Since there’s some registry talk here.... Expecting our second and friends are wanting to have a shower for me. Other than diapers and an easier diaper bag (and clothes depending on the sex) I can’t think of anything we really need. Anything you STMs wish you had for the next go around?
Depending on what your feeding plans are, I am also looking to get:
new bottle nipples (just a few to try, hopefully they like the same bottles) new pacifiers new pump valves/tubing (and hopefully new pump through insurance) Baby bath products extra diaper genie or pail and bags New burp cloths Sound machine double stroller (Lo’s will be 17 months apart) wrap/ring sling (until LO is big enough for our Lille) Extra camera for baby monitor
Im trying to keep it minimal but 2u2 is hard! Hopefully family will help out but I don’t want or expect another shower or “sprinkle.”
Since there’s some registry talk here.... Expecting our second and friends are wanting to have a shower for me. Other than diapers and an easier diaper bag (and clothes depending on the sex) I can’t think of anything we really need. Anything you STMs wish you had for the next go around?
I need a new infant car seat. I’m also going to register for a sit and stand stroller. Probably a few more cloth diapers. Number 2 is another boy, so we don’t need much in the way of clothes, but every thing to get the room set up needs to be purchased. I’ll put a crib/mattress and dresser on there as well as some decor items and crib sheets. I’m not thinking we’ll have another shower, but if anyone wants to buy us anything it’ll be there. And if not, I can use the registry discount at the end to scoop it all up. Edit: actually, we might need clothes. DS was born in January, so the seasons might not line up too well with the clothes we have. I should check that out
I already have a registry set up on Amazon that I've started adding things too because I can keep it private. It's mainly just to get the completion discount.
I will also set up one through BRU because that's most likely where I'll get our furniture and I want the completion discount there too. I've been waiting to make that one though until after we announce in case someone stumbles upon it somehow since as far as I know there's no option to keep it private.
MH's parents and grandparents bought our crib, mattress, toddler rail, dresser, and changing table topper for DS so I'm secretly hoping they'll do something similar for this one. And my parents bought our UPPAbaby Cruz so maybe my mom will want to help out with the Vista this time. I am 100% planning for us to be making those purchases on our own, but considering there won't be a shower to spend money on this time, I won't like that a little help on those specifics would be nice.
I really don't think there's much else we need actually. Nothing else big anyway.
_______________________________________________________________________________________________ MMC 8/5/15 at 8 weeks DS born 9/13/16 BFP 1/13/18 - EDD 9/20/18 - It's a boy!
@fwtx5815 Regarding the toxoplasmosis and cat litter, you can get tested for past exposure. If you've been exposed in the past, there is no danger to the baby. I have had cats my whole life, including outdoor cats when I was a kid (although my cats now are indoor. I requested to have that tested when they did my initial bloodwork.
I'm still having my husband clean the cat litter though
I’m mentally high-fiving you for this haha. I may ask about this at my next appointment since they’re taking allll the blood
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me: 27 | husband: 35 IR PCOS dx Sept. 2014
married May 2015 --> started NTNP BFP 6.28.15 - EDD 3.6.16 baby #1born 2.19.16
@shouse11 Where I grew up, the church ladies did a meal train instead of gifts for showers for second+ children. Basically, they filled the freezer with casseroles. Could be an option if you don't need any "stuff"!
@shouse11 the only thing we need is a double stroller. I’ll probably add things like new tubing for my pump, baby shampoo, a pacifier, and a lovey. We will also need another camera for the monitor but we’re doing construction and probably won’t be done until the end of the year so we won’t need that right away. I think we’ll put this baby in the pack n play until DD is old enough to move to a toddler bed at which point this baby will move to her crib.
I doubt anyone will throw us another shower and if anyone buys us clothes I’m returning or donating them (we have too many as it is, and my sister has a boy, so we are covered!) so the registry will mostly be for the one off requests to buy baby something.
@nackie and @DanyTargaryen I didn’t even “count” furniture. We will need another bedroom setup. We did the whole shindig for DS because his room is big enough for a convertible crib to bed, and got a nice non-babyish set that should last until he moves out. This new LO’s bedroom can’t accomodate all that, so I think we will go with a kids bedroom set with a cheap crib that can be packed up later. Since we don’t know what the sex is, we will pick out furniture after they arrive.
This hadn't been started this week.. I have a few questions for you STMs.
When did you start your registry?
Also, as soon as we are in the second tri, my mom wants to start buying "small" things here and there when she sees them on sale. Things like diapers, wipes, etc. What items did you ladies find that you were constantly buying? Items that are a for sure that we can start stalking up on? My H wants to start getting a pack of diapers every time we shop, but I know sizing can be weird. Recommendations on the size you used most? We also talked about getting onesies but I know you can never predict what size the baby will be, so would we want to start with a higher size and just wait?
I also want to get little baskets for breastfeeding started. (Bottled water, chapstick, diapers, wipes, etc)
I started my registry once I found out I was having a boy! I had Amazon and BabyList.
