STAYING SEXY

knottie2b890bf9b3fac7d6

ugh omg so I need advise! I’m 9 weeks pregnant and have No interest in intercourse what so ever. My husband is always complaining about how I don’t be waiting to please him anymore and I don’t dress up sexy anymore or anything!! I keep telling him well look I don’t feel good and I just don’t want to be kissed or or anything so get over it I’m pregnant. 

What at are you guys thoughts? Is anyone else dealing with this?

echo-charlietango

#1 Recommend changing your username from the default. 

#2 Sounds like dude needs to grow the F up. You’re his SO, not some pleasure-bot who exists for his entertainment. 

Edited to add: But if you *are* a pleasure-bot I recommend running a self diagnostic, and reboot. Run HankyPanky.exe or similar. 

Further edited to include: TheBump isn’t really a place for relationship advice. If your SO continues to show you little respect, please seek professional counseling.

AdorkablePixie

@echo-charlietango OMG. lol The pleasure-bot comment.

trucksntutus

Sounds like your man needs to grow up. I went thru a period in time while pregnant with my first that I did not want to be touched whatsoever. Even someone brushing up against me made me cringe. It passed though, and hopefully it'll pass for you also. But, regardless your SO shouldn't be relying on that as a part of your relationship or be complaining about trivial things. You're growing a tiny human. 

ccccaaatt

Pregnancy sex is the best sex! 

rosebud332

For some people it is the best sex. For some people it is the worst sex. For other people it is the medium-est sex.

AGK2015

No advice really, just emphasizing that you're not crazy, and your husband is being ridiculous in his expectations. Libidos fluctuate over time, even without pregnancy. If he intends to be married to you for the long haul, he needs to recognize that sometimes you're not going to want it as much as he does, sometimes he won't want it as much as you do, sometimes you'll both be insatiable, and there may be times where you guys can go a couple months and neither of you misses it. Times like that are why we evolved hands (and detachable showerheads). 

That said, sometimes there are compromises to be made; if he needs fodder for the spank bank, maybe a low-cut shirt on date night to show off your new assets? If he's really just looking for physical touch, ramping up the hand-holding or making a concerted effort at cuddling could help. That said, it's not an obligation if it makes you miserable, and even in marriage no means no (which means he needs to understand that those things, if you're willing to do them, aren't a precursor to sexual intimacy). 

k_m10

I’m going to be super blunt: Home boy needs to grow the f*** up.
Woman or man, unless you’ve been pregnant before, you have no idea what this feels like. I certainly didn’t. On Saturday I was crying to my H because I threw up 3 times and was so miserable. While he can be sympathetic, he doesn’t fully understand. I’ve had zero interest in sex since I got pregnant, and he gets it. Frankly I feel like a bloated manatee. 
Marriage is about compromise and understanding.

laurench912

 I'm throwing up literally daily and super constipated so to be 100% honest we haven't had sex in about 7 weeks and i am lucky my husband is being totally understanding. Marriage goes through times like this and I'm sure in a few months you guys will be back in a normal routine. Men really don't understand what we are going through and honestly they can suck up the lack of sex part, which to me is the least they can do because they don't have to be pregnant.