March 2019 Moms

Conception Question

*Please No Judgment*

My boyfriend and I were split up and I had sex with someone else on what I remember to be April 30, 2018 as I know I purchased the morning after pill the day after which was on May 1, 2018. I do not recall getting my period in the month of May, however I had also taken the morning after pill on April 17, 2018 (so I took it twice in a 2 week time frame... I know, I wasn't being the smartest). 

My boyfriend and I got back together the first week of May and he's the only person I've slept with since. I took multiple pregnancy tests tests throughout May and into June and all were negative. I noted in an app that I got my period June 5, 2018 - June 8, 2018 (I don't remember how heavy the actual bleeding was). I got my very first positive pregnancy test on July 6, 2018. I've had 4 early ultrasounds:

july 18 -- 5 w 4 d
july 27 -- 6 w 4 d
august 7 -- 8 w 1 d 
sep. 5 -- 12 w 1 d 

Is there anyway this could be from my encounter at the end of April, as I know sperm can live for up to 1 full week? 

Re: Conception Question

  • *Please No Judgment*

    My boyfriend and I were split up and I had sex with someone else on what I remember to be April 30, 2018 as I know I purchased the morning after pill the day after which was on May 1, 2018. I do not recall getting my period in the month of May, however I had also taken the morning after pill on April 17, 2018 (so I took it twice in a 2 week time frame... I know, I wasn't being the smartest). 

    My boyfriend and I got back together the first week of May and he's the only person I've slept with since. I took multiple pregnancy tests tests throughout May and into June and all were negative. I noted in an app that I got my period June 5, 2018 - June 8, 2018 (I don't remember how heavy the actual bleeding was). I got my very first positive pregnancy test on July 6, 2018. I've had 4 early ultrasounds:

    july 18 -- 5 w 4 d
    july 27 -- 6 w 4 d
    august 7 -- 8 w 1 d 
    sep. 5 -- 12 w 1 d 

    Is there anyway this could be from my encounter at the end of April, as I know sperm can live for up to 1 full week? 
    Hi stranger. If you got a period after having sex with notboyfriend then you are not pregnant with notboyfriend’s baby. You could also work back from your due date.

    Please read our board rules, change your username to something more recognizable and introduce yourself in the appropriate thread.
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  • *Please No Judgment*

    My boyfriend and I were split up and I had sex with someone else on what I remember to be April 30, 2018 as I know I purchased the morning after pill the day after which was on May 1, 2018. I do not recall getting my period in the month of May, however I had also taken the morning after pill on April 17, 2018 (so I took it twice in a 2 week time frame... I know, I wasn't being the smartest). 

    My boyfriend and I got back together the first week of May and he's the only person I've slept with since. I took multiple pregnancy tests tests throughout May and into June and all were negative. I noted in an app that I got my period June 5, 2018 - June 8, 2018 (I don't remember how heavy the actual bleeding was). I got my very first positive pregnancy test on July 6, 2018. I've had 4 early ultrasounds:

    july 18 -- 5 w 4 d
    july 27 -- 6 w 4 d
    august 7 -- 8 w 1 d 
    sep. 5 -- 12 w 1 d 


    Is there anyway this could be from my encounter at the end of April, as I know sperm can live for up to 1 full week? 
    What did the dating ultrasound say? I'm assuming you got some sort of dates from all those early ultrasounds. Eight weeks is right in the window for a dating scan. What are the numbers I bolded based on? Is that based on a dating scan or based on your calculation from that June period?

    If you actually got your period in June, then no, it is not possible that you got pregnant at the end of April. 

    I really recommend reading up on how ovulation and conception works, regardless of how this all works out for you.
    https://americanpregnancy.org/getting-pregnant/understanding-ovulation/
    That's something every woman should know. On average, a woman will ovulate between day 10 and day 21 of her cycle counting from the first day of your last period, although it can vary. If your period started on June 5, then you probably got pregnant sometime between the 14th and 25th of June. 

    Also, do you understand how pregnancy is counted? When you are "five weeks pregnant," you didn't get pregnant five weeks ago. Pregnancy is counted from the first day of your last period, even though you don't get pregnant until two to three weeks later. If those numbers I bolded are based on a dating scan, then that more or less lines up with getting pregnant in mid-June. 

