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Weekly Randoms 6/25

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  • @mockingjay1 aw I can’t wait to feel stronger baby kicks! I’ve felt little bubbles and rolls, but nothing from the outside yet. I’m so happy you got a big ol hello from baby! 

    @wildrainbow that is too adorable. He sounds like such a sweetheart. 

    @BabyBoyH92016  have fun on your girls trip! Take advantage of your me time for sure! 

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  • We received a letter today telling us which program schedule DD was accepted in to for preschool in the fall. They offer a few different schedules, and they put her in the one I wanted the least due to it being the most amount of days a week for a longer period of time than the other options.  After reading the letter I definitely got tears in my eyes and a knot in my stomach thinking of her being away from me for the amount of time she will be. Being a SAHM, it’s been me and her everyday since she was born. I’m not sure who is going to have a harder time adjusting, her or me. Anybody have any helpful tips or personal stories to help a hormonal pregnant mama out with this change? 
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  • @pink_polkadots Read The Kissing Hand with her and The Invisible String too. Plan on some Big Feelings when she is home for a few weeks while she adjusts. Both of my kids struggled to adjust in different ways and it took a few weeks for us to get into a routine but she will absolutely love school. My daughter starts pre-K every day this fall (she only did preschool two days a week) so I’m anticipating lots of adjustment and big feelings over here too. We can commiserate together. 
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  • I felt like I had newborns last night. Both kids were asleep by 8. I fell asleep at 9. My son woke up with leg pains (growing pains- he’s going through a big growth spurt) at 11. My daughter was up with a nightmare at 12. Then she was up and had to pee at 2. Then my husband got a Work call at 4. We are all zombies today. 
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  • @pink_polkadots hugs! Finding that new rhythm can be overwhelming and you will feel all sorts of emotions, but she will love school. You will get special one on one time with the new baby, which will be amazing. And those pre-k hours fly by! I work part-time, so my kids have been in school part time since they were 10 months. We bumped DD up to full time last fall and she loves it. Now that it is summer, she asks if she can go to school instead of staying with the nanny. 

    My random is our home has two showings this week. It officially hits the market next week, but our realtor did pre-marketing and has a few people coming through. Of course an odd smell developed in the back part of our house. I cannot find the cause of it for the life of me and am going insane. My sense of smell is so strong and DH doesn’t think it is that bad. I’m nearly convinced something has died somewhere and this is just the start of the smell. I hope I’m wrong and it somehow passes overnight. 
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  • @wannaflickone @lifesabeach85 thanks for the tips! Before DD, I was actually a preschool teacher, so I have some experience handling OTHER people’s kids when they had separation anxiety. But now with my own, I feel like I’ve forgotten everything I used to do to help those students. Plus, I’m gonna be an emotional mess myself. I definitely don’t want DD seeing that mommy is upset when she goes to preschool. 
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  • @pink_polkadots I think about DS going to school someday on the regular, and it always leaves me feeling a little sad. As others have already mentioned, I'm sure it will be a major adjustment. I don't have anything constructive to add, since I don't have my own experience in this yet, but my heart is with you, mama!

    @bfpafter4years 11 other offers!? Whoa! Congratulations on your new home! Such awesome news. 
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  • @bfpafter4years - Congrats on the house!! That is so exciting!

    @mockingjay1 - it's amazing they you had such a strong movement! Can't wait to feel it too. Good luck to your hubby and hopefully you get an offer soon.

    @pink_polkadots - I am thinking I will have similar seperation issues when I have to go back to work. All the advice given so far sounds really good though. Sorry I have nothing to offer but good luck! 


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  • sw va ladies & east tn ladies (or seasoned road trippers) i’m crowdsourcing for recommendations to stop/stay overnight or take quick breaks along i-81 next week between harrisonburg and knoxville (driving between wv east panhandle and northern alabama).
    halfway would be around the tn/va border, so overnight recommendations +/- 2 hours from there would be good. begging for something reasonably close to the interestate (it’s a long drive, and i don’t want to extend it too too much). i was hoping to find something resort-style with a great pool. dd is just over 3, so something like wilderness at the smokies is more intense than i’m looking for. but a relaxing hotel or b&b with a decent low key downtown area for walking around is great too. 

    places to take a 1ish hour break anytime along the way is also appreciated. something appropriate for a reasonably well behaved 3yo. restaurants/tourist places? thanks all! i really appreciate anything you can throw my way.

    one way, we’re staying at a hampton inn in pigeon forge and planning on spending a half day at the ripley’s aquarium.
  • @bfpafter4years Congrats on getting the house!!!
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  • @bfpafter4years - Congratulations on the house! How exciting! 
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    DS born 11/2014
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    Pursuing IVF with CCRM - ODWU done - IVF set for May-June
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  • Hello everyone! Thought this would be the place for this. I haven't been on at all lately but I am not leaving. We have had lots of things going on.

