Need help/suggestions in regards to getting my 18mo to sleep on her own at night. During the day for her AM/PM naps we take her upstairs, hold her for a minute, say "have a good nap" then lay her down. She will flop around in her crib for 10-30 minutes but will put herself to sleep with no crying.
At night, however, we have to hold her or else she won't go to sleep. We have tried numerous things. She is on a schedule (bath between 6:30-7:00, quiet time 7:15-8:00 then up to bed) and that routine hasn't seemed to make a difference. My husband and I are at a loss because getting her to sleep at night is SO involved, and depending on the night is quick (15 minutes) or ridiculous like last night where it took almost 2 hours. I know part of this is our own fault for waiting so long to change things, but it just doesn't make sense how nap time is not a struggle, but night time is. I am not a fan of CIO so I won't do that because it just hurts me too much.
I do breast feed however it is normally only 2 times a day, and I have been doing my best to NOT do it before bed. Instead at quiet time giving her a cup full of milk.