I have a huge issue. When I came into the relationship, my S/O told me that he had several cats that were dumped on him by his ex-wife. He cares about the cats and admits that several (there are 5) need to be rehomed, but he won't do it unless he knows they're good homes-- that part I completely respect. The issue to me is that the two that he wants to rehome aren't the problem cats-- it's his original cats that are causing my home to be a completely unsanitary wasteland.
His oldest cat has behavioral issues and medical issues and, because of this, he pees (yes, PEES) all over our kitchen counters, stove, and everything he can find. I've tried everything. We have scat-mats (mats that shock) on the counters, I've purchased multiple new litter boxes (including self scooping so there is never a place without a clean box), and I've been trying to train the cat to not go near the counters.
None of it is working. Every time I put my hand on the counter or go to clean or do anything else, it's saturated in cat urine. Every. Damn. Time. And as you all know, we of the preggy-variety can't clean, touch, or handle cat urine or feces because of toxoplasmosis.
That's just one of the problem cats. There are two more. One particularly loves to pee in the bathroom or on any cloth surface in the house, and another loves to pop a squat and crap in front of our bedroom door when we sleep at night.
I can't do this anymore. It seemed to be getting better, but now it's back full force plus more and I can't just idly sit by because I have to take my baby into consideration. I don't want to risk the cats peeing on my baby's things or on the bottles or me having to throw away a whole slew of items because they're compromised from urine or feces.
How do I go about talking to my S/O about rehoming his cats? He loves these three in particular and they have been around for over 12 years. One of the problem cats belongs to his teenage daughter, which add another dimension of hell to this scenario.
Thank you for any help in advance, and thank you for the support. I'm at my wit's end and I don't see any other way to do this except to tell him to rehome older, sickly cats with bad habits--- which we all know means they will be put down because rarely anyone wants to adopt older problem cats.