I need a haircut sooo bad, but my hairdresser is located almost an hour away. I don't want to drive that far, unless I'm getting colored, too. So I guess I'll keep my split ends and keep throwing up the messy bun
@lexidawg Ugh, I'm sorry. Did you by chance take a prenatal on an empty stomach? 99% of the time if I have any nausea at this point, that's why. But I still forget and do it Hope you feel better, either way.
@lexidawg Ugh sorry! Hope it was just a one time thing.
@Hollyyyyy I've had "get a haircut" on my list of things to do for weeks. I got one in March though... so that is actually not too bad for me. I'm a 1-2 per year haircut kind of person. Messy buns for the win!
@kadeephd Ah I have been terrible about getting my hair cut. I used to get balayage touch ups every 6-8 weeks, and would get it trimmed then, but I haven't gotten it done since last November, and now my hair feels so damaged. Thankfully my job for the most part doesn't require my hair to look super neat
@lexidawg random vomits have happened for me 3 times. No real rhyme or reason. Thankfully they are infrequent. Hoping yours is also random and you feel better!
I support keeping this thread going all week. My current bitch is that I never seem to have a good bitch on Monday, but by the end of the week I have a ton and no place to vent them!
My neighbors keep letting their dogs out at 5am or earlier and the dogs wake everyone up from barking. My other neighbor actually went over there and yelled at them this morning so I’m hoping tomorrow I might get more than 5 hours of sleep
DH complained of how "I'm NEVER in the mood" which is his excuse to why he texts me to see if I want to have sex rather than um... try. It made me equal parts feel bad/guilty & also just angry.
My mom, who has barely spoken to me in 6 months and told me that we can only have a superficial relationship because I invited my dad to DS’s birthday party, is all offended that I don’t know if I want to go on vacation with her. We went together in 2016 and took a later flight to get flight vouchers and we used some of the voucher money to go again last year, so in her mind it is a tradition now. DH and I were all excited to take DS to Texas to see my brother (who my mom also won’t talk to), but now she is acting like we owe her since she paid for the air b & b last time. Part of me is like screw it, it’s a free vacation, let’s go, but idk what kind of mood she will be in and now that I’m staying home and we are living off 1 income, idk if I can justify going in 2 trips.
@katy0990 I'm sorry for the mom stress. That sucks. I say skip the vacation with your mom. It's not worth it the added stress- just do an immediate family trip to Texas!
@temmetime My DH did this with our first somewhat often. I figured with this one he’d sort of expect the low sex drive, but he still whines every now and then instead of trying actual romance or helping around the house to lessen my crankiness. He acts like he knows with another there will be more chores, etc. but he doesn’t actually seem to try that much harder right now to help with chores unless it’s something simple. Blah. The worst thing is usually the dishes/DD sippy cups... and with the impending onslaught of bottles I am getting scared for the future.
Totally agree with the low sex drive. My DH thinks that groping me when I'm washing the dishes or making 13 year old boy perverted comments is going to work. I'm like, how old are we? Why don't you try some romance, get a babysitter, take me on a date or just helping out more around the house. Pregnancy plus running around after a 2 year old does not leave me with a lot of extra energy.
So over the weekend we were polling our families to see if they thought the baby was a boy or girl, since we have the anatomy scan this Friday. When we asked DH's grandma (sort of as we are walking out the door, so I was facing away from her), she says "well, don't they say it's how you carry it?" And proceeds to caress my butt as she says it!! WTF grandma?! I hate it when my own grandma gets too touchy but this is WAY over the line. I just hope my reaction was clear enough that touching was not permissible (I more or less yelled "and touching my ASS has something to do with how I'm carrying?").
I mean.. we are all prepared (and scared) for eventual belly touching.. but who expected ass touching?
@ab_canada iiickkkkk. I got 1 belly pat over the 4th, but it was from my favorite aunt, so I let it slide. I am seeing my in laws this weekend and my mil told me she could "see the baby" at 11 weeks (no woman, I'm just chubby), so I am not really thrilled to see what she'll do now that she actually can see the baby. Solidarity, sister.
I recently had my first belly pat also. I was not ok with it! I had a pregnant co-worker tell me she knows I’m having a girl because I’m only gaining weight in my thighs. Who says that?!! I blew up at my boss for her lack of empathy which led to a lengthy apology. I’m so annoyed with people asking how I’m feeling and then proceeding to tell me it only gets worse, followed by horror stories. These were all from last week but I’m still stewing.
My doctor’s office called and I missed it so they left a message. They said in the message they were calling to “discuss test results.” I got the AFP test a week ago and they do not call for negative tests, only if it’s positive. I called back but you have to leave a message so I spent about 2 hours thinking my baby has spina bifida or some other awful thing. She called back to tell me I am positive for group b strep WHICH I ALREADY KNOW. Wtf, Marci. This is why I don’t get other testing done. Those two hours of anxiety were not worth it.