    We were looking for a new house (over a year now) and finally found one that met our short list or difficult requirements and accepted our offer so we had to get our house de-cluttered and clean to put on the market. I have never sold a house and boy does it suck, especially with a toddler and dog. So glad baby is in utero or I might go crazy. Its been on the market a week with multiple showings but nothing yet. (Where I live the market is hot for sellers so its discouraging.) Not to mention I don't do well with change so I am a bit anxious. 

    As if selling a house wasn't stressful enough my sister-in-law lost her battle with breast cancer 9 days ago. This sucks even more. She was only 38. My DH is the rock and I am the blubbering, anxious stressball in our relationship but am trying so hard to keep my s**t together for him as he goes through losing his sister. We still haven't figured out how to tell our 3 year old son. I really don't think he will understand but he deserves to be told. 

    On a happier note but anxiety inducing beforehand we had our 20 week ultrasound yesterday. (We did not do early testing.) Baby is healthy so that was a relief. He/she was a mover during so made it a little difficult to get some good shots but we got a few movies out of it. We have an envelope with if baby is a boy or girl but am not sure when we will open it. My family and I were planning a BBQ with baby reveal but I have decided to cancel. A baby reveal party was never a big priority for me and with everything going on I am just in the mood to have DS, DH and I find out together instead of the hoopla. 

    I may not be on much for a bit as we have my DH extended family coming into town for the memorial service this weekend and if we sell our house packing will ensue. I just wanted to stop by and say I am still here just not active at the moment. Hope everyone is doing well!

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  • Hi ladies. I'm so sorry I've been absent. I've been dealing with a lot,including (TW) some crippling depression. I've gotten help for it and am being monitored by my OB now. If you're interested in hearing about it I'm posting in a spoiler box what has been going on. Advanced notice, TW:

    I've mentioned before DH and I were trying to adopt 2 children. These 2 children are my cousins. They are living with their grandma, my aunt, now, but my aunt was not committing to adopting them and the state wanted them moved to us, since we did. We did everything, bought them beds and waited for the state to move them. Both kids were excited, worried when I announced the pregnancy, but we assured them it changed nothing. Then, in May when the kids were supposed to be moved in with us the older one changed their mind, started telling lies about not knowing us and just took a 180 degree turn. My aunt, having been informed they were coming to us pending adoption, decided she would now adopt them. The guardians and the courts side with my aunt, the state is fighting for them to come with us. We went to court earlier this month and it was basically a waste of time. My aunt is pissed at DH and I for trying to take the kids, but it was the state that wanted them moved and we went with it. She has been told we were the back-up since she had not made a decision yet, and they wanted them to remain with family. On top of all this, once my aunt decided she wanted them, she told my dad (her brother) and he told DH and I to drop it. Harsh words were exchanged and we've barely spoken since.

    The day after we learned about the kids in May, I was let go from my job of 6 years due to restructuring and them making my position obsolete. I was completely blindsided by this. I had a phone conference with HR at 3 and was told that day would be my last day. No warning, no 2 weeks, no severance, just the option to file for unemployment. They claim not to know I was pregnant, but I texted the head of HR when we announced and she claims to have never received it. No point in a lawsuit. So here I am, pregnant and job searching. I've had several leads and am waiting to hear back from 3 after final interviews Friday and yesterday.

    DH is having his own family issues that are tearing his immediate family apart now, but I won't get into that. It's just another stress on us. We know how things are going to turn out and there is no good resolution. So we are just waiting for everything to blow up.

    I did tell you I came down with bronchitis. I was lucky this time, didn't turn into pneumonia. DH and DS managed to stay healthy, thank goodness. My recovery time wasn't bad, only 2 weeks this time. Still have weakness in my lungs and I now am back on medications I weaned off of years ago because I still get random coughing fits.

    With all of this going on I became severely depressed. I've battled depression since I was a teen, was even suicidal back then. Well, those thoughts came back, and the only thing keeping my sanity was DS and this baby. DH called me out, saying I was detached and distant. I did try hiding it from him because he didn't need any more stress in his life, but you can't hide something like that from the person who knows you better than you know yourself for the past 12 years. So I told him. I broke down, telling him the thoughts I was having and I was hanging on by a thread. He was pissed I kept it from him. His job offers counseling services, 10 free sessions for him or a spouse/child, and I got into it. It's helped. My fear was pregnancy hormones making everything worse, but we cannot confirm.

