TWW Wednesday 4/3

emeraldduchess

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Month/Cycle: 

CD/DPO: 

Timing: 

Typical LP length: 

Testing: 

R/R:

CS/Q:

bobbyflies2020

Month/Cycle: 2/2

CD/DPO: 18/6-8 dpo

Timing: fair

Typical LP length: 14 days

Testing: probably tomorrow and Friday

R/R: I tested super early, got a bfn but won't officially throw in the towel until AF comes.

I plan on massively decluttering the house today. The plan is to hire someone to do a deep clean and then begin thinking about repainting our interior. There is a lot that needs to be done to this old house.

CS/Q: nope

holly321

Month/Cycle: 27/4 A/L

CD/DPO: 17/2?

Timing:  great

Typical LP length: 15 days

Testing: next week.  I just got 50 tests, so.......

R/R:  not much going on today.  I am just sitting in my car avoiding going in to work.....

CS/Q:

flowntheloop

Month/Cycle: 1/1

CD/DPO: 17/6

Timing: -5, -4, -3, 0 (x2), 2, 3   {Probably not spot on as I don't due any ovulation testing and I'm just basing this on cervical mucus consistency.}

Typical LP length: no idea

Testing: I might shoot for the April 11th or 12th?

R/R: Feeling much better this morning. I did make it out for a short hike yesterday.

I also had to do some maintenance under our power lines (pulling out pine tree saplings) to prevent the county from spraying herbicide and killing off all of my native plants (and making it look god-awful) again. I cried when they sprayed it (without warning) 2 years ago and killed off EVERYTHING. The plant life is just now recovering. Imagine how the pollinators and other animals up the food chain were affected as well! The overuse of pesticides, herbicides, and insecticides really gets me steaming.

CS/Q: nope

lcking82

@flowntheloop:  I think I would have cried at that too! 

@holly321: climb temp climb!  I bet FF gives you CH tomorrow!

Month/Cycle: 11/8

CD/DPO:  20/6

Timing: fair

Typical LP length: 14

Testing:  not yet

R/R:  I was in a super foul mood yesterday. Major grump fest. Trying to improve that today. 

CS/Q:  nice temp jump today. But... I slept in a little, so might be a little off. Progesterone draw tomorrow. 

inthewoods23

@bobbyflies2020 I wish we would hire someone to clean our house but DH has this thing about strangers in the house. I will continue to dream!

@holly321 I like my car more than work too 😆

@flowntheloop I feel you on people being dumb about landscaping. Shortly after we had moved into our house the lot next to us, which was part of a newer subdivision with VERY nice and large homes, was building. We have some kind of tree lining our property with theirs. The guy wanted to completely cut down all the trees because he thought they were ugly. However, things were a bit overgrown because the previous owner of our house didn't really live there the last 3 years. He trimmed a bunch on his side and as soon as it started growing back in a little he changed his tune like "oh, that actually does look nice". Trimming - good, completely testing down whole trees - not good.

Month/Cycle: 22/20

CD/DPO: 22/8

Timing: decent

Typical LP length: 12-13 days

Testing: this weekend

R/R: well, some kids got demoted on the team yesterday out of their leadership positions. Things were supposed to be on the down low but that didn't happen. Oh well. Unfortunately that meant nightmares for DH so he didn't sleep well last night.

CS/Q: this month's pattern is zig zag

flowntheloop

@inthewoods23 Uggh! People are nuts! It seems like the majority of people just want to throw their trash everywhere or destroy things. I've also had to stop my neighbor from spraying my ditches with herbicide (where I let other natives grow). I'm quite non-confrontational, but I literally ran across the yard in my pajamas (and shoes on the wrong feet) to stop it. She apparently thought she was doing us a favor and claimed that there were "water moccasins everywhere this year." Just a note: the range of the water moccasin does not reach our area. Even if they were in my area, I would encourage their presence.

My husband and I are not proponents of the typical lawn, so we have gotten a lot of bad attention over the years. We prefer to encourage and support wildlife (whilst not wasting water/resources) rather than create some shallow, unhealthy display of wealth/conformity (still not sure the reasoning behind the lawn)? I'm probably a bit of a weirdo, but I'm passionate about the environment and all of its inhabitants (which are under a great threat)!

Oops: Wrote another book! XD 

kbrown2385

@bobbyflies2020 I love decluttering. Throwing crap away is my favorite thing to do! I’d also love to hire someone to clean the house. Maybe when we are finally debt free.

@holly321 hope work isn’t too bad today!

