closest I ever came to canceling a date, I was always very strict about following thru with plans and giving things a shot but I was feeling so done with dating and looking for reasons to disapprove of him before meeting him. It freaks me out now to think of how close I came to not meeting him! Phew.

We went to a play and then had tacos for dinner. There was some time to talk before the play started and it wasn't love as first sight but definitely a feeling of being really at ease with him while also thinking "crap, this is my new crush." It was clear right away that we had the same sense of humor and it was just a great several-hours-long date. I love thinking about that time!

I can't wait to read all these answers!

kpearse99

@whitealbum29 isn't it crazy to look back and think about how fate really works out?!

shamrocandroll

We met on OKCupid (in general, do not recommend), which I had joined because I had just graduated college and broke up with my BF of 6 years, and hadn't dated in my adult life.  I was just looking to get some first dates under my belt and didn't want anything serious.  We talked for about 2 or 3 weeks online before we agreed to meet up.  We met at a mall in Providence and then went to a dive-y little Irish bar together.  We had a good time, but I didn't have any intention of taking things past the first date, but he was apparently hooked at that point.  We kept chatting, and I realized I definitely liked him a lot.  He was just very real and honest and not just pretending to be the best thing since sliced bread.  We went on a second date a couple of weeks later.  Then, I was supposed to go out with a guy in Boston, but when I told him where to meet me, he told me he heard that was a scary part of the city and he didn't feel safe meeting me there (I had gone to college right near there, and it was the middle of the day, so it was completely safe), so I made up an excuse to not go out with him because I didn't want to date someone scared to meet me at a train station during the day.    I instead drove back down to RI that evening to hang out with MH, and we were pretty much inseparable from then on.

flowntheloop

I've known my husband since 7th grade/middle school. He had been home schooled up until that point, and his parents drove him in on motorcycles on the first day of school. I was absolutely in awe and told my mother "I might marry that boy one day!"

We were nerdy acquaintances all throughout school, but we didn't really become close friends until high school. I actually reached out to him via email (this was the EARLY days of the internet) when he was injured in a car accident and didn't show up to Spanish class for several days. His girlfriend at the time was a total b***h, and didn't even care that he had been injured. He didn't respond back for some time, so I assumed that he wasn't interested in talking. It turned out that he hadn't checked his emails for several weeks. Soon after he sent me a return email, we started hanging out more and more-- and I provided him a sympathetic ear when he was having girl problems. I grew extremely jealous during these times, but I was too shy to admit my feelings for him.

As time went on, we grew closer and closer-- going out to movies and hanging out all of the time. He finally worked up the courage to ask me out OFFICIALLY. I was terrified of men and relationships (grew up in an abusive household), so I actually turned him down that night!  I went home and cried the entire night (and found out that he did the same thing). I was completely torn (and regretful). Both my sister and my best friend stepped in and told me that I should not rule out a relationship with him (and that I deserved happiness).  I called him the next day and said we should hang out more. We took our time (he was quite patient with me with my history), and our love grew even greater with each day! We have been inseparable for over 20 years now!

NYTino24

We met in a coed softball league. I wished on dandelion seeds that he’d ask me out since we were friends for about 6 months. After we started dating, I would wish that he’d ask me to marry him. The rest is history!

b_1029

@kpearse99 it really is- I had never even heard of my school (in an entirely different state) and was recruited there for swimming. He almost went somewhere else for college. Crazy how everything works out!

kels0091

We met on the POF (plenty of fish) and realized immediately we had some (useless) mutual friends (who should have set us up years ago lol) 
he picked me up at my apartment but went to the wrong building so I walked a little ways. He apparently thought I wouldn’t want to see him again because of that haha. 
And then for our first date we went shopping at Costco lol. 
I knew the moment he laughed in his truck right after picking me up (at himself for getting the wrong address) that I was going to love him forever. He thought it right after haha. 
On our first date TW he told me he wants to have 3 kids and I right away explained what PCOS is and how it wouldn’t be impossible but very difficult for me to get pregnant TW. 

