What are you guys up to this weekend? Is it miserably hot where you are? How are you keeping cool? Yesterday here it got to 113 (ahhh!) and today is supposed to be 102, so I'll mostly be inside with a stir crazy toddler - how about you?
Not to rub it in, but it's actually really nice here today! I think the high is in the low-mid 80s, th humidity is low, and there is a perfect breeze. It's been in the mid-90s pretty much every day for the last week or two with miserable humidity, so today and tomorrow are a much welcome break. This next week it's back to 90s though
I may actually take some time and just go sit in the sun this afternoon, although I'll spend the whole time being sad because I don't have access to a pool.
My husband is doing a volunteer river clean up with his work and my DD and I were going to go, but decided not to because if the heat, and now I'm trying to come up with ideas to occupy a stir crazy 2 year old who got NO outdoor time yesterday. (And she is a high energy kid who needs outdoor time to run around!) I'm thinking dance party and jumping in her bed, haha.
Other than that we're gonna go shopping for some more summer clothes for her (and maybe a couple more maternity things for me and this rapidly growing bump) and have brunch with friends tomorrow.
We’re mellow weekend people, especially when it’s hot & sticky. Today I’ll probably swing by the laundromat and wash the sheets, then think about (hand) sanding the wood floors. Sunday we’re going to a local biergarten for brunch, then back home for reading & dog snuggling.
The Alabama Shakespeare Festival is going on now - all month, but I don’t know if we’ll actually get tickets. When we didn’t have A/C we learned that I get ultra cranky and retain heat too well. I’m afraid that if we go I’ll overheat and need quality time in a first aid tent with ice, fans, and elevated feet. Don’t want to pay for that!
NTNP since Dec 2012 | TTC since Jan 2016 Dx: Unspecified IF BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
@echo-charlietango Ooh a Shakespeare festival sounds fun but yeah I am basically avoiding outdoor events entirely right now. Enjoy the biergarten, reading and dog snuggling though!
Literally the same as @hkom regarding the weather. It’s a nice break today from the heat and humidity while still being super nice out. We have a wedding later today, but I’m hopeful it will be a million times better than the last I went to, especially because it is 5 minutes from my house! On our way to Walmart to try out their grocery pickup then hanging out until my mom arrives to watch my daughter while we go to the wedding. Happy Saturday!
Two fun things already happened (and I'm still not dressed!). #1 One of our amazing neighbors brought DH a trumpet (yesterday a different neighbor brought us tomatoes and cucumbers from her garden). #2 We found out that DH's work trip in France will be when I'm 28-29 weeks, so now we need to find out if spouses can come, because my OB already said that I'm good to fly international until 35 weeks. FX!
Hey...thinking about international bumpies, where has @samfromfrance been? How is @deutschmama been since she's back in the states?
NTNP since Dec 2012 | TTC since Jan 2016 Dx: Unspecified IF BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
I’m also excited to finally have a break from the heat and humidity. Sorry @maureenmce and @echo-charlietango that you are not getting a reprieve. DS had swim lessons this morning and was okay with me letting go of the noodle for the first time, so that was exciting. I’m currently hoping he naps while I get ready to go to a family cookout here in a bit. I really need to buy some maternity shorts. I feel like I either overdress or look dumb in my postpartum casual ware that fits so awkwardly now.
@katy0990 I'm happy today was a good swim day! And definitely go buy some maternity shorts, I practically live in mine to escape my surprisingly oppressive pants.
NTNP since Dec 2012 | TTC since Jan 2016 Dx: Unspecified IF BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
Well, shit. My daughter has a 102 fever and has thrown up three times mostly spit from working herself up from sobbing the last 45 minutes. She finally fell asleep on me around the time the Tylenol would have started working. I don’t know how I will get ready for this wedding lol and frankly I don’t really want to go
Oh geez, poor DD! And you. I hope she feels better STAT. But maybe a good excuse to skip the wedding?
Also appreciating a heat break here in central IN. But it’ll start warming up again tomorrow, I think. Tonight, it’s Dave Matthew Band round 2 for me. They played such a good set here last night, I’m super excited to see what they do tonight.