@flowntheloop glad you were able to get to them before they sprayed!

@lcking82 hope you’re feeling better today! It’s Wednesday so we are almost through the week!

@inthewoods23 sorry about drama with the team. (I secretly love hearing about it all 😬)



Month/Cycle: 28/2 AL

CD/DPO: 15/?

Timing: we’ll see

Typical LP length: 13 days

Testing: nope

R/R: not much going on today. I was able to catch up on all the laundry yesterday so might continue with the cleaning. Hopefully it will warm up a little. It’s been quite cold the past couple of days.

CS/Q: pretty sure i o’d yesterday

flowntheloop

@kbrown2385 I'm still going to put in phone calls to the power company to make sure they aren't going to spray. I also have to order some signs to put up. I don't trust them at all after the mess they made!

marebear15

@bobbyflies2020 - Have you talked about colors for the house yet? Do you have a scheme in mind?

@holly321 - I too avoid work by staying in my car. And then I remember I can bump on my computer and I come in.

@flowntheloop - Ugh that's awful that the county would do that to your yard!

@lcking82 - Here's a cute otter to help that mood turn around today:

@inthewoods23 - I'm sorry about your DH and his team. Your chart is like:

@kbrown2385 - I agree with O yesterday. Yay for being done with all the laundry! That is a huge accomplishment 👏

AFM, FINALLY got taxes done yesterday. I think DH had made it this monumental task in his head, because he kept stating that it would take the whole evening and he needed to start it before dinner. But when it came down to it, it took maybe 30 minutes.

inthewoods23

@marebear15 lol that's a pretty good representation of my chart! I got our taxes done a few weeks ago but days after found out DH's W2 was wrong so now I have to submit an amendment *sigh*. I do ours through online and it was so much easier because everything from last year is in place so you just click down the line into each section to update it for this year. It's for the most part painless!

@flowntheloop yeah, all the newer neighborhoods have almost no trees and since our house and neighborhood are old (50+ years) we have a lot of mature trees. One of which I think that neighbor asked if they could cut down! Who picks a lot next to an old neighborhood and complains about the trees? Ugh.

@kbrown2385 hearing other people's drama and just hearing how ridiculous and unreasonable people can actually be is my guilty pleasure 😄

kbrown2385

@marebear15 we both know being laundry free won’t last long haha. Also, I always love when you agree with my chart. It makes me feel like I have a clue of what is going on 🤣.

@inthewoods23 yes 🤣. As long as I’m not involved I’ll listen to it all day!

@flowntheloop I’d be calling too! Maybe you can help me! I have two flowerbeds in the front of the house we rent and it’s full of weeds. Anything not roundup related that can get rid of them? We rent the house so I can’t do anything too drastic. 

b_1029

@bobbyflies2020 decluttering is the best feeling! I understand about the old house issues - I feel like ours is never clean no matter what we do. Also, very jealous of the deep clean - maybe like kbrown, we can hire someone once we're debt free.

@holly321 lol to the 50 tests. Did you ever make it into work? hope the day goes by quickly for you

@flowntheloop glad you're feeling better! that's so sad about the plants.

@lcking82 I think I have your mood today haha. I hope you're feeling better today

@inthewoods23 the drama continues...eesh. your poor H. 

@kbrown2385 I love when I catch up laundry for like 5 seconds! Congrats haha. Hope it's a nice day today and you're able to get out and enjoy it.

@marebear15 what is it with H's and being crazy with taxes? Mine was the same way. Glad you all got them done.
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Month/Cycle: 18

CD/DPO: 28/15ish

Timing: great

Typical LP length: 14-15

Testing: BFN this morning. just WFAF now.

R/R: I'm in such a bad mood today, to the point I just want to go start responding to all the people on 1st tri and be a total b*tch (I won't actually). Didn't sleep at all after like 4 am, BFN, and just generally feeling sorry for myself. On the plus side, I just have to make it through today and then I WFH tomorrow. And it's supposed to be really nice out today so I should go for a walk at lunch to blow off some steam.

Actual picture of me, and for my bad attitude today I apologize:

edited my rant

rikiteacup

Month/Cycle: 12/12

CD/DPO: 18/1

Timing: Great

Typical LP length: 13-15 days

Testing: nope

R/R: My allergies are bad right now. I also noticed a mole on my boob getting bigger and redder. I am going to see if there is a mole check app. Would an OBGYN be able to check that? I want it to be a one stop shop.

