December 2018 Moms
Jens_Hoes
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Any appointment updates?
Rants/Raves/Questions/Dear Diary?
GTKY: If you could make a 20 second phone call to yourself at any point in your life past, present or future, when would you call and what would you say?
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Weekly Checkin 7/30 for dates 12/1-12/8
Jens_Hoes
member
How far along are you? How are you feeling?
Any appointment updates?
Rants/Raves/Questions/Dear Diary?
GTKY: If you could make a 20 second phone call to yourself at any point in your life past, present or future, when would you call and what would you say?
Re: Weekly Checkin 7/30 for dates 12/1-12/8
Any appointment updates?
Rants/Raves/Questions/Dear Diary?
Not much happening around here. We have set a timeline of 3 weeks to get DS's big boy room done and get him moved over then get the nursery done. I think it's ambitious so we will see!
GTKY: If you could make a 20 second phone call to yourself at any point in your life present or future, when would you call and what would you say?
Past not an option? I'd call future me then and remind myself at how wonderful this time in my life is and that humble beginnings is what got me there.
ETA: Since past was added I would definitely call my past self to tell me that it gets better. That life is good and things will fall in place - just keep pushing through!
Any appointment updates?
Rants/Raves/Questions/Dear Diary?
Busy busy at work, so trying to get in a check in and a couple minutes of bump time before the day is lost to craziness!
GTKY: If you could make a 20 second phone call to yourself at any point in your life past, present or future, when would you call and what would you say?
This feels like cheating, but I would call future me how everything turned out and if she had any advice for me to make things even better.
Any appointment updates?
Had another MFM appointment today. Cervix was a liiiitle shorter, but the pessary was also displaced a bit. They readjusted it back into the proper position and my cervical length immediately increased by 2mm. I go back every week until 26 weeks.
Rants/Raves/Questions/Dear Diary?
Not too much to talk about around here. Except for the pregnancy stuff, life has been fairly uneventful, which is nice.
GTKY: If you could make a 20 second phone call to yourself at any point in your life past, present or future, when would you call and what would you say?
I'm conflicted on this. My immediate response would be to call myself 7-8ish years ago and warn myself about a very particular guy who was just truly awful, but I would only do that if I would still end up where I'm at today. I feel like if I hadn't gone through that experience, then I would have made some different choices in the following year and possibly wouldn't have ended up with H. It really made me change how I dealt with and felt about men and I think resulted in me appreciating H so much more than I think I would have otherwise.
So maybe I would just call my future self to get some reassurance that everything works out OK for my family.
Any appointment updates?
Rants/Raves/Questions/Dear Diary?
Rave - I did so much this weekend, that I just want to brag! I cooked enough food for the week for me and DH, pruned my tomatoes and tied them to supports, partly cleaned the office so there is room for my sewing stuff, partly cleaned the nursery (currently sewing room), and did the dishes and some other random stuff around the house. And had two naps because I was tired from all the hard work. Things are starting to get hard to do - I feel like I can only do something for a half hour, maybe hour, before I need a rest..
GTKY: If you could make a 20 second phone call to yourself at any point in your life past, present or future, when would you call and what would you say?
Totally would just call my past self with 1-2 lottery winning numbers
Any appointment updates? Nothing again until next Thursday for a regular fifteen minute appointment. I think they'll talk to me about the GD screening
Rants/Raves/Questions/Dear Diary? This is going to sound weird but, I can sort of see how people only have one child. We are in such a good groove with naps, and independent play, and thinking about getting back into the chaos of newborn fog and craziness is not appealing. But on the other hand, I see pictures of my DD when she was a few months old and she's just so snuggly. I almost wish I could have two babies as a result of one pregnancy but not twins lol I want both another girl and a boy, but I don't ever want to be pregnant again.
GTKY: If you could make a 20 second phone call to yourself at any point in your life past, present or future, when would you call and what would you say? My initial thought was to tell myself not to get back together with my college boyfriend and waste years of my life.
@hkom how are you feeling about all the cervical complications?
@ab_canada what will you find out from the genetics appt? And such a good idea about the lottery! I'd def do that too
@maureenmce I'm so glad to see that you're feeling okay this week - what a relief it must be for you!!
@ab_canada Wow - what a productive weekend! That's impressive!
@hkom Glad your appointment went well! Here's hoping things stay good through your 26-week appt and they don't have to make any changes.
Any appointment updates?
Rants/Raves/Questions/Dear Diary?
Rant: I'm very sad (and maybe, irrationally, upset) that TB app is no longer giving me daily updates about baby bean's size. How big is his palm/foot/head/etc. today???? I need to know! Lol! It was one of those things I looked forward to checking every morning, even if the progression didn't always make sense.
GTKY: If you could make a 20 second phone call to yourself at any point in your life past, present or future, when would you call and what would you say?
I would call me from about 2 years ago and tell me to stay hopeful about getting pregnant. After our first failed IVF (which was already after 2+ years of failed fertility treatments leading up that), I was in a very dark place and I was not emotionally or psychologically healthy. It was probably the worst period of my life. (Sorry for the depressing post. I would probably also like to have some winning lottery numbers, @ab_canada!!)
Started IF Feb. 2014
PCOS & MFI (low sperm count and motility)
3 Femara cycles w/natural intercourse over summer 2014, BFN
1 Clomid cycle w/natural intercourse Nov. 2014, BFN
IUI March 2015, BFN
IUI June 2015, BFN
IUI Oct. 2015, BFN
IVF Oct. 2016, fresh transfer, 2 day-3 embryos, BFN; nothing to freeze
IVF Nov. 2017, fresh transfer, 2 day-5 blasts, BFP; ectopic; 1 blast frozen
FET March 2018, 1 day-5 blast, BFP!