Now.... I need your shampoo recs. I’ve been using Living Proof Perfect Hair Day for a few years now, with classic Head & Shoulder every so often. My hair has changed so much postpartum . [ETA - maybe not SO much, but it seems more coarse than it used to be] That plus general shampoo fatigue has me eager to try something new. I have mid-back length, slightly wavy, fairly normal hair. Whatcha got??
@Jens_hoes Oh no I hope your daughter feels better soon! A wedding five minutes from home sounds too good to miss.
@echo-charlietango France would be a nice babymoon -- hope you get to go!
It's beautiful here today. Sorry to those of you who are still dealing with unbearable heat. I went out with a friend this morning to do some thrifting. I scored an ergobaby carrier and baby bath at a garage sale for $10, then found an infant insert for said carrier at goodwill for $4! I'm feeling accomplished. I also had a good meeting with my advisor yesterday, who said I will pass my qualifier Tuesday "with flying colors" and that the first three pages of my paper are very well written (the paper was 25 pages long ) so I'm feeling good about taking it easy this weekend. I do need to edit my presentation before Tuesday... but that will probably be done on Monday.
A-maz-ing weather yesterday and today, feels like early fall and I am loving it! Last night DS told us how excited he is for baby sister - cue the tears!! DH is working all day but DS and I enjoyed a lunch date, painted some pottery and then treated ourselves to icy drinks at Starbucks. Now we’re lounging at home til hubby gets home. Tomorrow we have a cookout to go to that everyone is looking forward to.
@kadeephd YAY for your good meeting with your advisor!!
@hoosiermama-2 I have long, wavy, fine hair - but a lot of it. Its weird in that my scalp gets oily, itchy, and dirty feeling very quickly if I skip more than a day of washing, but I need a fairly heavy conditioner for my ends because they split easily. I started using the Paul Mitchell tea tree lemon sage at the beginning of the year and I loooove it. It has a nice subtle smell and it does every thing I need it to. The biggest thing is that it keeps my scalp clear and feeling clean even if I have a skip a shampoo, which is huge as I've never found anything else that does that for me.
@Jens_Hoes Oh noes! Surprise fever is totally excusable - maybe she’ll be feeling better later and pop into the reception?
@hoosiermama-2 I also have slightly wavy normal hair. I’ll admit that I usually shampoo about twice a week - more if I’m sweating, but my hair is up 98% of the time, so nobody notices. Link time!
NTNP since Dec 2012 | TTC since Jan 2016 Dx: Unspecified IF BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
@Jens_Hoes sorry your daughter is sick. So miserable when it feels like there is nothing you can do to comfort then till the tylenol or ibuprofen kicks in. Hope she feels better soon!
@kadeephd congrats on the good news and the awesome deals. I too love my ergo.
@maureenmce any indoor air conditioned malls for some dance party time? It’s tough when the littles are cooped up with too much energy and nowhere to put it.
We’re in Maine for the weekend and it’s lovely today - hot in the 80s but not humid, breezy by the beach. Totally perfect summer weather. I’m also enjoying dressing cute without worrying about whether I am announcing my pregnancy with my outfit.
My only complaint is sunburn . Normally I’m crazy-diligent about sunscreen, but I’ve started breaking out in a huge rash from sunscreens (so far 3 different ones) and didn’t feel like dealing with another allergic reaction. I thought I was more careful today but oops, burnt.
I was just lurking the January board again (why are they so entertaining?!) and I just want to voice my appreciation for how it seems like a lot of us here seem to be on the same page re: not being super interested sex with our partners (I can't even remember what thread this was discussed in). They are all lamenting about how terrible it is that they are down to *only* like 3-4 times a week and I'm just... exhausted and annoyed just thinking about that. I would be feeling so bad about myself if I was in that board.
Afm, down at Beaver Lake in Arkansas with the ILs. Meeting up with one of my fellow March 16 ladies tomorrow! I probably won't be checking in much the next couple days.
Thank you all! My mother showed up and took over and distracted her enough for us to sneak out. She sent me lots of pics and seems to do be doing ok loaded up on Tylenol. My niece actually has the same symptoms and felt sick a few hours after DD, so I’m pretty sure they both caught something at the 4th of July party we went to. Fingers crossed it’s a 24 hour issue. This wedding is turning out to be much better more than the one a few weeks ago, and I got my glass of wine!
Yesterday was a lake day! Boat, swimming, sunburn (oops) and a carnival at the end- yay cheese fries! Today is a chill day, grocery store, yoga, straighten up the house.
