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35+ Mamas - December Checkin

How old are you? 

How are you feeling lately? 

Have you had your first prenatal visit? How did it go? 

Will you be doing the NT/NIPT? 

Any questions? 

GTKY: Are you choosing a hospital, birthing center or home birth? 
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Re: 35+ Mamas - December Checkin

  • :) I wondered where our "old ass mama" check in was  ;) 

    How old are you? 41

    How are you feeling lately? Up and down symptom-wise. It makes me a crazy person. Right now I am super bitchy though. 

    Have you had your first prenatal visit? How did it go? First visit was 11/19 - went great. Had an Ultrasound, saw & heard the heartbeat. I'm still nervous, but happy that it went well so far. 

    Will you be doing the NT/NIPT? I have genetic blood work testing scheduled 12/13 and my next regular appointment Decemeber 27th. 

    Any questions? Nope

    GTKY: Are you choosing a hospital, birthing center or home birth? Hospital for a Repeat C-Section. I am not a candidate for a VBAC since my first C-section was caused due to "Failure to Progress". 
    PanaceiaTippy05
  • edited December 4
    How old are you?  I will be 37 in 3 weeks!

    How are you feeling lately? Like shit, lol.  Being pregnant with two LOs at home really sucks. My energy is sapped, my stomach is in knots most of the time, I can't eat anything. And my aversion to coffeeeeeee, ugh. I am remembering all the reasons I told myself I was done at 2:)

    Have you had your first prenatal visit? How did it go? yes, we had an u/s and everything looked great. We saw the heartbeat. My next appt is right after xmas when I will be about 10.5 weeks. 

    Will you be doing the NT/NIPT? yup. My insurance pays for it and why not? You can never be too informed or prepared. 

    Any questions? nope!

    GTKY: Are you choosing a hospital, birthing center or home birth? a hospital, for sure. Give me all the drugs!
    Momma to Amelia Marie (7/14) and Austin Samuel (11/17). Hoping to complete our family 7/19  <3
    indulgentgypsyPanaceiaTippy05
  • How old are you? 39...I'll be 40 in February 

    How are you feeling lately? Sick. Oh so so so sick.

    Have you had your first prenatal visit? How did it go? Yes. I've had 2 ultrasounds and my first prenatal. I have another US on the 10th and my first OB appointment on the 19th. Everything is looking great so far and we're measuring right on track to the day:)

    Will you be doing the NT/NIPT? I'm doing my NIPT on Monday and I'm going to ask if I can also have the NT done in the next few weeks.

    Any questions? Not that I can think of right now:)

    GTKY: Are you choosing a hospital, birthing center or home birth? Hospital. I'll be a RCS.
    Tippy05indulgentgypsy
  • How old are you? 37

    How are you feeling lately? Better than I have been, but overall just so exhausted.

    Have you had your first prenatal visit? How did it go? Yes, first visit went well. Saw the baby and heard the heartbeat. I don't think it will be until after this next appointment that it will really start to be real.

    Will you be doing the NT/NIPT? Yes. It's covered so why not. I'm trying to convince H to find out the gender. We've always been Team Green and I think he really likes the surprise. I'm a planner and think it would be fun to find out early this time.

    Any questions? Is anyone else thinking of being Team Green?

    GTKY: Are you choosing a hospital, birthing center or home birth?  Hospital for sure. I've had 3 c-sections already and my doctor said there isn't much data on vbac's after 3 sections. It's ok with me though. Like I said, I'm a planner so if I can plan my baby's birth day and make plans for the other 3 kids I'm all for that.
    Panaceiaindulgentgypsy
  • How old are you? 41

    How are you feeling lately? Ok.  Nausea has kicked up a bit and I am pretty tired.  Tired of the chronic stuffy nose. 

    Have you had your first prenatal visit? How did it go?  Had it 11/20.  I had an u/s and talked with a nurse practitioner.  Baby was measuring spot on with a strong heartbeat. 

    Will you be doing the NT/NIPT? Yes.  Genetic testing and u/s scheduled for 12/21. 

    Any questions? No question-but answering that I am team green. 

    GTKY: Are you choosing a hospital, birthing center or home birth?  I will be giving birth in a hospital with a midwife. 
  • How old are you?  I’ll be 38 in 3 weeks 

    How are you feeling lately? Physically good. I haven’t really had any morning sickness or sore boobs or anything. I’ve been tired, but that’s it. Emotionally, I’m a wreck. So freaking nervous and paranoid

    Have you had your first prenatal visit? How did it go? I’m with a fertility clinic (IVF) so I’ve had several appts. Heard and saw HB at 6w1d then again at 7w1d. Everything looked perfect and right on track. I have my final appt with them this Thursday where I’ll be 9w4d and will hopefully graduate to a refular doc. I’ll get another ultrasound and they’ll check my progesterone to see if I can finally stop PIO. 