CS/Q: big temp rise this morning. I hope this is our Christmas miracle. Otherwise, surgery is in 2 days.

inthewoods23

@b_1029 on the bright side, if AF shows today, your RE appointment will be on CD3 so they might have you do the baseline stuff at the same time. Win for no waiting! If they don't ask for it I would seriously consider you ask them to do it so you're not waiting a while extra cycle.

@rikiteacup you could ask your OB but my guess is they'll tell you to go to a dermatologist.

rikiteacup

@bobbyflies2020 good luck decluttering your house. I need to do that in one of my closets.

@holly321 this reminded me that my Wondfo HPT tests are getting low. I thought I was never going to use all the 50 I got. And I only use around 5/cycle. Sigh.... 

@flowntheloop wow, this is horrible! I know in my county, people can put signs if they don't want the grass on the side of the road to be cut so all the wildflowers can be available for pollinators. I'd be furious if they sprayed chemicals. 

@lcking82 this is a big jump! you have a full dot so FF doesn't consider you slept in a little 

@inthewoods23 I am glad your neighbor came to his senses. Your chart looks good. It is clearly on the up trend.

@kbrown2385 we are O twins!

@marebear15 we filed ours on Sunday and both Federal and State already took money from our account as of yesterday This was the 1st time my H was doing his taxes himself and he was so anxious. Seeing the money out of our account actually made him feel better lol.

ruby696

@bobbyflies2020 Enjoy decluttering! I love days like that. It's little bit of a battle because MH is a bit of a pack rat. 

@holly321 Smart to start testing early. You need a baseline for comparison, right??

@flowntheloop Can you put out a sign that says "Don't Spray"? Lots of people do that where I live. Props to you for keeping the brush low yourself. And I'm glad you're feeling better.

@lcking82 Nice temp jump! Hoping it's a good sign.

@inthewoods23 MH is uncomfortable with a stranger unsupervised in the house as well. So I'll keep dreaming with you. 

@kbrown2385 I also think O was yesterday. Hurry up crosshairs! (I hate the three day wait).

@b_1029 I'm sorry for the BFN. Feel free to take your anger out on the drive-bys. Really though, hugs. 

@rikiteacup Pretty sure you're going to have to go to a dermatologist for the mole. Why can't doctors specialize in everything so we don't have to drive all over the place?

Month/Cycle: 19/10ish

CD/DPO: 7 per FF 

Timing: Good

Typical LP length: 12 days

Testing: Friday

R/R: It's raining. Again. I'm so over the rain and ready for some lovely spring weather. Also very excited that the giant Dogwood outside of my office is starting to bloom. 🤗

CS/Q: Nope

marebear15

@inthewoods23 - Did the amendment get you a better tax break? If not, then ugh what a waste of time to do it all over again. I've always done mine online with the free TurboTax website.

@kbrown2385 - Somehow I became the chart expert (even though when I first came here I was a clueless newb), but I'm glad I could ease your mind with my expertise. 

@b_1029 - Sorry for the BFN and that you are having such a crappy day. A walk at lunch sounds like a perfect way to change your mood!

@rikiteacup - Did you have to pay taxes? Oh the horror! Lol, we had to do that one year when DH switched jobs, but other than that we always get a small chunk of money back.

kagesstarshroom

@ruby696 You must post a pic of that dogwood once it is in full bloom! I am jealous your office has such a great view! I have zero windows in my office at school.

@rikiteacup FX for xmas miracle!

@b_1029 Sorry for the Eeyore mood & bfn =( Hugs to you!

@kbrown2385 It's supposed to be warmer today here & then stay warm--& even though it's always warmer here than elsewhere, I think that in terms national trends, what happens here often is what will happen elsewhere soon/at the same time. AKA I am rooting for the warmth to extend to where you are!

@flowntheloop Anger at pesticides etc. seconded!

Month/Cycle: 6/5/2/AL

CD/DPO: 19/6

Timing: ff says "good," which i side-eye.

Typical LP length: 14-15

Testing: yesterday i was like "let's test now!" like a semi-crazy person (didn't tho) so who knows how long i will be able to spare myself.

R/R: i forgot about symptom spotting. so much fun. -_-  i'm soooooo glad to be home, but also feeling super behind. / i won a prestigious teaching award for the year! & my assistantship got extended so i can graduate in the fall/spring & teach a fancy class in the fall! yay.

CS/Q:

ETC: formatting, added a word.

inthewoods23

@marebear15 I have no idea, haven't looked into it yet. They reported the wrong amount of the HSA contribution so I'm not sure if it will go up or down. Last year was when I started doing it online, previously I was using the software my parents had which is the most expensive one since my mom used to sell jewelry (one of those MLM type things). There were so many things that I had no clue about if it applied to me or not!