    I'm not trying to be snarky or rude, please, please, please get a pregnancy book and read about how this works. 
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  • The numbers you bonded were based on dating scans. Based on my LMP of June 5, 2018 that I told the doctor my EDD would be March 12, 2019.  Based on my scans, more particularly my 8 week and 12 week scans, my EDD has been changed to March 18, 2019.  

    From my 6 week to 8 week to 12 week scans I have measured right on and my EDD has continued to stay at 3/18/19...
  • lovesclimbinglovesclimbing member
    edited October 2018
    The numbers you bonded were based on dating scans. Based on my LMP of June 5, 2018 that I told the doctor my EDD would be March 12, 2019.  Based on my scans, more particularly my 8 week and 12 week scans, my EDD has been changed to March 18, 2019.  

    From my 6 week to 8 week to 12 week scans I have measured right on and my EDD has continued to stay at 3/18/19...
    ... So, why did you ask the question? Do you think the dating scan is wrong? 

    Your due date moved a week later. So that means you got pregnant a week later than normal based on that LMP, which puts you even farther away from your one night stand. Seriously, PLEASE read a book or google on how pregnancy and conception works. It's not complicated. 

    Also, ditto @meggyme. We generally don't do lots of one off posts. This could have gone great in the questions thread pinned at the top. Please change your username to something other than knottienumbers and join in on our other threads. 
  • Lol, thanks for your help. I'm new to the app, at least posting on it, hence why my user name hasn't been changed and I did not realize I had to post a question within the question thread as opposed to just creating a post with a question. 

    I HAVE read up on how pregnancy works, how conception works, ovulation, etc. I've come to realize that fertilization doesn't necessarily happen on the day you have sex, that sperm can live for up to 1 week inside a woman's body, that it depends on a woman's cycle and when she ovulates (which could be on a number of days depending on how long her cycle is). 

    I also realize that my scans, and more than one, consistently put me even further away from my one night stand... I think I just am questioning due to the fact that I believe because of taking the morning after pill more than once, it caused me to miss my period completely in May and the fact that I don't remember how heavy my period exactly was, so I'm hoping not to be mixing it up with implantation bleeding. Although I'm assuming that by mid June I should've definitely had a positive pregnancy test had I conceived end of April-beginning of May. 

    Don't worry, I'll get right on to learning how to post properly and changing my username. I thought these apps were supposed to be inviting, non judgmental, and helpful for women? Doesn't feel that way to me today. Have a good one. 
  • keikilovekeikilove member
    edited October 2018
    @knottie024a870b72fe20e3 We really do want to be supportive and helpful here. At first it will seem like there are quite a few rules but you will get accustomed to them. You also learn people’s personalities. @lovesclimbing & @meggyme tend to have lots of helpful insights, focus on facts, & deliver those quite directly. Once you read some of their posts you’ll be able to interpret their tone without taking any personal offense. Hopefully you will get to know them (and all of us) and build strong relationships, albeit online. :)  

    Don’t worry about the morning-after pill influencing your lack of a period in May. Your dating ultrasounds have been consistent at a time in pregnancy where they are known to be the most consistent they will ever be. If there was any chance that you conceived earlier your baby would be a LOT bigger and your EDD would move you much closer to the one-night-stand date, not further away from it. Rest easy and enjoy the pregnancy with your boyfriend. 

    *PS: When you change your username you’ll probably have to log out and then back into the app before it updates. 
  • Ok, so do you not know how dating scans work? Those things are accurate to within 3-5 days. I just don't understand why you're still questioning when multiple dating scans agree with an early June period. 

    Even with sperm living for a week and assuming your June period wasn't actually a period, that still doesn't get you all the way to getting pregnant by the other guy's sperm in the window allowed by the dating scan time frame. 

    I fail to see how my posts weren't helpful. I never judged you for having sex with someone else; I never even mentioned that at all! Your posts come across that you don't understand how ovulation works, how pregnancies are calculated and how dating scans work. If you do, great. But there are women out there who don't, and your post most definitely came across like that. 

