@mmom3 it’s the worst with this one. I cry with joy, I cry because he’s growing too fast, I cry when he smiles at his siblings... I am a wreck. Knowing this will never happen again is so hard.
@megpeg - Lately I feel like I’m always in tears/weapy with him. Everything he does, every time the Huggies commercial plays, and it doesn’t help I just had a nephew born a few weeks ago plus my sister is having a baby in January as well. All this just constantly has me feel teary eyed multiple times a day. This is one of my favorite times when they laugh, giggle, play, squeal, and still want to be held. However, with two other kiddos I feel like I’m missing so many opportunities/time to be with him because we are always on the go or my attention has to be divided into so many different places.
@mmom3 I am with him all the time and don’t miss much and my 5 year old demands attention. I feel worst for my 10 year old- he misses out on a lot. He wanted to go to a football game this weekend but DH is out of town and I can’t imagine taking the 3 of them to homecoming by myself.
Declan has started pulling himself up to stand in his crib. Is there anything I can do to make it safer? He falls forward and hits his head on the bars.
How are you ladies feeling balance-wise? It's really been only about three weeks since my family's been in real life mode - with my husband and I both working and commuting, N being in day care, etc. I keep waiting for the day we'll get some systems in place that make it easier to juggle, but right now, it's a struggle! I'm sitting on the train mortified by how bad my hair smells because I seriously have not had time to wash it since the weekend lol. How are you ladies doing with it all - especially those of you with multiple LOs!
@ashtuesday Even though I only have one, and I get to stay home with her, it's a struggle to get systems in place. My last shower was Monday, and it was 10 minutes while LO played in her crib. I need to get better at letting her be by herself (with monitor on or in the same room) while I work or get stuff done. Dinner is the hardest. She doesn't like the chair she used to sit in. We have a pop n jump but sometimes she gets tired before the meal is ready... I look forward to seeing what others say. : )
It gets easier, you figure out a pattern that works and just make adjustments as you go. I'm lucky that both kids follow a schedule, so I know what to expect for the most part.
Right now I'm struggling because DS doesn't sleep much at daycare. Then when he gets home he is wiped out and I don't get to play with him much. Yesterday he literally got home from daycare, had a bottle and went down. Woke for his before bed bottle and then right back down. DH gave the bottles while I was pumping, so I didn't even hold him. Hoping for lots of cuddles this weekend.
Me: 30 H: 30 Dx: PCOS Married: June 2013 TTC#1: January 2015 BFP #1 8/24/15 | MC 9/3/15 at 6w2d BFP #2: 12/12/15 | DD born 8/29/16 TTC#2: June 2017 BFP #3: 7/15/17 | DS born 3/20/18
@fatstagnation Dinner is the hardest for us too! N has a PNP in the kitchen that she's fine in, but I just hate not directly interacting with her when I can. So we've been eating a lot of breakfast for dinner or other no fuss things... Like, 6/7 nights per week.
@becausescience 978% with you on the impact of LO not sleeping at day care. I hate having so little time with her being alert - what you described is the exact situation at our house every night. I actually keep her up to play a bit more than I should.
I hate that things aren't just nice and easy for us all, but it's nice having people to commiserate with.
Are your husband's not home or something? I make mine take Nate while I shower or cook dinner. Then I have him bring me Nate and shower him with me. I also wait to cook dinner until Nate goes to bed if it doesn't take long. But he also goes to bed between 5 and 6. I do everything that has to do with Nate so I make sure when I need something like a shower that DH takes him.
@mccurleya My husband doesn't get home until 7. He takes Nora then, so he can squeeze in some time with her, but I have no life force left in me to start dinner that late! I know being pregnant doesn't help - I'm in bed at 8 most nights these days (up at 5, for what it's worth).
@ashtuesday I have 3 kids and stay at home. I haven’t washed my hair since Monday and DH is gone until Sunday so I am not sure when it will get done because I didn’t think of it before he left. DH has started working out in the morning instead of at night so he can help more but still doesn’t get home until 7pm on the nights he doesn’t have meetings. If he had a meeting 9 at the earliest.
+1 for trying to find balance it helped when we switched LO’s feeding schedule and having my family so close. Weekends are better too now that DH isn’t working 7 days anymore. Commuting is hard - it feels like wasted time, plus the days I’m not busy at work so I’m just waiting for the end of the day. I know we shouldn’t but we let her sleep on us when we get home from work if she’s tired. I definitely feel like I don’t play with her enough - but my husband and family do a lot. I just try to narrate all the things I’m doing to keep her engaged and involved. Long story short I don’t have any advice, but it’s comforting to know that other moms are feeling this too.
It’s rough guys! I am on number five and still struggle with balance. We thrive on routine, so I try to stick with our routines as much as I can. The one thing I do think I have gotten better at is stopping to give them time when I know they need it. I think that just comes from knowing how fast all this goes and wanting to really enjoy them. I didn’t stop enough with my oldest and tried to do everything. It’s not possible, so try to put them before the dishes...if you know what I mean.
@megpeg - glad I’m not the only one who cried during Sweet Home Sextuplets.
