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mamaber2204

Sorry to whomever usually posts this.  I'm procrastinating on a project and got impatient.  



Let's hear everyone's Friday confessions!!!

mamaber2204

Mine is that we're going to start telling our family the big news this weekend since there's a family gathering and it's the last chance to see everyone in person until late April.  It's a week earlier than I'd like to tell anyone (I'm 11 weeks today), but the FFFC part of this is that I actually don't want to tell anyone at all!  I just really like it being our little secret.  It's rather private news if you think about it.  So I'm kind of dreading tomorrow's big reveal.  

LJMoon6

MH and I haven’t slept in the same bed in over a year… It all started when we got our second dog and MH hated having 2 dogs sleeping in our bed. He’s tried to move back to our bed a couple of times but we both hate it! When I tell people we don’t sleep in the same bed I usually just tell them it’s because he shakes. Which is true, he has full body essential tremors and he constantly wakes me up in the middle of the night. But it’s not the reason we first started sleeping separately. Last weekend we decided to move the spare bed into our master bedroom (hotel room style lol). Now at least we’re sleeping in the same room.

@mamaber2204 Anyone can start this thread or any of the others. There's no one person assigned to any of the threads. Have at it girl!

MsBeachNJ

@mamaber2204 I get it - I don't want to actually tell people either, I kinda wish they'd just know. We are seeing my entire side of the family this weekend, but its for my nieces 1st birthday party, and I don't want to steal thunder at the party by making any big announcements - so we're waiting another week to when we'll see them for St. Patricks day. My mom knows and doesn't understand why we won't just announce tomorrow... but I'm really just not into it & this is a good excuse! (we're 13 weeks). 

mamaber2204

@MsBeachNJ I'm glad I'm not the only one!  Good luck with your reveal next weekend!

MsBeachNJ

@mamaber2204 Thank you! Its a big party at a bar, outside under beer tents. The family will be there for someones birthday and St. Patricks day, so I'll be wearing this shirt that I got on amazon... that way I feel like the attention is on a lot of other things and people will have to read my shirt to find out rather than my making some big announcement! 
(sorry its so big I have no idea how to shrink it!!) *ETA the shirt I bought says arriving September, this is just the stock photo!

mamaber2204

That's awesome!!!  I love it!  Our reveal this weekend is at my bro-in-law's birthday dinner.  I'm not worried about stealing his thunder because he's middle-aged.    Everyone will arrive while DS is napping, so when he wakes up I'm going to put him in this shirt and let him wander out into the crowd.  No announcement needed.    

MsBeachNJ

@mamaber2204 perfect!! Agreed the St. pats party is a 40th bday party - I figure he won't care at that age! I just felt like a first birthday is a big deal to parents so I wanted them to have their day! Love the shirt, its adorable!

jaykay2004

@LJMoon6 We don't sleep in the same bed, either! It started (I don't even know how long ago...many years) when I had severe sleep apnea and snored like a freight train, so he moved into the guest room. I got the apnea part fixed and I don't snore anymore, but right around that time, our first kiddo was born. We would swap who was sleeping where (baby slept in the master), so the other person could get a solid night's sleep. Once we thought we were well past the baby stage (this baby is a HUGE surprise), we thought about "moving back in" together, but now we both like sleeping alone and prefer our own mattresses for comfort, haha. It's all good, we still get plenty of couple time...plus I go to bed waaaay earlier than he does (he's a night owl), and this way, I'm not woken up when he comes to bed.

ternsetc

DH and I sleep on a full size mattress. Our first place together was furnished and we bought some full size sheets for that bed and managed to wrestle them on (I guess, I don't remember it being difficult) so we assumed that bed was that size. When we bought our own mattress we got a full and soon realized the other bed had definitely been a queen. But our full mattress is comfortable and we've never wanted to spend the money to replace it, so we're still sleeping on it!

mamaber2204

@ternsetc That's funny!  I have recently been trying to convince myself that we should move up to a king size.  We're both average-sized humans (we're both the average height for our gender and are average weight, lol), so we shouldn't need a bigger bed.  But it would be so nice to be able to spread out a little without getting in each other's space!

zuuls_mom

DS is really sick so he started antibiotics last night. It says to have him take it on a full stomach, but apparently he didn't like the hot dogs and Panera mac n cheese I gave him so he had garlic bread dipped in ketchup for dinner. #motheroftheyear

mamaber2204

@zuuls_mom I'm sorry to hear he's so sick!!!   Yeah, whoever designed meds that require toddlers to be full obviously doesn't have a toddler.  Getting them to eat when they're well can be a challenge - forget about it when they're sick!  

aliciac2008

@zuuls_mom I was actually just reading an article yesterday about the guilt that we give parents for feeding their kids anything but "healthy" foods. Basically it was saying that you should always offer your kids comfort foods (mac and cheese, pasta, bread) so they learn to have a positive association with food. We have evolved to eat the food that tastes best to us, so we shouldn't try to fight that automatic response in kids. The article states to offer fruits/veggies/unfamiliar foods alongside comfort foods, and if they eat them, great. If they don't, they are still learning to have a positive association with those foods and are more likely to try them, and enjoy them, in the future.