@runrinserepeat Haha I mean I'm certainly not in a dry spell over here. It just seemed like EVERYONE over there was on the same page with 3-4x practically being celibacy, which was kind of weird.
ETA: FFFC: That thread on our board kind of made me feel a lot better about myself but I would have been panicking if the January discussion happened here.
NO ONE should feed bad for low frequency though. Everyone is different. Husbands and partners can just suck it up.
So I forgot to cancel my le tote.... just got a box of non maternity clothes and it was not super fun lol. But there is one cute dress that is tight and I probably wouldn't have worn non preg but I'm gonna give it a whirl with the bump! Will show off for hdbd this week
Re: sexy sex I'm thankful that DH is mature and understanding. After our most recent romp (we had to break in the new house!) I apologized for not feeling too sexy and let him know that it’s all me & hormones. He said something about how growing a baby can’t be easy, then brought me ice cream
@morgantu I’ve really been thinking about subscribing to a bump-friendly box. Have you tried other boxes?
NTNP since Dec 2012 | TTC since Jan 2016 Dx: Unspecified IF BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
@echo-charlietango i haven't. Le tote has a maternity box, but it's $60/ month and I can spend that to keep clothes I'll wear with the next pregnancy (fx). It's just hard to justify the price for me now. I had the regular box on hold for a few months and forgot to cancel, which is how this all happened anyway
@hoosiermama-2 I started using the Dove more often because I was washing a lot, and got dandruff. Now I’m still using it because I have it and don’t want to throw out perfectly good shampoo! Before the dandruff I used all Japanese products because I love how they smell and make my hair shiny. The Rose of Heaven line is pricy, so that’s a treat (even DH likes using my rosey hair towel). I buy non-rose shampoo refills on Amazon otherwise because they’re affordable and make my hair feel fancy.
NTNP since Dec 2012 | TTC since Jan 2016 Dx: Unspecified IF BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
Re pregnancy sex: I am definitely on the lower end too. We both have a lower drive in general but I just don’t like my body changing so it’s hard to be into that for me.
The DD illness saga continues. She woke up crabby but ok. I’ve been loading her up with drugs and her fever is gone, but she has a rash basically on her whole body, pretty bad in her diaper area. The rash seems like it’s getting worse by the minute and maybe some blisters so might be HFM. She is on her second nap of the day, which is unlike her (as she was only awake for 1 hour before going back down). I’ll be calling the pediatrician first thing in the morning.
@echo-charlietango Yay for mature and awesome husbands! Mine's been such a peach so far. I may have to treat myself tyour rose shampoo. I had actually been searching for a rose-scented shampoo/conditioner at the beginning of the year and that brand never came up!
@hoosiermama-2 I have completely untreated hair (no dye or anything) and it works great for me!
@Jens_Hoes I'm sorry your daughter is still sick! That doesn't sound fun All fingers and toes crossed it's not HFM.
@echo-charlietango I got a maternity Stitch Fix recently but didn’t love anything enough to keep it. Definitely worth a try though! I can send you a referral code if you want
I’m also on the lower end of drive. Pre-babe I tried to hit 3-4 times a week with H but now we’re lucky if we can fit it in twice a week. Just, long work hours, baby, me never initiating. Blah. BUT THE SEX DREAMS, lemme tell you what.
Me: 31 | DH: 31
Together since 2003 | Married 2010 TTC #1 January 2016 BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016 Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018 BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
@Jens_Hoes I’m sorry she isn’t feeling better. HFM sucks @echo-charlietango I have had the same thing happen to me. Although, I told my DH that while I LOVE ice cream, feeding it to me to help me feel better does nothing for the body image issues
@Jens_Hoes I’m sorry she’s not feeling well. Fx it’s not HFM and that she’s feeling better soon.
+1 to the low end of the sex spectrum. We both have relatively low drives and pregnancy plus just busy busy busy makes it harder to find the right time.
I’ve wanted to try stitch fix forever, I just can’t justify spending that much of maternity clothes. I just went through my closet trying on dresses, because I have a work trip in two weeks. Some of them fit fine and look fine. One is tiiiiiiiiight, but I think it’ll get the point across very clearly that I’m pregnant, and that’s probably what I’ll wear on day one so my new customer doesn’t have to play the “is she or isn’t she” game the whole time I’m there.