And yes, I realize it's not even August, lol.
Fake tree FTW.
And honestly, 2016 was DS's first Christmas and he was 2 months old and while I have a photo of him "putting an ornament on" it wasn't anything more special then last year. Every year when we decorate the tree he gets his own new special ornament to put on. I don't think I'll miss the magic of this baby helping and I'll still get a photo of her with her ornament.
So long story short, I plan on getting it before, decorating it that day, and being done
@hkom I am so sorry you're having to deal with this cervix complication. I'm sure it's super scary and stressful. Sending you hugs. How often are they checking you?
How far along? 21 + 4
How are you feeling? Tired, but I stayed up late reading a book. Pregnancy wise I feel really good. I’m planning on running today, so tomorrow I’d tell you how sore I am.
Appts/updates? No more appts until glucose test. I’ve already complained about how much I hate that.
Rant/Raves: I finally got hungry...but I’m really hungry all the time. I want a coconut ice cream.
20 second phone call? I’d probably give myself any kind of self confidence booster I could and show myself a snapshot of what my life looks like now. I worked really hard, made good and bad decisions, but doubted myself more than I should...if that makes sense. (Not smart enough, not cool enough, not as financially well off as others, etc.)
The genetics appointment is supposed to be "to make you feel better". Our baby has cleft lip/palate, which is a pretty common thing, I guess, and the rest of the anatomy and our family history) suggests that it's most likely isolated (ie it's just a fluke, not genetic). So they suggested doing an amnio to get "peace of mind" but I feel like it's just going to make me more nervous. I don't think there is anything an amnio would tell me that would change the next 4 months, so why take the risk?
Re: christmas decorating. I am definitely going to try to decorate once I go on mat leave (mid November). That way everything will be set up for when baby arrives, since I am sure we will want to take some pictures by the tree. We have a nice fake tree anyway, so it will last.
Any appointment updates?
Rants/Raves/Questions/Dear Diary?
I guess you could say it's kind of a rant. I hate that we still don't have a house yet. We have liked in this two bedroom apartment for the past 7 years and have been wanting to move for awhile. After finding out I was pregnant put more pressure on that. Sure, we could just rearrange apartment and take everyone's out of the second bedroom (which is currently where we have our living room, which I know might sound kind of weird), but my husband doesn't want to move anything. So, it kind of bums me out alittle not being able to get a nursery ready. And who knows if we will manage to get a house before the baby arrives, so she will probably just be sleeping in a bassinet for her first month or two, which I guess is not really the end of the world.
GTKY: If you could make a 20 second phone call to yourself at any point in your life past, present or future, when would you call and what would you say?
Hmm, kind of a tough one. I would probably call my past self and tell myself to not get discouraged so easily, especially when it came to getting my degree. I would have gotten my degree so much sooner.
Any appointment updates?
Rants/Raves/Questions/Dear Diary?
Any appointment updates?
Rants/Raves/Questions/Dear Diary?
Yessss @mag1cbeli3ver I really miss the daily facts!
GTKY: If you could make a 20 second phone call to yourself at any point in your life past, present or future, when would you call and what would you say?
I would probably call my future self and pass along some encouragement, love & reminders to focus on what's really important, not the little shit. Oh, and definitely give those lottery numbers!
DS: 12/20/16
EDD: 11/29/18
@ab_canada Yes. Lottery numbers. Great idea.
Tree discussion: DH has decided to create a new tradition (as of 2017) in which we put a fake tree up the weekend after Thanksgiving. Then, on Christmas Eve, we get a free tree from Kroger and haul that home and decorate it. Might be fun this year because we can take a very pregnant tree decoration and a newborn tree decoration photo.
How far along are you? How are you feeling?
22+1 today. Baby is getting to be the size of some large and kind of terrifying foods. Also, a guinea pig hehe. I'm feeling pretty dandy overall. Acid reflux is a bish. I get some back and sacral pain, especially when I get up after having been seated for awhile. My bump feels like it's growing in waves. It expanded and now I'm getting used to the bigger size. I'm sure it'll have another growth spurt here in the next few weeks.
Any appointment updates?
Yes! Finally! I had my anatomy scan yesterday and it went well! I actually found the ultrasound to be kind of boring compared to my first one at 9 weeks. You could see his whole body and him moving around a lot better when he was a tiny thing. Now, you're more focused on sections of him. He is healthy and 100% a boy lol. They did a partial 3D scan and I was a little disappointed that he doesn't really look like either of us yet. He has a very interesting nose.
I met my new OB too! She seems nice and knowledgeable. I think I'll like her.
Rants/Raves/Questions/Dear Diary?
Although it's still a month away, I'm getting really excited to visit my family in Vegas. I know it'll be hotter than the surface of the sun, but I can't wait for my family to see my bump and gamble a little. Oooh...and hang out in my dad's pool. It's going to be so fun!
I did not realize the Bump stopped giving me facts. I knew something was different among my 4 apps, but I hadn't pinpointed what it was. Does anyone know why they did this?
GTKY: If you could make a 20 second phone call to yourself at any point in your life past, present or future, when would you call and what would you say?
So many good answers already! I think, despite the potential risks, I would go back to college me and tell her a couple things: (1) stop dating that awful guy and enjoy yourself more! Date more and spend more time with friends! Also, take evolutionary psych because it seems really interesting! (2) major in speech pathology. It's going to be a much better fit for you long-term than psychology.
I probably wouldn't marry DH and I wouldn't be pregnant with LO right now, which are both awful to think about, but I do think I'd be a stronger, happier person. In the end, though, everything worked out just fine and I'm happy.