    Will you be doing the NT/NIPT? That’s my plan. I just hope insurance will cover it due to age, prior MC, and 10 years TTC with no success until now

    Any questions? Is anyone else absolutely losing their mind with worry?! 

    GTKY: Are you choosing a hospital, birthing center or home birth? I’ll deliver in a hospital but am planning to use midwives vs an OB. I love the idea of a birthing center but am too chicken with this being my first 
    ameliabedelia-2Panaceia
  • How old are you? 
    36
    How are you feeling lately? 
    Ugh.

    Have you had your first prenatal visit? How did it go? 
    going tomorrow 

    Will you be doing the NT/NIPT? 

    I don’t know anything about them but I definitely want genetic testing. 

    Any questions? 
    hoping to get some answers tomorrow and more questions. 

    GTKY: Are you choosing a hospital, birthing center or home birth? 
    Hospital for sure, 3rd csection :/
    Panaceia
  • How old are you? 34, Turning 35 on 12/17

    How are you feeling lately? Pretty good. Slightly queezy only in an empty stomach, been working out 5-6 days a week, found a solution to the constipation (thank goodness for Metamucil!). 

    Have you had your first prenatal visit? Yes, measured right in track (today I’m 8w7d). 

    Will you be doing the NT/NIPT? Yes, on 12/19. 

    Any questions? What are some of the other optional genetic tests? If the NIPT (that’s the 10week+ test right?) comes back with no issues how many (and which) additional tests would you consider still getting?

    GTKY: Choosing a hospital birth with a midwife.  
    Panaceiasunshine525
  • How old are you? 35

    How are you feeling lately? Bitchy, exhausted, nauseous, but very excited that this is happening.

    Have you had your first prenatal visit? How did it go? Last week! It went well! Baby measured right on track and had a HR of 165. It was so amazing to see and experience.

    Will you be doing the NT/NIPT? Yes to both! I want as much information as soon as possible.

    Any questions? Please excuse me if this is too personal, but is anyone else doing the NT/NIPT not just "to prepare"? I feel like everything I see mamas to be are quick to say "No results would change my mind" but there are some diseases that are really horrible and that SO and I would really have to think about. Am I the only one? It makes me feel like a bad mama already.

    GTKY: Are you choosing a hospital, birthing center or home birth? Birthing center that is part of a hospital in case of any complications.
    TTC #1 V. 2.0 since April 2018
    Me: 35; PCOS w/regular cycles since losing 100+ lbs
    BFP - 10/25/18 - EDD 7/8/19




    Panaceia
  • @literatureandink We are doing NIPT because the results do make a difference for us. So you are definitely not alone!

    @CatWaffles I am worried, stressed, everything, 100% of the time. Constantly. No amount of ultrasounds seem to help with this for me:/

    @ironcat2300 I think if everything from NT/NIPT comes back low risk I'm not sure there's any further testing that you need to do. I could be wrong...but I think you really only need to do more testing if the NT/NIPT warrant more testing. Maybe some people might opt for an amnio? But I'm not sure.
    literatureandink
  • @literatureandink I am in the same boat as you. Getting tests in order to make informed decisions. It’s a tough topic. Thanks for bringing it up bc I think it’s on a lot of people’s minds. 

    @Panaceia Thanks for the feedback 😁 There is so much to learn during the process!
    indulgentgypsyPanaceialiteratureandink
  • @literatureandink, I’m seconding @Panaceia  —you are definitely not alone! Please don’t feel like a bad mom. We all have to make whatever decision we think is best for us and our embryo/fetus/child. For you (and me) that might mean making a tough decision after a test result. 
    Panaceialiteratureandink
  • @literatureandink - us also. It’s okay and doesn’t make you a bad momma. It’s a horrible decision that I hope no one here has to make but it’s definitely a decision. After we lost our first son at 2.5 years, we won’t continue a pregnancy that is unlikely to be viable after delivered. It’s just not something we are willing to do to us or the babe. 
    Panaceialiteratureandink
  • How old are you? 38, 39 in 3 weeks. A lot of Capricorn’s here, huh? 

    How are you feeling lately? Awful. And grumpy. 