That may be one of the only positives to carrying around a few extra pounds. No one can be quite sure I'm pregnant so strangers generally don't treat my stomach like a magic 8 ball.
@ab_canada@mch195 and @morgantu Ugh touching someone else without their permission is not ok. Even with my own sister, I ASK before I touch her belly. And just because it was ok last time, does not mean she'll want me touching the belly this time. And wtf is people commenting about your body ALL the time when you're pregnant. I don't want or need commentary on my belly, pregnant or not!
In case you can't tell, I also got my first belly touch this weekend. It was my SO's friend's wife's mother. I was very taken aback. Then she proceeded to tell me I don't even have a baby bump yet. Ok..... then why did you touch it??? You literally just groped my fat! Lol
Second bitch for today, SO is becoming very short with me lately. I guess he's tired of me complaining (though, honestly I haven't been complaining that much). He also tells me I need to stop being overly emotional. Really, I don't think I'm much more emotional than usual. I mean, I cry at dog food commercials, but I did that before I was pregnant.
I just called him to tell him I'm drained from this weekend, and when he gets home from work I'll need him to entertain the dogs for a bit since I've got a headache and need to lie down. I then got a lecture about how I shouldn't have driven all the way to see my parents (to celebrate their anniversary) the day after we hosted a bbq. Apparently, it serves me right and I should have expected to be this exhausted. Sorry, but that's not what you tell a pregnant lady. I just want some understanding and empathy, dude!
@rosebud332 Oh my god, all that anxiety for nothing! How awful! Glad everything's okay.
My bitchfest is just that I cannot figure out what to eat, like, on a daily (or multiple times a day) basis. Sometimes things will make me reflux puke, sometimes things will make me nauseous, sometimes things will just sit weird in my stomach and sometimes (like 5%) things will just go normally. But it's like...rarely the same pattern! Gatorade was so helpful to me Friday and now it's making me nauseous. Veggie sushi is normally the safest lunch I can have and today it's just sitting weird. I cannot believe how much I take for granted normal eating when I'm not pregnant. I will never take it for granted again!
Also wtf? The rest of my post got eaten by the app. Debating if I’m too lazy to type it out again, but here goes.
bf1 - A coworker went on vacation without telling anyone onsite until 2 hrs before leaving, and her “coverage” is offsite, so that means I’m doing most of the covering.
bf2 - My child refuses to ask a teacher for help wiping after BMs, resulting in way too many pairs of underwear thrown out (or scrubbed, depending on severity). Kid, at 4 years old, you can do so many things and do them well. But wiping your ass isn’t one of them.
@katy0990 well, my daughter gets an A for effort and tries to do it all by herself....
I think it was in the Oh Crap pottytraining book she says something about with her 6 year old, wiping is a 2-step process: first he does, then she wipes again to make sure he’s clean. I’d be totally cool with this status at school. We do that at home mosty, and it works well.
@rosebud332 A similar thing happened to me after the AFP blood test. The dr said she'd call in a day or two, then didn't. I assumed all was fine. I got a call from the office about a week later without a message. I called back to try to find out what they were calling about and they said they'd look into it and return my call. They didn't return the call. I called back again the next day to be told on the phone that AFP was negative. Wtf people, why didn't you just leave a message to that effect, or at least tell me that the first time I called? I stayed remarkably calm because I now expect this sort of thing from basically everyone. Most people are incompetent, disorganized, and/or lazy.
I’d mentioned to my family that I’d had a sip of SO’s beer recently and it was sooo good, and my brother said I’d probably be ok to have a glass occasionally. I told him that a nurse had told me that too, but for now I’m more comfortable with just sip here and there.
At a BBQ that night my mom asked if I wanted to try this beer some guy brought and I looked at it and it didn’t seem “worth it”- it was just some random import that didn’t sound great and had a pretty high alcohol content, for a beer. (Beer snob much?) But I took the tiniest (like wet my tongue) sip to pacify her.
Late that night, I was grinding up a prenatal vitamin in a shot glass to mix with water and make a little vitamin shot. It didn’t taste as bad as I thought it would, but I had to try something because I have these new, huge pills and I’d already tried cracking them in half and was still choking on them. Like I thought I was going to die in my parents living room while my niece side eyes me and says “throw up in the bathroom” levels of choking. Lol
Anyway, I laughed that the pill “shot” would be gross because the dog was interested in it (and dogs like gross stuff), and my mom offered me liquor. Wtf, mom, no. I said I might drink a beer occasionally. Not that I’m going to turn my prenatals into shots of hard alcohol.
