Monday BF 2/18

NYTino24

What’s got you riled up today?

inthewoods23

Helicopter mom story time!

If you'll recall, helicopter mom pretty much hates both me and DH. She's never actually spoken to me about any problems she has, only to DH. I stopped mentoring the kid about 2 weeks ago because F that stress.

Anyway, I'm in the middle of looking for someone at the event we had yesterday when I happen to walk past her. She says "hi inthewoods" and as I continue walking, not breaking stride I say "hello!" in a very peppy, customer service kind of way - kind of fake sounding because we'll, I hate her guts but I'm going to be nice and return her greeting. As I'm continuing down the hallway I hear her behind me "ooh that's nice" in a super snarky tone.

It instantly set me off and got me super upset. Like blood pressure instantly rising, anxiety inducing kind of upset. Wtf warranted that kind of response. I exchanged greetings, I didn't ignore her. I stopped looking for who I was actually looking for to go find DH who very nicely stopped what he was doing to talk to me privately so I could start crying and explain what happened.

Thankfully I didn't come across her again besides when they were serving us lunch but she didn't speak to me so I was able to get through the rest of the event without having a mental meltdown.

kbrown2385

@inthewoods23 why are people rude! I’m not sure why she felt to be snotty after you nicely said hello. Sorry you had to deal with that! Hopefully further interactions are limited.

My Monday bf is about my freaking tempdrop! To start at the beginning, I preordered the new version that was supposed to ship towards the end of January. The new version had new frames holding the sensor to replace the current frames that apparently had issues with cracking. The last couple of days of the month we got an email explaining ship dates wouldn’t happen because the new frames were stuck in customs so they were pushed and hoping for mid February. Well about a week ago we got another update stating everything was released from customs, they were hoping to get everything reviewed and then shipped to appropriate distribution centers and then shipped sometime this week. Now the new update email comes out and we aren’t even getting the new frames, we are getting the older ones because production time on the new frames is still pushed. So once the old frames we receive break, we will then be able to get the new frames as replacements. I’m so frustrated. I appreciate them just sending me something at this point, but can we just get on with it? I just want to start temping with it! I realize I’m being super impatient and first world problems and all....but I just want my ish already. 

brookert615

@inthewoods23 Ah, that is tough! Not cool, helicopter mom! Glad YH was there to comfort you.

@kbrown2385 That is seriously so frustrating!!! I’m sorry the wait has been so long!!!

kels0091

@inthewoods23 f that woman ! 

@kbrown2385 as bookert said, that is so frustrating. 

lcking82

@inthewoods23:  that woman is just a miserable human being.  Ugh.

inthewoods23

@kbrown2385 I can't believe it's taking this long! Very frustrating indeed!

emeraldduchess

@inthewoods23 I'm so sorry you had to deal with that.  Helicopter parents are THE WORST.  Working in education I see a lot of that.  While there are plenty of fantastic, supportive parents out there who know how hard we work for their kids, there are some that just don't see that we're human.  They don't get why everyone else's world doesn't revolve around their offspring.

@kbrown2385 OMG that's annoying!  I hope you get your tempdrop soon.  

 My BF is my dog.  She was in my face growling for breakfast at 6.  Now she has to go outside but is refusing because she hates snow and throws a fit about having to walk through it/pee it/etc.  Seriously, suck it up, princess. I know you were born in the South but you've lived with us here in New England  for 9 years, this is not new!

kagesstarshroom

@inthewoods23 Point of clarification (bc I'm also not sure of the backstory): she used yr real name not yr name on TB? or do you know she knows you are on here & that's part of the story or a new part of the story? bc I'd be terrified if someone i dislike was like "hi kages starshroom"-- i'd be like WHO ARE YOU WHAT DO YOU KNOW.  I don't thinnnnnnnkkkkk that's what you mean, though, so, legit reply: boo people are terrible and you did exactly what my mom's advice would have been, "kill them with kindness." Fake kindness counts. And good work on YH on being there for you AND on you for not running into her. So sorry you had to go thru this?

kbrown2385

@emeraldduchess being woken up by my cat is my biggest pet peeve. When they get all prissy like that is just so obnoxious. Like, just get over it already lol.

inthewoods23

@kagesstarshroom yes yes she used my real name! But juuuust in case somebody I know happens to be here (doubt it), I'm trying to keep things vague.

