Hello - I lost a baby girl at 20 weeks pregnant 6 months ago. The pregnancy was very normal and healthy until it wasn’t which was shocking and devastating. I am very grateful to be pregnant again and recently found out it is a boy. I am much more disappointed and sad than I thought I would be and feel like it’s reopened the grief process all over again. We just thought our family was starting with a little girl and while we can’t replace the baby we lost with another girl it’s like giving up that future you imagined all over again. There are a lot of different layers as to why I was wanting a baby girl but long story short I could just use some encouragement. I want to feel happy and excited about what a boy will bring not sad about what I’ll miss out on with not having a girl. I almost feel like I want to avoid telling friends or family that I’m having a boy because comments/opinions on gender just upset me and feel like I’m dismissing the baby I lost and desperately wanted.
What do you love about being a boy mom? How did you cope with gender disappointment? Obviously after everything I have been through bringing home a healthy baby is all that matters and I know that but could still use some support and encouraging advice. Thank you!