    I'm back on the mend. My OB is monitoring me, and because at the anatomy scan fluids were in one of the baby's kidneys, they are sending me to a MFM specialist. I know it's a common issue and she's fine, they just want to make sure it doesn't get worse or just resolves itself. The counselor is helping, too. The thoughts are gone. Still depressed, but I'm looking at finding a new job as a new opportunity. All 3 I'm waiting to hear from are work from home and the pay is better than at my old job. I'd also have the opportunity to advance in these companies, unlike my previous job where I was stuck. If we don't get the kids, DS can use the furniture we bought for them and not need a new crib for the baby. We can't control DH's family, but we can limit how much exposure we have to them, since they are several states away.

    If you managed to read through all that, bottom line, get help if you are depressed and/or suicidal. It's been one hell of a journey and I'm not quite done with it yet. DH has been a huge help, as has my previous BMB. Putting it all down here has also helped.

    If you didn't read through it, TL;DR version - several events that occurred in a relatively short period of time, and potentially hormones from pregnancy, caused my depression to rear back up on top of suicidal thoughts. I'm on the mend, talking to a counselor and being monitored by my OB. I will be okay.

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  • MojieJoMojieJo
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    @blue2mango I'm so sorry for all the stress you're under and the loss of your SIL.  What a tragedy to lose her so young. :frowning:

    I hope everything improves as much as it can soon and I'll keep you and your family in my prayers.  Hang in there and hold tight to your family. :heart:
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  • @blue2mango I'm so so sorry about the added stress and the loss of your sil, thinking of you! 

    @phoenix870509 thank you for sharing your major battle with depression and I'm so glad you've got help and I pray you continue on the mend. 
  • @phoenix870509 that's so much for anyone to handle at once.  I'm glad you have a support system thats willing to help and you're getting better.  





  • @blue2mango - I am so sorry for the loss of you SIL. I hope selling your house and moving goes as well as it can. 

    @phoenix870509 - I am so sorry you're having such a hard time. That would be a lot for anyone. I'm so glad you got some help and I hope things continue to get better for you. FX you get offered at least one of those jobs!
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    Dx: PCOS - on metformin
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    TTC #2
    5 failed IUIs
    1 IUI ending in mc & d&c at 9.5w - girl with trisomy 16
    Pursuing IVF with CCRM - ODWU done - IVF set for May-June
    Surprise BFP 3/5 - Rainbow baby due 11/9/18 - Team Green[/spoiler]

  • @phoenix870509 Oh man, it sounds like you're having a really rough time.  I'm so sorry, but I'm glad you're working on getting better <3 know we're all here for you and I hope things start going the right direction soon.  And you are absolutely correct all you can do is control how much exposure/influence the family stuff has on your life.  

    @blue2mango I'm so sorry to hear about your SIL :(  Good luck with moving and hooray that baby is doing well!  



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  • @phoenix870509 I'm so sorry you are going through all of that, but I'm very glad you reached out and are getting help. I've also struggled with depression, so it's good to see others talking about it as well. *internet hugs*
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  • @blue2mango So sorry you are dealing with all that stress on top of losing your SIL. Thoughts and prayers being sent your way. 

    @phoenix870509 I am so sorry that all this happened in such a short time, but I'm so happy you are getting help and feel that it's been beneficial for you. Thinking of you during this difficult time and hope things continue to stay good for you. 
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  • @blue2mango : thoughts and prayers for you my dear, and lots of positive energy! I hope this storm passes quickly. 

    @phoenix870509: I am so glad you have been able to seek help, I know it's not easy. I've been there not too long ago, so I remember what it's like. I'm also the kind of person to try to hide it so I'm not worrying anybody. Be kind to yourself, allow yourself time to heal. 
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  • @blue2mango Terribly sorry to hear of so many hardships happening all at once. It sounds like you're being as strong as possible for your husband, and he will definitely need that right now. There will be no easy way to tell your three-year-old, and you're right, I'm not sure how much he'll understand. Maybe someone who has experience with loss and young children can be more helpful. Just do the best you can, and know that we're always here for you to come back to if you need to get some things off your chest. Selling a house is rough stuff all by itself, and I hope you're relieved of that burden soon. I'm thrilled that baby is doing well, though, and when the three of you open that envelope together, I trust it will shed some happiness on an otherwise trying time in your lives. Sending so many hugs your way.
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  • @blue2mango I'm so sorry for your loss. I wonder if your pedi could give you some resources for how to talk to a toddler about loss. I hope opening that envelope and hearing some exciting news about your sweet baby will bring your little family some comfort at this time

    @phoenix870509 That is so much to deal with. What a crazy situation with your family. I am so glad you were able to recognize that you needed help and ask for it. Depression is no joke, and you are a strong woman.