    There is zero reason to distrust the dating scan. However, if you really want to know, get a paternity test. You can take one now.  
    https://americanpregnancy.org/prenatal-testing/paternity-testing/
  • I’m very confused. Do you want it to be the one night stands kid? Because if not I don’t understand why you’re having a hard time accepting your dating scan results. 

    Anyway, I’m due 10 days before you and didn’t get a positive test til 6/26. So not getting a positive til July makes complete sense based on your dating scans and when your last period was. 
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  • No I definitely do NOT want it to be the other guy's. Thanks for reassuring me on this. I think the only other thing that I'm nervous about is having the baby early, I've looked up whether or not that would mean my conception date was wrong... but no info on that really.
  • Having the baby early means just that. Being premature would be just that. It is not possible for it to be notboyfriend's baby.

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  • @knottie024a870b72fe20e3 Welcome to our boards! I'm sorry you are feeling judged. I think people are just confused as to the reason for your question since all the facts you have presented makes it seem like you already have your answer. I'm guessing you're just looking for a little extra reassurance but for these types of things, I would trust your doctor's opinion. If based on the size and development of your baby, your EDD is mid-March, that would be your most reliable source of information and I think you can trust that this baby is not your ex's. We can't give you a better answer than the ultrasound tech and your ob/gyn or midwife.
  • Agreed, no reason to think it's other guy's, and with all those negative pregnancy tests into June, there really isn't any reason to think so. They would've been positive. 

    Sperm can live for a week, but there's really only like  days out of the month that your mucous is hospitable enough for that. 
  • In some cases, yes, having a baby early can mean a due date was calculated wrong. But that typically is when women have irregular cycles AND no dating ultrasound. Or that someone is lying or kidding themselves about when they got pregnant. In your case, you have multiple dating scans that all agree. And when the baby comes out, it's pretty obvious to a doctor or midwife when a baby is premature and when a baby is full term. 

    Unless you went to a seriously, seriously sketchy place for your dating scans, I would trust them. And even a seriously, seriously sketchy place is probably not going to be a month and a half off on dates. A week or two, sure, but not six weeks or more. 
  • Yes I had my first U/S done at Planned Parenthood transvaginally by an APRN. I had my following three U/S performed at my OBGYN office by ultrasound technicians. My 12 week scan of which was performed by an ultrasound tech who stated she had 30 years experience in ultrasound, including several years in high risk, too. 
  • Hey Knottie! Congrats on your pregnancy! I agree with what everyone has said here. Typically I try to make new mom's to be feel super super comfortable in this group because (as a first time mom-to-be myself) these first few months of pregnancy can be REALLY scary. There's lots of unknown, you never know what questions should be thrown at your doctor and what questions are "too silly" to bring into the doctors' office.... and on top of it in your case, there's the added layer of "what if". I get that the one night stand probably comes with a bit of guilt & anxiety but at this point you're far enough along (and have had enough ultrasounds) that there is truly no mistaking when you could have conceived. I know from experience when the anxiety is bad enough, you have your blinders on - no facts seem to reassure you from what you're scared about. And that goes for anything, not just pregnancy! I believe that with time you will start to feel better about it all... but as everyone else has said here, trust the scans. You've had plenty of them, and there's no way they're ALL wrong. Welcome to the group - and once you change your username, be sure to introduce yourself formally on the intros board so we can get to know you! 
  • I agree with @lovesclimbing. If all the evidence doesn’t put you at ease, the only way to know 100% is to get a paternity test done.
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  • @indigoheightsblog thank you so much for your kind response. Yes I think I am just looking for some extra reassurance as you stated. I have my 20 week anatomy scan coming up on October 31 and I know from then on out ultrasounds can be a bit off dating-wise so I'm hoping to still be measuring on track for this due date. 
  • @knottie024a870b72fe20e3 I know others have already stated this, but dating ultrasounds are very accurate, especially when they’re done early on. I would try to stop worrying, because due dates aren’t even changed at this point in your pregnancy. Your anatomy ultrasound is not a dating ultrasound and your due date will not be changed. 
  • You're good girl! No stressing. It's bad for baby :) The timing is definitely a little close for comfort if you're a natural worrier but trust that you're fine. You can always get a paternity test if it will help to ease your mind but there is just no way....... breathe and enjoy this time! 
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