    Have you had your first prenatal visit? How did it go? I’ve had so many. Lol. All good so far. Tomorrow is my first with regular OB, graduated from RE. 

    Will you be doing the NT/NIPT? Yep! 

    Any questions? 

    GTKY: Are you choosing a hospital, birthing center or home birth? 3rd c-section so hospital. This will be my first planned c-section and I sort of love the idea of picking a date.
    Panaceia
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    edited December 6


    How old are you? 36

    How are you feeling lately? Much better, less morning sickness and fatigue.

    Have you had your first prenatal visit? How did it go? I went through IVF, so I've had weekly doctor visits for a while now

    Will you be doing the NT/NIPT? Yes, although this embryo was genetically tested since I had so many unsuccessful IVF

    Any questions? Yes, who the hell came up with the phrase "geriatric pregnancy"

    GTKY: Are you choosing a hospital, birthing center or home birth?  Hospital. One of the city's best hospitals is less than a mile from my house, and it's a certified baby-friendly hospital. I had my daughter there and was extremely pleased with the whole ordeal

    @literatureandink Right there with you.

    @CatWaffles no, I'm not worried but only because it's my second pregnancy. My first I worried about EVERYTHING. I mean EVERYTHING. I bought a hand held Doppler so I could check to make sure my baby was alive and I took my blood pressure every day because I was so worried I'd get pre-eclampsia and not find out in time. I even fretted about using my electric blanket the first trimester because can electromagnetic waves cause miscarriages??? Seriously, everything. But nothing went wrong. So this time, I'm purposefully not worrying and trying to enjoy everything more. It's much easier once you know for a fact that your body can do it and that babies are really resilient.
    Pregnancy Ticker
    Panaceialiteratureandinkindulgentgypsyblackhottamales
  • How old are you?   37, 38 next month *another Capricorn! @Happyin14

    How are you feeling lately?  Like absolute garbage. I’m nauseous all day every day, my boobs are huge and sore, and I’m so tired esp taking care of my two little monsters. 

    Have you had your first prenatal visit? How did it go?  First prenatal in 12/18, we already did sono, saw & heard heartbeat and baby is growing right on track :)

    Will you be doing the NT/NIPT?   Yes, have apt on 1/2 planned @literatureandink yes, I feel ya girl. 

    Any questions?   so, a company reached out to me to see if I’d be interested in working with them - which I totally am! Have been on 2 interviews and wondering if I should tell them I’m pregnant or let them know either after they make me an offer or even later like at 20 wks? 

    GTKY: Are you choosing a hospital, birthing center or home birth? Def hospital, bring on the epidural and fast!!
    Panaceialiteratureandink
  • @fabcrab I'm interviewing for a job right now, and I'm not telling them until I get an offer. However, the job wouldn't start until Sept (it's a teachign position) so it wouldn't be a big deal. Legally, your pregnancy shouldn't be considered but that's not how it works in the real world. I would wait for an offer so that it doesn't affect their decision.
    Pregnancy Ticker
    blackhottamales
  • Thanks @tsa208 that’s what I was thinking too. I worry if I wait till 20wks - which would be the last week of Feb - they’d be weird about my keeping it from them since clearly I knew during the entire interview process. I reeeeealy hope I get the job bc it has amazing benefits, like 3 months paid maternity :) Good luck with your new job too!
  • Thank you all so much for your honesty. I hope none of us have to deal with a decision like that but it is a very real thing and sometimes I feel like message boards diminish the seriousness of some of these horrible diseases/afflictions.
    TTC #1 V. 2.0 since April 2018
    Me: 35; PCOS w/regular cycles since losing 100+ lbs
    BFP - 10/25/18 - EDD 7/8/19




    indulgentgypsyHappyin14Panaceiafabcrab
  • @fabcrab I agree with @tsa208 - While technically they can't hold a pregnancy against you, that's just not the way this world works, and they can always cover their discrimination with the old "someone else was a better fit". I hope you get it!! :smile:
    TTC #1 V. 2.0 since April 2018
    Me: 35; PCOS w/regular cycles since losing 100+ lbs
    BFP - 10/25/18 - EDD 7/8/19




    fabcrab
  • @tsa208 What is a certified baby-friendly hospital? 
    TTC #1 V. 2.0 since April 2018
    Me: 35; PCOS w/regular cycles since losing 100+ lbs
    BFP - 10/25/18 - EDD 7/8/19