DH can't wait for the kid to graduate this year so he's now given him the code name Calendar like in the show Aggretsuko because he's counting down the days until he doesn't have to deal with him anymore.

This mom though, she harasses all the teachers because of course precious little child doesn't deserve a low grade. She's made teachers cry before! I heard she's trying to get a job in one of the school offices and I can't imagine her being easy to work with. I would hope, depending on what the position is, that you can't have a conflict of interest to take that position.

ruby696

@inthewoods23 That comment makes me think she is angry because she hasn't gotten her way with you. People tend to lash out at those they can't manipulate. So be proud of yourself. I'd give her a huge fake smile the next time I saw her just to provoke her. Sends the message: "You don't matter enough for me to care about, Karen."

AFM: I'm spending my holiday helping MH take out a tree. So general BF for not having a relaxing day. I did buy brie and a baguette and told him we had to be done by noon.🙂

emeraldduchess

@inthewoods23 oh boy, she sounds *lovely*.  She is in for a shock when the kid goes to college.  A friend of mine teaches at the college level and has had to tell parents flat-out, "your child is an adult and I cannot discuss their grades with you".  My former principal used to call those parents "snowplow parents" instead of "helicopter parents" because they don't just hover, they run right over you. 

kagesstarshroom

@inthewoods23 this lady-- she's why i teach college. (seriously.) parents aren't aLLoWeD to contact me. ::sips tea, looks directly into the camera, smiles::  (haha just saw @emeraldduchess has pointed out this exact fact above.)

ejoseph16

@inthewoods23 I feel your pain! I teach 3rd grade and a parent is constantly after me. My principal actually had to tell her no more meetings with me concerning homework. She is now after my teaching partner. Ugh. Parents are the WORST part of the job! 

inthewoods23

@emeraldduchess @kagesstarshroom I'm very interested to see how college will go because he's going to a private college like 6 or 7 hours from here. Also, he says he has a learning disability, which I believe is just ADHD. And that's fine, but he will throw that at your face when you ask him to do something different or to make changes on something. It really comes across as him not caring about what you have to say, even if it's to improve the things he's working on.

Now, I really haven't ever dealt with people with learning disabilities, so maybe my viewpoint is wrong. All I know is this mom is doing her kids no favors by being such an enabler. She seems to expect the teachers to do everything while not doing anything herself to help her kids succeed (besides threatening people).

b_1029

WORK as per usual. One of my coworkers (for those who know my coworker saga, the older one who cries at her desk all the time and has the most hilarious WFH excuses) got a new job so now it's just my other coworker and I trying to hold down the fort. Today is day 1 and I'm already not feeling confident about my coworker being able to help me pick up the slack until we find a new person. She was already listing all these excuses this morning as to why she wasn't able to get a project started that was supposed to start last week. I applied for a higher up position on our team last week so I'm hoping I get it, am technically "over" her, and can tell her to get her sh*t together. 

shamrocandroll

@ruby696 Now I really want some brie and a baguette...

I don't really have a good BF today.  I guess just that it's already Monday and I feel like my weekend was only like 6 hours long.

inthewoods23

I would also just like to complain that I had to (or really, chose to) shovel our driveway by myself yesterday evening since DH was still away. I fell once, and slipped on the ice a good 5+ times. We had a good 6 inches on the ground.

