Me: 29 DH: 30BFP #1: 3/16/2016 MC 12w5dBFP #2: 1/25/2018 MC 4w3d
I'm 35 years old and I want a child, but I suffer from extreme tokophobia, which is the fear of pregnancy and childbirth. It's quite bad with me. Every time I think about maybe getting pregnant, my hands start to sweat, I feel dizzy, I shake, and a wave of panic comes over my whole body. I know that at 35, I really need to get on with it if I want to have a child, but I am so incredibly terrified of the whole process of both pregnancy and birth that it seems impossible for me. I end up sobbing with fear every time my husband and I even talk about it, so much to the point that he's afraid to discuss it with me. I don't really know what to do. I guess I just need some help...any help...reassurance from people who have been through it, advice, resources I can turn to? People don't really seem to understand...they say it's normal to be afraid, but I don't think they understand just how bad it is with me. I'm hoping this community can help. Anyway, if anybody has any advice or reassuring words, I would love to hear it.
I don't understand why a board about "trying to get pregnant" wouldn't be the right place to ask for a little reassurance from people who are in a similar situation? I understand that medical professionals are good to talk to, but I was hoping for some positive and encouraging words. Clearly all I got was animosity.
#2 EDD: 09.2019
Didn't realize asking for encouragement was going to bring out the pitchforks.