Spent 5 hours at the pool with the kids. I’m beat, and DH isn’t going to be home until after their bedtime tonight. Fx I make it longer than the kids.
Re: pregnancy sex. Not sure when this convo happened, but I'll chime in lol. I've definitely had an increased sex drive lately. My old BMB actually just did an After Dark thread this weekend in our FB group and I've been in the mood all weekend. Unfortunately we're on a weekend trip with my ILs and we have a room right next to them, and a squeaky bed, so...
ETA oh yea! Got to meet up with a gal from my March 2016 BMB! We had a fun day at the pool with our families. Just something for everyone to look forward to with this group! I love meeting other March mommas!
I participated in pregnancy sex conversation. At that time.. I was still on pelvic rest. Since it's been lifted, we've done it a couple of times. My drive has definitely increased this trimester.
Re my weekend... today was rough. Skip if you don't want to read sadness. I have a pool in my apartment complex. I decided to take my kindle and read by the pool for a few hours. All of a sudden, the lifeguards jump into the pool and pull out an elderly neighbor who was drowning. The thought is he had a stroke or heart attack while swimming. The lifeguards worked on him until EMTs got there and took over. They worked on him for over half hour. He didn't survive. I am just so so sad. I didn't now him but it was a hard day for all those who witnessed what happened. I can't stop thinking about his family.
Re: Weekend Randoms July 7-8
I may actually take some time and just go sit in the sun this afternoon, although I'll spend the whole time being sad because I don't have access to a pool.
Other than that we're gonna go shopping for some more summer clothes for her (and maybe a couple more maternity things for me and this rapidly growing bump) and have brunch with friends tomorrow.
Hope you guys have a fun weekend!!
The Alabama Shakespeare Festival is going on now - all month, but I don’t know if we’ll actually get tickets. When we didn’t have A/C we learned that I get ultra cranky and retain heat too well. I’m afraid that if we go I’ll overheat and need quality time in a first aid tent with ice, fans, and elevated feet. Don’t want to pay for that!
Dx: Unspecified IF
BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks
BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
@echo-charlietango Ooh a Shakespeare festival sounds fun but yeah I am basically avoiding outdoor events entirely right now. Enjoy the biergarten, reading and dog snuggling though!
We have a wedding later today, but I’m hopeful it will be a million times better than the last I went to, especially because it is 5 minutes from my house!
On our way to Walmart to try out their grocery pickup then hanging out until my mom arrives to watch my daughter while we go to the wedding. Happy Saturday!
@scaredunprepared Enjoy your bbq
Two fun things already happened (and I'm still not dressed!). #1 One of our amazing neighbors brought DH a trumpet (yesterday a different neighbor brought us tomatoes and cucumbers from her garden). #2 We found out that DH's work trip in France will be when I'm 28-29 weeks, so now we need to find out if spouses can come, because my OB already said that I'm good to fly international until 35 weeks. FX!
Hey...thinking about international bumpies, where has @samfromfrance been? How is @deutschmama been since she's back in the states?
Dx: Unspecified IF
BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks
BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
Dx: Unspecified IF
BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks
BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
Also appreciating a heat break here in central IN. But it’ll start warming up again tomorrow, I think. Tonight, it’s Dave Matthew Band round 2 for me. They played such a good set here last night, I’m super excited to see what they do tonight.
Now.... I need your shampoo recs. I’ve been using Living Proof Perfect Hair Day for a few years now, with classic Head & Shoulder every so often. My hair has changed so much postpartum . [ETA - maybe not SO much, but it seems more coarse than it used to be] That plus general shampoo fatigue has me eager to try something new.
I have mid-back length, slightly wavy, fairly normal hair.
Whatcha got??
@echo-charlietango that would be amazing!
@scaredunprepared have a great time at the BBQ!
@kadeephd Congrats on the positive feedback and on the ergo steal. I loved my ergo!
Hope everyone has a good weekend.
@kadeephd That's amazing news about your qualifier and your awesome deals!!
@hoosiermama-2 I have long, wavy, fine hair - but a lot of it. Its weird in that my scalp gets oily, itchy, and dirty feeling very quickly if I skip more than a day of washing, but I need a fairly heavy conditioner for my ends because they split easily. I started using the Paul Mitchell tea tree lemon sage at the beginning of the year and I loooove it. It has a nice subtle smell and it does every thing I need it to. The biggest thing is that it keeps my scalp clear and feeling clean even if I have a skip a shampoo, which is huge as I've never found anything else that does that for me.