@ruby696 that reminds me that we have a magnolia in our front yard and blooms beautifully for a week then it all starts falling off making a mess on our driveway. Gorgeous flowers though!

@kagesstarshroom congrats on the award!

lcking82

@kagesstarshroom - we're O buddies!  Yay for 6dpo!  And congrats for your award - as a fellow academician, I know those are a big deal for promotion/tenure/etc, too!  

@marebear15 @rikiteacup:  my DH is an accountant (not tax, but still...) and he gets frustrated if we're getting a refund, because "we gave the government a free loan all year!"  Meanwhile, I'm like, yay!  A refund!  (And then put it toward my school loans *eyeroll*)  I always warn our payroll people that my husband will have me adjust my withholdings multiple times during the year.  

@b1029:  I'm so so sorry.  It's okay to be down, too!  A walk would be awesome, but don't feel like you have to put on a happy face for us!

marebear15

@lcking82 - Lol to YH. I mean I understand that it just means they took to much money from us year round, but still, yay!!

kbrown2385

@b_1029 sorry you’re having a tough time. Maybe the nice weather and fresh air will help. Definitely don’t feel like you need to apologize for a shitty mood. It’s allowed!

@rikiteacup yay for a cycle buddy! 

@kagesstarshroom it’s so nice today, I’ve got all the windows open! Congratulations on the award!

rikiteacup

@marebear15 yes, we owed this year! We didn't adjust our withholding after the law changed. Not a big deal. This money was never going to be ours anyway 

flowntheloop

@ruby696 Yes, I'm waiting on my DO NOT SPRAY signs to come in the mail! We already have a handmade one up, but I want to be sure they don't spray this summer!

@rikiteacup Our area is the opposite of progressive, so the environmental protections are very lax here. T_T And, yes, it infuriates me.

@kbrown2385 First, I would challenge you to rethink your definitions of weeds! If they are invasives/nonnatives that are blocking out your beautiful plants I can totally understand your frustration! We have some nasty ones in our area that can make gardening such a pain.

Have you heard of "Back to Eden Gardening" before? It can reduce your weeding duties, but every natural garden/flowerbed is going to come with weeds. Elbow grease and regular upkeep is the tried and true method, of course!

Another fun way to transform your flowerbeds is to turn them into a wild/native areas for pollinators and birds. You could pick up some of local plants and seeds (even ones with culinary value) and just let that specific area go wild
Examples:
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kbrown2385

@flowntheloop I actually keep dandelions and clover around (as well as other flowering ones) in the yard because I’m all for saving the bees. The owners put pea gravel in these two beds in front of the house, so I’m trying to clean them up and then put plants in containers to attract the bees, butterflies etc. I don’t have a lot of leeway unfortunately and I can’t let stuff go wild, as much as I would love to. 

This is what we have going on

flowntheloop

@kbrown2385 That is so sweet that you leave some flowers for the bees! 
Looks like you need some extra hands to pull those weeds! Ughh! Have you tried the tarp method before?

kbrown2385

@flowntheloop I’m dumb when it comes to any kind of gardening, plants etc. I’ll have to look it up! 

ETA: I’ve heard of pouring boiling water on them or using vinegar but i don’t know if that’s truly effective. I’ve pulled up a lot but not well enough to get the roots because they just keep coming back. 

kagesstarshroom

@lcking82 Aw yay for having an O buddy! GL this cycle! And thanks!

@kbrown2385 I also like letting stuff "go wild"--DH, when he mows, leaves this patch of our yard un-mown bc wildflowers grow there. Sorry you aren't able to go wild where you are, but your containers will be beautiful! And thanks!

@inthewoods23 Thanksss! And lol at the beautiful flowers making a mess in yr driveway. Alas!

ruby696

Ooohhh @kbrown2385 Do they sell half wine barrels in your area?? You could totally plant some butterfly bushes or citrus or lavender in half wine barrels all along your house. Lavendar would be beautiful once it got big!

kbrown2385

@ruby696 that’s exactly what I want to do!! I’ll get one for each side and then I have some hangers to put some baskets on. 

holly321

@marebear15 we can’t use the computers at work for things like the bump, so I have to do it sneakily on my phone.  

@kagesstarshroom congratulations on the award!

ruby696

@kbrown2385 Oh I love hanging baskets! This conversation is making me want to work on my garden this weekend.