  • tsa208tsa208 member
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    edited December 6
    @tsa208 What is a certified baby-friendly hospital? 
    It's a designation administered by the World Health Organization and UNICEF means the hospital has implemented certain measures related to successful breastfeeding, like providing lactation consultants, allowing rooming in (where the baby stays with you instead of going to the nursery), and initiating breastfeeding within the first hour of birth. It's primarily around breastfeeding, but you'll find other things correlate with the baby friendly designation, like undisturbed first hour, promoting skin to skin, delayed cord cutting, etc. When my daughter was born, the team did a very quick physical check but almost immediately just placed her on my chest and let us be. They were careful to be very quiet and leave us alone to let us bond while they sewed and cleaned me up in the background. I almost forgot they were there! She did the crawl over to my breast and started feeding very quickly. Maybe an hour later, they took her and cleaned her up and administered any tests but they feel that first hour needs to be a calm moment between baby and mother as opposed to giving the baby a bath, apgar tests, pricking their feet for the blood test, administering the eye goop, etc. They still do that, just later.

    Baby friendly hospitals are becoming more and more common, so if that's important to you, look for it or a hospital that is trying to get certified. Mine technically wasn't certified at the time I gave birth, but they were 95% there and got the certification later.

    https://www.babyfriendlyusa.org/about/

    If you don't want to breastfeed (and some women don't), I think it would be a bad experience though. 
    Pregnancy Ticker
    literatureandink
  • @fabcrab I hope you get the job, it would be awesome :) but I would look at the policies for when you would qualify for the benefits like 3 months of maternity leave. With my first I was at a company as a temp for 6 months, then hired on full time 2 months before I got pregnant. I was due in December and did not qualify for leave or benefits because you had to be there a full 12 months to qualify. 
  • @literatureandink I agree other posters you are not alone! I wasn't going to jump in but i figure i might as well and i wanted to answer your question: For us--it might be worthless since we already had the embryo tested--but if we hadn't we would be doing both tests without a doubt. i have to gather more information once i move to my OB. 

    How old are you? 35

    How are you feeling lately? blah

    Have you had your first prenatal visit? How did it go? I did IVF so lots of appointments, i have my second ultrasound next Monday--good so far.

    Will you be doing the NT/NIPT? need to discuss with doctor the benefits since we had our embryos PGS tested.

    Any questions? Anyone else feel super old when a 20 year old announces on here? I'm like whoa--i could be your mother (technically...)

    GTKY: Are you choosing a hospital, birthing center or home birth? Birthing center at a hospital.  We'll see how things go, but the hospital has a birthing center and I would be super interested in a water birth if possible. But again, i need to learn more later in pregnancy, still hesitant to make many plans until we get a little further along.  
    Panaceia
  • I will come back to finish reading and @ you ladies later. I have been so tired this week I can hardly keep up. 

    How old are you? 36

    How are you feeling lately? Mildly crummy, lump in throat nausea and serious food aversions but otherwise doing ok. I'll be 8w tomorrow, desperately hopeful that this is as bad as it gets for me. 

    Have you had your first prenatal visit? How did it go? Yep, but it was pretty anticlimactic. I met with the midwife who started the birthing center and talked about my medical and birthing history. We did blood draw and my progesterone is strong. Next week is my first US and I'm both excited and really nervous. 

    Will you be doing the NT/NIPT? I'm not. I've posted about this elsewhere and would be happy to discuss, but we just don't feel it necessary. 

    Any questions? 

    GTKY: Are you choosing a hospital, birthing center or home birth? I'm using a midwifery group with a birthing center with hopes of a VBAC. It was between that and a hospital midwifery group nearby that offers doulas as a part of their birthing experience, but I am fearful of the strictness of hospital VBAC policies. If I have to switch for some reason, I will go to that group though. 
    Lilypie Maternity tickers


    Panaceiablackhottamales
  • @indulgentgypsy yeah I thought about that too.  We haven't gotten to the compensation + benefits convo yet.  I only know about the maternity leave bc my friend who works there and is the one recommending me for the position told me when I told him I was preggo.  So we'll see what the fine print says... but fingers crossed bc I got ZERO maternity benefits with my first two babes.

    @literatureandink for sure! I'm in the wine business so that makes it even messier.  I can and will taste wine but def cannot indulge, which is almost a requirement (some would say perk, lol!) There will also be travel involved - likely to France in the first year- in which I may not be able to attend if it's too late in the pregnancy or if its right after the baby is here.  So I'm keeping my mouth shut for now.  This is the last baby for us and I could likely work for this company for the next 10 years. 
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