Dx: Unspecified IF
BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks
BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
@kadeephd congrats on the good news and the awesome deals. I too love my ergo.
@maureenmce any indoor air conditioned malls for some dance party time? It’s tough when the littles are cooped up with too much energy and nowhere to put it.
We’re in Maine for the weekend and it’s lovely today - hot in the 80s but not humid, breezy by the beach. Totally perfect summer weather. I’m also enjoying dressing cute without worrying about whether I am announcing my pregnancy with my outfit.
My only complaint is sunburn . Normally I’m crazy-diligent about sunscreen, but I’ve started breaking out in a huge rash from sunscreens (so far 3 different ones) and didn’t feel like dealing with another allergic reaction. I thought I was more careful today but oops, burnt.
Afm, down at Beaver Lake in Arkansas with the ILs. Meeting up with one of my fellow March 16 ladies tomorrow! I probably won't be checking in much the next couple days.
DS2 due 12/12/18
My niece actually has the same symptoms and felt sick a few hours after DD, so I’m pretty sure they both caught something at the 4th of July party we went to. Fingers crossed it’s a 24 hour issue.
This wedding is turning out to be much better more than the one a few weeks ago, and I got my glass of wine!
ETA: FFFC: That thread on our board kind of made me feel a lot better about myself but I would have been panicking if the January discussion happened here.
NO ONE should feed bad for low frequency though. Everyone is different. Husbands and partners can just suck it up.
I'm thankful that DH is mature and understanding. After our most recent romp (we had to break in the new house!) I apologized for not feeling too sexy and let him know that it’s all me & hormones. He said something about how growing a baby can’t be easy, then brought me ice cream
@morgantu I’ve really been thinking about subscribing to a bump-friendly box. Have you tried other boxes?
Dx: Unspecified IF
BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks
BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
@hkom I've never tried a Paul Mitchell product. I've always assumed they were for treated hair because... I'm dumb? I'll give em a look.
Thanks, ladies!
Dx: Unspecified IF
BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks
BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
The DD illness saga continues. She woke up crabby but ok. I’ve been loading her up with drugs and her fever is gone, but she has a rash basically on her whole body, pretty bad in her diaper area. The rash seems like it’s getting worse by the minute and maybe some blisters so might be HFM. She is on her second nap of the day, which is unlike her (as she was only awake for 1 hour before going back down). I’ll be calling the pediatrician first thing in the morning.
@hoosiermama-2 I have completely untreated hair (no dye or anything) and it works great for me!
@Jens_Hoes I'm sorry your daughter is still sick! That doesn't sound fun All fingers and toes crossed it's not HFM.
I’m also on the lower end of drive. Pre-babe I tried to hit 3-4 times a week with H but now we’re lucky if we can fit it in twice a week. Just, long work hours, baby, me never initiating. Blah. BUT THE SEX DREAMS, lemme tell you what.
TTC #1 January 2016
BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016
Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018
BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
@echo-charlietango I have had the same thing happen to me. Although, I told my DH that while I LOVE ice cream, feeding it to me to help me feel better does nothing for the body image issues
+1 to the low end of the sex spectrum. We both have relatively low drives and pregnancy plus just busy busy busy makes it harder to find the right time.
Spent 5 hours at the pool with the kids. I’m beat, and DH isn’t going to be home until after their bedtime tonight. Fx I make it longer than the kids.
ETA oh yea! Got to meet up with a gal from my March 2016 BMB! We had a fun day at the pool with our families. Just something for everyone to look forward to with this group! I love meeting other March mommas!
DS2 due 12/12/18
Re my weekend... today was rough. Skip if you don't want to read sadness. I have a pool in my apartment complex. I decided to take my kindle and read by the pool for a few hours. All of a sudden, the lifeguards jump into the pool and pull out an elderly neighbor who was drowning. The thought is he had a stroke or heart attack while swimming. The lifeguards worked on him until EMTs got there and took over. They worked on him for over half hour. He didn't survive. I am just so so sad. I didn't now him but it was a hard day for all those who witnessed what happened. I can't stop thinking about his family.