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  • @blue2mango I am so sorry to read about your loss. You are dealing with so much. I hope you get an offer soon so some stress will be lifted on that front. We also just started the listing process (our home is being built, so need to sell). I don't think we will ever move and sell again. 

    @phoenix870509 Thank you for sharing everything you did. I'm so glad you have been proactive and were able to ask for help. You are incredibly strong for doing that. Thinking of you.
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  • Congrats @phoenix870509! That's great news!!

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    Married: March 2016
    TTC #1/IUD out January 2017
    PCOS dx January 2018
    Medicated cycle 2.5mg Letrozole CD3-7 February 2018
    BFP 3/10/2018!!!! 16DPO Beta 1: 732 | 18DPO Beta 2: 1278
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  • BabyBoyH92016BabyBoyH92016
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    @pink_polkadots I’m in the same boat. I stay home with my nearly 22 month old and enrolled him in a morning preschool program in the fall for 5 mornings a week. I feel like I need time to adjust to the new baby, and also feel like he would be much happier in preschool with other kids and lots of activities. He is NOT a homebody at all, and when he’s not eating or sleeping, he’s trying to get me out of the house to go and do something, so we are out and about for a good portion of each day. It won’t be possible to get out as much with a baby. I’m sad that our one on one time is coming to an end, but definitely feel like he will enjoy Preschool way more the being at home with a newborn. 

    @blue2mango I’m really sorry for your loss. 

    @phoenix870509 I’m sorry you are going through such a rough time, but am happy you are getting help and on the upswing.

    @bfpafter4years Congrats on the house!!! So exciting especially since you are in a tough market! I hope everything goes smoothly through closing! 
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  • @blue2mango I am so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you and your family as you go through this hard time. I can only imagine how much more stressful it is with you being pregnant, and hope things become less stressful soon. 

    @phoenix870509 glad to hear you were able to get some help and am sorry you are also going through a tough time. 

    This is such a supportive community and it’s so nice to see how many people have offered words of encouragement and support! 
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  • @blue2mango sending hugs and thoughts your way. I am so sorry for your loss. 

    @phoenix870509 I’m so sorry. You have so much going on. I’m so glad you’re able to get help. Know that you always have support here. I have struggled with anxiety for many years if you ever need to talk. 
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  • @blue2mango I am so sorry to hear about your loss! Thinking about you and yours in this time..
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  • @blue2mango i am so sorry for your family’s devastating loss. cancer is horrific, and it’s extra heartbreaking when your loved one is so young. sending you strength as you navigate through the service and the weekend. positive vibes that selling your house becomes a better experience soon.

    @phoenix870509 i am so glad that your husband reached out to you and his company offers such important counseling. we are here for you if you ever need extra support. you are never alone. i’m so sorry you’ve had such a rocky road these last few months. i sincerely hope everything works out for the best. 
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  • So I just got a doppler. I thought it might help my anxiety. However, I couldn't pick baby boy's heartbeat up. It definitely didn't make things worse (because I know this is a big compliant of them) however I am disappointed not to have that reassurance. 

    On a good note though, I don't think he liked being poked and let me know it. At least I think, I still question sometimes if it is really him poking me.
  • @BabyBoyH92016 MH and I visited Burlington several years ago and loved it. Have you been before? It's such an amazing city!
    @wannaflickone Any luck finding the source of the mysterious smell?  :#
    @bfpafter4years Congratulations!!! I hope everything goes smoothly from here on out. How exciting!
    @blue2mango I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your SIL. I'll be keeping your and your H's family in my prayers. Good luck with selling your house too. You have a lot on your plate right now and that must be so stressful. Don't forget to take care of yourself during this time to make sure the stress doesn't build up.
    @phoenix870509 Thank you for being so brave and sharing about your depression. That is really scary; it's great that YH noticed and said something about it instead of ignoring it. Good for your for accepting help and going to counseling, even though it must have been hard to take that step. I'm so sorry for all the family drama and all the stress you've been under. I hope no matter what that your cousins are well cared for, but I'm sorry it caused so much awful drama and tore the family apart. 
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  • @highsteaks Winchester, VA had lots of great places to stop, and there's a great Italian restaurant near Radford, VA. I have done a lot of traveling on I-81 between North West VA and TN. Also Charlottesville always has a lot to offer when stopping even though it's primarily a college town. Want sure if you're referring to the WV NE panhandle or further south?
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