I am a SAHM to 3 and my husband is gone 2:30 A.M. until somewhere in the 7-10 pm category at least 5 nights a week. It’s just me to get it all done and I’m struggling as well. Most days I’m lucky if I get a meal standing up. Evenings are the worst and haven’t figured out a good routine. Charlie is always fussy as well adding to the chaos.
@DDRRT1982 You hit it right on the head. I know that Nora has to be prioritized above all else, and I feel good about my ability to do that. But it is a personal adjustment. I'm typically someone who can't relax until everything around me is in order, but that's something I need to let go of. It's a process!
@ashtuesday I get that. It’s like I have a running list of what needs to be done and I have a hard time just “being” if you know what I mean. I try to do things when the baby is napping or playing with DH. It’s hard to figure out. I also agree about hormones - they are frustrating at times.
@ashtuesday I totally get the needing things orderly. I usually end up staying up later than everyone else cleaning so I don’t feel so overwhelmed in the morning when we start all over again and it all compounds and gets worse.
Sorry guys, I've been MIA dealing with extended family nonsense (aka stupid people doing stupid things and dealing with consequences)
We also struggle with balance. I stay home 5 days a week but have school work, house work, and baby. I tend to stay up well after LO goes to bed to study and get work done. MH gets home an hour before bedtime so he takes LO the second he gets home to spend some time with him while I make dinner. Sometimes there just isnt enough hours in the day to do everything.
any advice on getting stains out of baby clothes? Specifically formula/spit up.
I put what I thought was a cute outfit on her when we went to volunteer so PT students could practice evaluating baby milestones. Under the florescent lights, I was mortified to see yellowish stains on one sleeve and in the bib area.like, big ones. oops
I used to use something called Stain Stick but it doesn't exist anymore. So I bought the Oxy clean max force gel stick and as soon as I opened it - holy perfume. Sure enough, in tiny print it says "contains artificial fragrance allergens." It also didn't work that well on something of mine I tested it on...
I use shout spray & wash. I will wet, spray, and use a toothbrush to rub into the stain. Then I soak in hot water for a bit. I use this for newly set in stains. I also add regular oxy clean to every load as well. Bibs are also our best friend during the day!
I was surprised by the recent carrot stains! for some reason I thought carrot wouldn't stain. oops. Thanks for the suggestions everyone. trying to navigate what's effective and safe for LO.
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I don’t know if they’d help. This kind did not fit the front rail of the crib - but I think they have other types.
It gets easier, you figure out a pattern that works and just make adjustments as you go. I'm lucky that both kids follow a schedule, so I know what to expect for the most part.
Right now I'm struggling because DS doesn't sleep much at daycare. Then when he gets home he is wiped out and I don't get to play with him much. Yesterday he literally got home from daycare, had a bottle and went down. Woke for his before bed bottle and then right back down. DH gave the bottles while I was pumping, so I didn't even hold him.
Dx: PCOS
Married: June 2013
TTC#1: January 2015
BFP #1 8/24/15 | MC 9/3/15 at 6w2d
BFP #2: 12/12/15 | DD born 8/29/16
TTC#2: June 2017
BFP #3: 7/15/17 | DS born 3/20/18
@becausescience 978% with you on the impact of LO not sleeping at day care. I hate having so little time with her being alert - what you described is the exact situation at our house every night. I actually keep her up to play a bit more than I should.
I hate that things aren't just nice and easy for us all, but it's nice having people to commiserate with.
DH has started working out in the morning instead of at night so he can help more but still doesn’t get home until 7pm on the nights he doesn’t have meetings. If he had a meeting 9 at the earliest.
it helped when we switched LO’s feeding schedule and having my family so close. Weekends are better too now that DH isn’t working 7 days anymore.
Commuting is hard - it feels like wasted time, plus the days I’m not busy at work so I’m just waiting for the end of the day. I know we shouldn’t but we let her sleep on us when we get home from work if she’s tired. I definitely feel like I don’t play with her enough - but my husband and family do a lot. I just try to narrate all the things I’m doing to keep her engaged and involved. Long story short I don’t have any advice, but it’s comforting to know that other moms are feeling this too.
I am a SAHM to 3 and my husband is gone 2:30 A.M. until somewhere in the 7-10 pm category at least 5 nights a week. It’s just me to get it all done and I’m struggling as well. Most days I’m lucky if I get a meal standing up. Evenings are the worst and haven’t figured out a good routine. Charlie is always fussy as well adding to the chaos.
I also agree about hormones - they are frustrating at times.
We also struggle with balance. I stay home 5 days a week but have school work, house work, and baby. I tend to stay up well after LO goes to bed to study and get work done. MH gets home an hour before bedtime so he takes LO the second he gets home to spend some time with him while I make dinner. Sometimes there just isnt enough hours in the day to do everything.
I put what I thought was a cute outfit on her when we went to volunteer so PT students could practice evaluating baby milestones. Under the florescent lights, I was mortified to see yellowish stains on one sleeve and in the bib area.like, big ones. oops
I used to use something called Stain Stick but it doesn't exist anymore. So I bought the Oxy clean max force gel stick and as soon as I opened it - holy perfume. Sure enough, in tiny print it says "contains artificial fragrance allergens." It also didn't work that well on something of mine I tested it on...
Thanks for the suggestions everyone. trying to navigate what's effective and safe for LO.
PS can't believe we're moving to October Randoms!