DH is sore from standing and walking around all day while I was about the same, took more opportunities to sit down though, shoveled our driveway AND brushed snow off both our cars before I left to go home from the event yesterday. I want a massage so much today 😩

brookert615

@inthewoods23 Girl that is so rough! Hope you can get a massage! ❤️

shamrocandroll

Okay I have one now.  My boss scheduled me for a 3pm conference call today and I sat on the phone waiting for him until 3:15 and then hung up because I have sh*t to do, and then he started texting me asking me where I was.  Dude, you don't get to be 15 minutes late to a meeting YOU scheduled, and then expect me to come running back when you finally decide to show up.  It's rude and disrespectful.  Also, I went into my lab and my tech was literally just sitting on his butt with half the systems down and we're running a really important test right now, and I feel like if I don't babysit him, he won't do his damn job.  My 1st shift tech is running sprints 8 hours a day getting stuff done, and then 2nd shift comes in and just sloth modes it.

...I knew Monday was going too smoothly earlier! 

emeraldduchess

@ruby696 if the roads weren't bad, I'd be on my way to get brie and a baguette right now.  Or maybe some gouda.  Damn, bread and cheese sounds amazing right now!

ruby696

@emeraldduchess Because MH is amazing, he told me we need to pick up a bottle of champagne to go with the brie since I helped with the tree. I'm so happy right now!

emeraldduchess

@ruby696 enjoy the brie, bread, and bubbly.   

emeraldduchess

Anyone interested and reviving/starting a new crafting/baking/cooking thread?
EDIT: Meant to put this in the randoms thread. Sorry!

emeraldcity1214

@kbrown2385 I have had the same frame for a year now and have never had a problem. It isn't cracked and shows no sign of breaking anytime soon. I am very careful with it though. I store it in the box it came in and when I take it on and off I slide it and adjust it very gently. I never pull/tug on it. I know they are sending 2 frames with those sensors just in case. They can't send the new ones because they didn't pass the quality test. I guess those broke too. They always send new frames out free of charge too because they know it is an issue that needs to be fixed. Customer service is amazing, they help with any issues that you may have. I'm glad it's finally on it's way. I only had to wait 3 weeks and that was torture so I can only imagine how you feel waiting so long. 

kbrown2385

@emeraldcity1214 yeah I’ve seen where not everyone necessarily has issues with the frame cracking, and I don’t even care about the new frames at this point. I just want it to start using. I’m in their fb group and the communication between the company and customers is fantastic so I know I’ll be taken care of if needed. I’m hoping we get some shipment update soon.

edit wrong tag

emeraldcity1214

@kbrown2385 you know this means we are in the same FB group. 👀 

kbrown2385

@emeraldcity1214 now to guess who you are out of the 3k+ people in that group 🤔🤣🤣 

emeraldcity1214

Yes! Bahaha! 

inthewoods23

Mini update - I don't know the details and I probably don't want to know them, but DH asked me around what time the interaction was with helicopter mom. The school has cameras so I guess they're going to look for the interaction. I'm kind of hoping she made some kind of gesture behind my back when I didn't look back at her. I wonder what kind of trouble she'd be in if she flipped me the finger without me knowing.

brookert615

@inthewoods23 OH MAN! That would be crazy if they could pull something up! 

inthewoods23

@brookert615 I just want the damn woman to stop harassing us! Pretty sure she's the only parent that doesn't think MH is doing a good job with the team. Thank God DH is good at handling people's stupid BS. She likes to spit out wild accusations.

We're crossing our fingers his grades don't meet the standards to be able to travel to the competition in 2 weeks!

begging4abump

I want to scream, so I’m just going to put this here since I’d love to vent a bit before ILs arrive. Finally got a call back from the dr office. I had called on Wednesday, heard nothing, so I called this morning to follow through. I had called because I’m nearing the 1 year mark of no success and I’m concerned about the extended length of af and all the extra days of spotting on top of that (for multiple months). The message that I got back was that it’s probably normal, but I should take a pregnancy test. Aaaaarghhhh. Part of me was like, hey, maybe I should. And then I got angrier.