We like to tell the Costco story a lot because it was the best first date. Say we hated eachother, Costco is such a big crowded place, it would be easy to ditch the other person lol 

shamrocandroll

@whitealbum29 LOL, holla OKCupid buddy! 

kbrown2385

@kels0091 I love that your first date was Costco! 

whitealbum29

@shamrocandroll Haha, we survived!! Somehow.

kagesstarshroom

I was at this music festival I have been volunteering at my whole life basically, and this very handsome man kept walking by/working on stuff near the desk I worked at. I could tell which (very elite) committee he was on, so I talked to people I knew on that committee, and I was like "get that guy to talk to me." I love a good crush/obsession. Anyway, the whole festival went by and he never came over...I was sitting at my desk the last day, enjoying the sunset and last few hours of music in a melancholy way bc my crush hadn't come over to talk to me despite days of persistently trying to get people to get him to come talk to me, and I decided to stay on with the next shift in case he walked by. He did not, but a friend of mine whose family owns the festival property, was like "did you get to meet him yet?" and I was like "no," and he was like "wait here," and he brought him over! And we went for a glorious sunset walk! And it turns out we lived in the same city! And then we got married a few years later, and now I'm on his committee at the festival.

ETA: grammar, spelling!

lcking82

Freshman year of college, DH was hanging out with some of his friends (mixed girls/guys) in my dorm.  I ran down to the room they were in to grab my sorority sister for a meeting and we were introduced.  That weekend at the bar we chatted again, and then the following week he ran into me in the dining hall and we ate/studied together.  After, we sat on our school's "quad" for awhile talking, and hit it off.  He went back to his roommate and said "I don't want to be her friend!"  but then we hung out as friends for most of the semester!  But... I kept showing up at his frat parties, grabbing froyo, and eating dinner with him...until he finally asked me out on a date (to a football game).  We've been together since!

kiki047

Sorry in advance for the novel.

We volunteer at the same community organization. I've been involved since birth, his family volunteered years ago but stopped coming around then he was recruited by a mutual friend to come help with the finances about 10-11 years ago (he's a CPA). He was painfully shy, and in a small community with not a lot of younger volunteers (at least not around my age, mostly my parents age and older) of course everyone was curious who he was and where he came from. My mom and all the ladies were determined to try to set us up but he had a long term gf at the time, who he eventually married.

I didn't really notice that he was always kinda hanging around me, he volunteered to do the most mundane things with me that I usually got stuck doing because my mom was in charge. He wrung out cold, pickled cabbage for an event with my BFF and I for hours one night when nobody else wanted to do it because it was stinky and our fingers were frozen. I didn't know it at the time but that was the night he said he knew for sure that he was in love with me. He also signed up for any event he knew I might be at. I didn't think anything of it, I just thought he was a really decent guy to come out to support the community. My mom teased me for years about what a nice guy he was, why couldn't I find someone like him to marry, why was he with such a witch when he could be with me? Thanks Mom. 

Fast forward about 6-7 years, his marriage fell apart, he was in a deep dark depression (as was I), and I posted something on social media about my struggles with mental health and he reached out. We got to talking online, more than he's ever been able to say in person, and started hanging out a little bit on our own. We kept our relationship under wraps for a good 3-5 months before we came out publicly because as an intensely private person news of his divorce hadn't even gotten out yet. He had moved in with me within 3 months, we bought a house 10 months later, were engaged last November, and will be married in July! We're basically inseparable now, and the community collectively kinda just said "it's about damn time" when we finally did come out as a couple. 

whitealbum29

@shamrocandroll - Haha yeah seems like you dodged a bullet with that other wuss!

