GTKY: How many kids do you want?

lifesabeach85

While plans change and surprises happen... what's the current plan for the size of your family?

pink_polkadots

Lol @ “the Duggar” 

CopperBoom86

I've always wanted two. DH originally didn't really want any, but now he wants three or maybe even four lol. Our little girl has him wrapped!

lifesabeach85

I’m leaning three, but DH is pretty set on two. We have agreed to see how we feel when #2 is a year old or so. 

Some good friends of ours went for #3, ended up with surprise twins, and are pretty stressed/overwhelmed. So he points to that as a cautionary tale. 

Look at everyone so avaerage! I thought we would get some more big families and some more one and done. 

erinmarie86

I'm not sure--can we add that option?  this is #3 and most likely the last...but idk

ashkee05

I can’t lie I was totally ok with one. Then I met my husband and he wanted more so we had one more. I literally hate being pregnant. All the bad things happen to me. Hg, terrible skin, varicose veins, preterm labor. So I was done. But then we were surprised with this pregnancy. Which will definitely be my last. I am happy, it’s pretty clear this was meant to be. I’m just looking forward to never doing this again. 

MrsMCBMar2014

Originally I wanted just one. Had my DS and I was happy with that. My ex-fiancé wanted 4 of his own. We split and I met my husband. He said 2 of his own. We have a DD and we hope that this baby sticks as this will be my last pregnancy. 

sarcaztic1016

Well I originally wanted 2 but right around when DS2 turned 17 months old all I could think about was having a third. So, here we are. I am caping it at 3 though and H will get a vasectomy after. 

runningyogimama

erinmarie86 said:

I'm not sure--can we add that option?  this is #3 and most likely the last...but idk

Same!

babyfeverbeliever

Doing the Duggar made me lol!

I have a wonderful stepson from my husband and we are expecting our first together. I would like one more after this one.

pelorunningmama

We are done after 3. DH probably would have been fine being done after 2, but I needed one more. He will probably get a vasectomy after our 3rd.

GearUp

I want 4. This baby will be number 3 for us and probably the last. There is a large age gap we are looking at  and my husband is happy to stop after this one.

tessiesmom26

This is our first, but both MH and I are only children so our kids won't have any aunts, uncles, or cousins. Because of that, we want at least two, possibly three. 

mockingjay1

We're unsure if we want 2 or 3. 

KristoKekerooni

I always wanted as many as I could pop out. Duggar style. But, alas, we had to do IVF for this one, so I'm sure we will just use up what embryos I have frozen and then be done.

brennag2518

I really want four but my husband wants to be done after this one (#3)... we will see! Usually I win in these situations...

onechoctawgirl

I always thought four was a good number. I come from a family of seven kids so one or two just feels like too small a number, and what I like about four is none are suck with middle child syndrome, haha!  But I got married in early thirties, then husband and I tried for a little over three years for my first. I am now on my second at age 37 and I have a stepson, so it might just be the three of them. The thought of twins scares me, but at this point I am thinking how useful that would be if randomly this pregnancy turned out that way. That would be my four before I got too old.

(not impossible either as my grandmother was a twin, aunt had twins, one of her twins had twins, *TW* and my mother miscarried twins. So it does run in the family...)

middleschoolmommy

I'm hoping for at least 2 natural children and then would love to adopt at least 1. Adopting is important to me.  My father was adopted, so I wouldn't be here without adoption. 

mrsclark731

I am very happily getting my tubes tied after this LO’s  planned cesarean. 2 is perfect. 

Thscary

We’re between two and three, but leaning towards two. 

purelex

I really want 3 but DH was an only child and originally only wanted one.  I convinced him of two and I think I may have got him to compromise with me on being a foster family if we don't go for a third.

mama1824

We are done at 3.  My kids are close together but am excited that I feel like after this baby is born there will be a feeling of having a complete family if that makes sense

jennak210

My DH wanted 1.  I wanted 4.  So we are compromising on 3.

This will be our third.  Our kids are so spread out in ages that I can't imagine having another with the same age gap as the others.  The nice thing is that knowing this will be our last means I can really relax and try to enjoy it rather than wishing for it to go quickly like I did for the first 2!  Don't quote me on that in the 3rd tri, though...

jennak210

GearUp said:

I want 4. This baby will be number 3 for us and probably the last. There is a large age gap we are looking at  and my husband is happy to stop after this one.

Same.  Similar age gap for us, too!  Our DD was born 12/15/08 and our DS was 9/21/12.  

With 6 years between our youngest and the one on the way, we'll be done after this one.

aemartinez

Right after kid#3 was born, we were sure we were done. Then when she was about 9 months, we kind of started walking the line between a forth and not, but felt crazy for wanting one more. Then we got a surprise pregnancy. At first I was freaked out and didn't know what to think, but then the idea grew on us and we were excited. However, I found out at the 17 week appt that we lost the baby at 14 weeks. After the d&e and some healing, we decided to try again. And here we are with #4 round 2. We feel complete with this one.

vrj0522

DH and I have always agreed on 4 and here we are, with our #4. This is definitely it for us. 

aels12

This is number 2 and we hope to have 3!

therealfrizzle

At first, I said 3. Then, the thought of 4 sounded fun, especially if we had 3 boys in a row. Then, 5 started to look appealing because I have a thing for odd numbers and symmetry and I'm weird like that. But, realistically,  3-4. And I think this bean is a girl, so no 3 boys in a row like I thought I'd have.

andromeda222

This is number one but I’d love to have 3! Dh wants to cut it off at 2 though. He’s afraid of being outnumbered

lifesabeach85

@PMForbie any reason behind your prediction for team pink or just a gut feeling? 

TheSouffleGirl

I used to want six because I envied all the big Irish families I met in college.  Adult sibling friendships are so amazing!  Now, I think we'll be lucky to get four since we're getting up there in years and I'm weak.  

concreteayngel

If I had started younger, maybe 3, but I turn 33 next week, and I’m pretty sure there’s no way I’ll want to do this again at 35+. I also thought I’d care more about having a girl (if I had 2 boys, etc). Turns out, I love DS and being a boy mom so freaking much that I’d actually prefer another boy. 

kecoff01

I would really love to have four, but I think DH will be done after this one, which will be our third.  He's been talking about a vasectomy.  I'm hoping he'll maybe reconsider, but I would be fine with three.

oaklandava

I had originally said one and DH said one. Then we decided for one more....and hopefully this one is it

therealfrizzle

@lifesabeach85 I'm not sick as a dog like I was with DS! LOL I've read stories where girls were easier 1st tris with MS and boys were so much worse, so I'm leaning towards team pink.

soehlerk

This is #1, and honestly we didn't think we'd get this.  We always dreamed of 2 (me) or 3 (him), but we agree we'll just see how the first one shakes out.

kecoff01

@PMForbie I have two girls and my morning sickness was TERRIBLE with both of them.  So if that's true and I'm having a boy this time then someone save me.

vicioustrollop

I want more than 1 or 2, but don't want an odd number so I guess that leaves me with having 4 lol

pink_polkadots

@PMForbie yea my sickness with my DD was AWFUL up until about 20 weeks. You can never trust those old wives tales, can you?

CanadianGamerMom

We've always known we want at least 3 kids. I put 4 because I'm not against having a 4th, but I can't see us having more than 4

lifesabeach85

@PMForbie I did not get any MS with DD fwiw but my sisters did with their boys. I’m not getting much now, so we shall see if it’s another girl!