Also, hey, I’m back. I feel so far behind. I’ll try to lurk some on what’s been going on while I was doing kid vacation. Just wanted to share that I’m back and b*tch about my family because it’s been a long week.
edit- typos... welcome back to those too. I never catch them until I post.
@kadeephd I should have expected it too to be honest. They’ve pulled crap like that before. My husband was pissed and wanted to call them back but I said it’s not worth it . Haha
Re: Bitchfest 7/9
DS: 12/20/16
EDD: 11/29/18
The worst thing is usually the dishes/DD sippy cups... and with the impending onslaught of bottles I am getting scared for the future.
DS: 12/20/16
EDD: 11/29/18
So over the weekend we were polling our families to see if they thought the baby was a boy or girl, since we have the anatomy scan this Friday. When we asked DH's grandma (sort of as we are walking out the door, so I was facing away from her), she says "well, don't they say it's how you carry it?" And proceeds to caress my butt as she says it!! WTF grandma?! I hate it when my own grandma gets too touchy but this is WAY over the line. I just hope my reaction was clear enough that touching was not permissible (I more or less yelled "and touching my ASS has something to do with how I'm carrying?").
I mean.. we are all prepared (and scared) for eventual belly touching.. but who expected ass touching?
Bahahahaha!
PS. Do I win the thread for the most fitting comment to the title gif?
In case you can't tell, I also got my first belly touch this weekend. It was my SO's friend's wife's mother. I was very taken aback. Then she proceeded to tell me I don't even have a baby bump yet. Ok..... then why did you touch it??? You literally just groped my fat! Lol
Second bitch for today, SO is becoming very short with me lately. I guess he's tired of me complaining (though, honestly I haven't been complaining that much). He also tells me I need to stop being overly emotional. Really, I don't think I'm much more emotional than usual. I mean, I cry at dog food commercials, but I did that before I was pregnant.
I just called him to tell him I'm drained from this weekend, and when he gets home from work I'll need him to entertain the dogs for a bit since I've got a headache and need to lie down. I then got a lecture about how I shouldn't have driven all the way to see my parents (to celebrate their anniversary) the day after we hosted a bbq. Apparently, it serves me right and I should have expected to be this exhausted. Sorry, but that's not what you tell a pregnant lady. I just want some understanding and empathy, dude!
My bitchfest is just that I cannot figure out what to eat, like, on a daily (or multiple times a day) basis. Sometimes things will make me reflux puke, sometimes things will make me nauseous, sometimes things will just sit weird in my stomach and sometimes (like 5%) things will just go normally. But it's like...rarely the same pattern! Gatorade was so helpful to me Friday and now it's making me nauseous. Veggie sushi is normally the safest lunch I can have and today it's just sitting weird. I cannot believe how much I take for granted normal eating when I'm not pregnant. I will never take it for granted again!
bf1 - A coworker went on vacation without telling anyone onsite until 2 hrs before leaving, and her “coverage” is offsite, so that means I’m doing most of the covering.
bf2 - My child refuses to ask a teacher for help wiping after BMs, resulting in way too many pairs of underwear thrown out (or scrubbed, depending on severity). Kid, at 4 years old, you can do so many things and do them well. But wiping your ass isn’t one of them.
I think it was in the Oh Crap pottytraining book she says something about with her 6 year old, wiping is a 2-step process: first he does, then she wipes again to make sure he’s clean. I’d be totally cool with this status at school. We do that at home mosty, and it works well.
I’d mentioned to my family that I’d had a sip of SO’s beer recently and it was sooo good, and my brother said I’d probably be ok to have a glass occasionally. I told him that a nurse had told me that too, but for now I’m more comfortable with just sip here and there.
At a BBQ that night my mom asked if I wanted to try this beer some guy brought and I looked at it and it didn’t seem “worth it”- it was just some random import that didn’t sound great and had a pretty high alcohol content, for a beer. (Beer snob much?) But I took the tiniest (like wet my tongue) sip to pacify her.
Late that night, I was grinding up a prenatal vitamin in a shot glass to mix with water and make a little vitamin shot. It didn’t taste as bad as I thought it would, but I had to try something because I have these new, huge pills and I’d already tried cracking them in half and was still choking on them. Like I thought I was going to die in my parents living room while my niece side eyes me and says “throw up in the bathroom” levels of choking. Lol
Anyway, I laughed that the pill “shot” would be gross because the dog was interested in it (and dogs like gross stuff), and my mom offered me liquor. Wtf, mom, no. I said I might drink a beer occasionally. Not that I’m going to turn my prenatals into shots of hard alcohol.
Also, hey, I’m back. I feel so far behind. I’ll try to lurk some on what’s been going on while I was doing kid vacation. Just wanted to share that I’m back and b*tch about my family because it’s been a long week.
edit- typos... welcome back to those too. I never catch them until I post.