I know this isn't quite what you were getting at, but your comment reminded me of this article and I found it super fascinating. 

zuuls_mom

@mamaber2204 right!? It's nuts. He's basically been surviving off of pouches, applesauce and yogurt this week. 

RedBreast35

@zuuls_mom if it makes you feel any better my DS isn’t sick and that’s pretty much what he’ll eat on a daily basis.
Toddlers + food = never ending frustration

mamaber2204

@zuuls_mom @RedBreast35 Ha, yeah, that's my toddler's daily diet, too.  I do offer whatever we're eating alongside his fruit and yogurt, but 80% of the time he completely ignores it (and sometimes screams at it).  He does seem to be dabbling in other foods more lately, thank goodness.  I'm thankful that he eats like a grown up at daycare because he sure won't do it for me!  We had that week-long vacation and I was like, hmmm, is it OK for him to eat nothing but fruit and carbs for a whole week?!  lol.  

zuuls_mom

@RedBreast35 it really is frustrating! He likes to put too much of something in his mouth and then spit it out and refuse to eat it 

zuuls_mom

I have another one. So my son decided to have an epic meltdown after his nap and was crying and screaming so much he kept gagging. I finally got him settled while H was on a work call. After his call H came out of his office to check on us and I told him I had a ton of work to do (I have a tiny bit to do that's not really time sensitive), so he is currently downstairs watching Frozen for the second time while I bump and drink my cranberry juice in peace 

lillywonderland

@zuuls_mom I see nothing wrong with that. Frozen is very educational. It teaches about seasons, reindeer being better than people, it's not a good idea to play with snow indoors, and that you shouldn't marry someone you just met. 

Oh, and you know...sibling love and that stuff...

zuuls_mom

@lillywonderland you’re right, those are very good life lessons! Now he’s in bed singing “Let it Go” 😂

mamaber2204

@zuuls_mom OMG that's amazing!  I love your style.

janat1717

@LJMoon6 We don't share a bed either. DH snores and co sleeping with DS during the early days was making him suck at work.

@zuuls_mom We eat really healthy in our house and my son has been eating nothing but hot dogs, pretzels and cream cheese lately. Of course it's all organic grass fed, etc.. that makes it ok right?? 

ternsetc

@mamaber2204 I'd say go for the extra space, but clearly I can't take my own advice! I'll admit the idea of another third trimester in the full isn't my happiest thought

@zuuls_mom so sorry your DS is still sick!! It took me ages this morning to get my DS (who has a cold) to eat breakfast - wouldn't even taste the waffle I gave him, shoved five chunks of banana in his mouth at once and spit them all out and screamed like I'd tried to feed him an avocado. He finally ate a Chobani lime yogurt, which was the only yogurt we had left in the house because he's eaten so much yogurt this week!

kiddiesandkitties

@mamaber2204 DO IT! Getting a king bed was one of the greatest investments we ever made. I looove the extra space. 

@zuuls_mom who turns down Panera Mac and cheese?! YUM. 

bubsalicious

@kiddiesandkitties every kid I've gone with refuses to eat the Panera mac & cheese. Is it too healthy??

kiddiesandkitties

@bubsalicious I wish my kids refused it so I could eat it all 🤣🤣🤣

OmegaRose3

Reading everyone's toddler food commentary makes me feel better about DD and DS's diet of pasta, applesauce, bread, chicken nuggets and looks of disgusts at anything that isn't on that list.

FFFC: I've been taking advantage of H's new work schedule so he can bring me home smoothies and milkshakes on his way home.

sunshine2417

@mamaber2204 GET THE KING BEEEED!!! You will never regret it! With pillows for pregnancy and kids in the bed and husband rolling around and you getting out of bed all hours of the night... it’s just a necessity!!! 

rms924

I am here as a proponent of the king bed. At first, I thought what’s the point but now, total necessity. I still end up at the very edge every night, shivering 😆

mainemomma8316

@rms924 get your own blanket! We have a king bed but we each use our own blanaket, seriously a life saver!

zuuls_mom

@mamaber2204 yes get the king! We just got one in June and I’m never going back. Also vote for getting your own blanket. We use the duvet together, but each have our own fuzzy king size blanket and it’s so amazingly cozy. 

TeacherMama7

We have a Cal King and while i love all the space, I miss the cuddling! My husband needs his personal space so it’s good for us, but o could definitely have a smaller bed and be ok. 

monkeysmom80

I don't know how you all sleep in anything smaller than a king.  I need my space and to not be touched when I sleep! It's heaven.  When we stay at hotels if its smaller than a king, I have a kid sleep with me because they take up less room.