@kels0091 - LOL at your useless mutual friends and your Costco date!! You bring up a good point about Costco dates, more people should consider escape plans like that. 

brookert615

DH was actually my mechanic! I was in an awful, toxic relationship when I first met him. But since the first time I saw him I COULD NOT stop thinking about him. I would drive around my town to get miles to get oil changes. I told my mom (she also was a customer) and she would also look for his Jeep when she passed the shop and would let me know when he was there lol. About three oil changes later I dumped my ex, next day added DH on Facebook and a day after that we were seeing each other every single day! I moved in four months after that! 

keikilove

❤️These are so good! I love reading all your stories. Gives me all the feels all over again for that giddy time in a new crush/relationship.❤️

Another novel, sorry! This story shows my true solidarity with all you reality tv watchers.😆 I lived on one side of the country & my sister on the other side of the country. Each week we’d call each other to talk about the craziness that had gone down on a reality show we both watched & how the only normal person was the good-looking supportive boyfriend in the background. I’d been single almost my entire adult life, dating for fun but rarely anything serious, busy climbing the career ladder.
*TW

I’d been a single mom of one my whole adult life & thought I’d missed the window to settle with someone and have any more children. 

End TW*
One week, after a particularly crazy TV episode where the boyfriend was the only voice of reason & kindness, my sister called & said “You need to find a guy like HIM to marry!” 

A few months later my good friend asked me to host an event with him at a hot restaurant in the city; I was greeting all guests at the door and encouraging people to mingle. In walks the boyfriend from the reality show! It was instant butterflies. I learned he was no longer w his GF from the show. We bumped into each other at another event the next week & my heart skipped many beats. He cornered me, we talked for hours, had our first date the next night, & a few months later we were making family plans because my clock was seriously ticking. True to form, he’s been nothing but supportive.
*My sister told this story at our wedding & takes full credit for our paths crossing because she “put the intention out there to the universe”.

rstamets14

Hubby and I attended different churches, but the one I went to needed a new venue for our Easter production. His much larger church ended up being the one we used. He sang in the choir and they joined us in the production. 

We really didn't get to know each other during the show, but he had been looking for a new Bible study group to join and tried out the one I was attending at my church (he said it had nothing to do with me 🤣).

We ended up getting to know each other there, became friends and so on and so forth. We celebrate our 5th wedding anniversary on the 26th. 💞

As a side note, I not only met my husband because of this Easter production, but all of my bridesmaids (one being his sister), including my matron of honor as well. 😊

inthewoods23

I'm resurrecting this one since I'm finally at a computer to type it out!

I met DH in high school after I had joined the robotics program (which is the same that we currently mentor!). He was actually dating someone at the time but I majorly crushed on him. Sometime early in the summer I believe is when they broke up. As a team we all would hang out at each other's houses that summer and have bonfires so we started growing a little closer.

His birthday is at the end of July and somehow I scored getting lunch with him like, 2 or 3 days before his birthday. I think just prior to this was one of the times he drove me home from a hangout at someone's house that was just down the street from me and we did the "I like you...." "I like you too..." sort of thing. Anyway, I decided I would get him a birthday card and I got him this super awkward card that was like, from Shoebox so the front was a cartoon drawing of someone running out of a store, card in hand with like a cloud of air coming out of the doors and on the inside it says something like "somebody farted in the card aisle and this is the closest one I could grab before running out of there". Very awkward to give but he actually STILL has it!

Oh, and our lunch location? Arbys haha. So now that place holds a goofy meaning for us.

So, basically from that point on we hung out A LOT for pretty much all of August before I went back to high school and he started college. I will always remember the time he took me to the new lot his parents owned and planned on building a new how there. At the time it was just a swamp land but he had set up a tent and would occasionally sleep there. The plan was to make out in the tent but it had recently rained so things were a bit wet. I think we ended up making out in his car instead.

We didn't actually officially start dating until I got to college a year later for reasons I won't get in to because it ended up making my senior year kind of sucky. But we've been together ever since

And actually, that's a bit of a cute story because I had been crushing on another guy I had met shortly after getting to college but he rejected me so I was crying on a bench outside my dorm building and DH happen to be at the school (he commuted from home) at the time and he comforted me. I don't recall if it was night or just that weekend, but he dropped me off back at school around 5:30 in the morning and we sorta did or had done the "I still really like you" kind of thing before I got out of his car. I don't remember all the details but I told him "I want to go out with you, but you have to ask me. I won't ask you out". And so he did and we've been together ever since.

brookert615

@inthewoods23 Awwwe! That’s such a sweet story! ❤️