Diapers- my son was in newborn for a while (he was 6lbs) and size 1's- the size he has been in the most have been size 3.. we switched over I think close to 7 months and hes 13 months next week and still in size 3! He's a little guy though- average height but not on chart for weight. (17 lbs at a year)
For baskets- I would add some quick to grab snacks, hair tie, breast pads, nipple cream, burb cloths
Me: 28, DH: 30 Married July 2014 DX: Severe MFI- 3 failed IUI's, IVF #1 Egg retrieval June 4th 2016, 5 day transfer- BFP Baby Boy! EDD 2/25/2017. Our sweet miracle Carter Bennett arrived 2/12/2017 6 lbs, 2 oz 19 inches. Surprise BFP!!! Baby Girl due 10/1/2018.
Anyone here instructed by their doctor to avoid cat litter? My old doctor (left the practice after DS was born) told me the first time around to have DH handle all litter box duties. My current doctor hasn’t mentioned it at all. If it matters, our cat was a rescue but she hasn’t been outside since we got her 2+ years ago
Yep- I was also told this. I consider it a wonderful reason for my DH to have to do it haha...
Me: 28, DH: 30 Married July 2014 DX: Severe MFI- 3 failed IUI's, IVF #1 Egg retrieval June 4th 2016, 5 day transfer- BFP Baby Boy! EDD 2/25/2017. Our sweet miracle Carter Bennett arrived 2/12/2017 6 lbs, 2 oz 19 inches. Surprise BFP!!! Baby Girl due 10/1/2018.
@adirat I wish I knew enough people around me for a meal train.... having a bunch of people bringing over casseroles sounds much more appealing to me than a bunch of diapers right now.
@smsaulino I know what you mean. I have this idea that I want to meal prep some stuff before the birth. September is usually too warm here to use the oven, but by October we'll want some ready-to-bake casseroles, I'm sure. But if someone else wanted to meal prep for me, even better! haha
@smsaulino@adirat Yes! It is so much easier to buy a pack of diapers than prepare a meal. I didn't do a lot of freezer meal prep last time but wish I had! I was constantly hungry from BF and rarely had time to make myself a meal. I stocked our freezer last Fall when we started TTC thinking about how tired I was in my first tri last time, and it has been a lifesaver the past few months! Even just having things like homemade muffins I could heat up quickly for a snack has been great. And I will always say yes this time around when people offer to bring food!
Me: 32 DH: 32 BFP #1: 1/23/2012 DD: Born 9/20/2012 BFP #2: 12/30/2017 DS: Due 9/10/2018
PSA re: freezer meals! Don’t wait until the last minute! 12 days before my due date I was getting ready to make some freezer meals (maternity leave officially started the next day) and I went into labor. I have food allergies so it’s not so easy for me to just get takeout. This time I am definitely prepping them further in advance!
Yes! Love me some freezer meals! I made about 12 meals plus a few breakfast sandwiches last time and it was absolutely life saving. I’m hoping to double that this time. I can’t wait until the time comes closer so we can share recipes!
Back to the pediatrician recommendations - you can also always ask your OB if you don't have friends/family with kids in your area. OBs interact with pedis at the hospital all the time and will know which docs have privileges at your hospital, so that can help narrow down the search. My OB recommended my son's pediatrician and we absolutely adore him.
I think a general safe guideline is if your freezer meal is going into a regular freezer attached to your fridge (not a deep freezer), most things should be used within 3 months. So I prepped like 25 meals for DS and it was amazing. Most were crockpot, some were grill, and some were stove top. I would put the use by date on the bag/container. I also made a list of everything I made as I made it with a use by date and put it on my fridge, and we crossed things off as we ate them. I'm probably a bit over the top, but at the time my H didn't do a lot of cooking.
Some of my favorite resources: Damm Delicious- lots of crock pot/easy to freeze recipes Newleafwellness.biz -almost exclusively has freezer meals Sweetmakesthree Fabulously Frugal Six Sisters Stuff
Highly recommend using a food saver/vacuum sealer of some sort. Ask any questions you may have!
How close is too close to use the same name as someone else?
MH has zero boundaries here. He kept bringing up a certain name when we were trying to pick names last time, and while I like the name, it's his sister's name. And he would absolutely not be naming his child after his sister. He thinks if we like a name, we should use it, and doesn't consider that it will seem like we're naming our kid after someone. Or will seem like we're just ignoring their name, kind of like we're saying, "Oh, sorry you had the name Sara first, but this is the new Sara."
What if we like the name that a relative used for their kid - something like a 2nd cousin or some level of relation that I can't properly figure out what to call them; someone we're FB friends with and see in person maybe once every few years. That still feels a little strange to me but I think I'm probably being overly picky about that, right? At what point does name sharing become weird?
I'm guessing there's a lot of personal preference here. I try to think about what I'd think or feel if they named their kid MY name. But what's your limit on it?
2/13 Blighted ovum, D&C -- 6/13 MC -- 8/14 DD born -- 3/17 MC -- 9/18 DD2 born Expecting again -- EDD 7/27/20
@treeofcheem I think it comes down to the personalities involved. Dh’s sister has he same name as their grandmother, but is NOT named after her! They gave the sister the masculine spelling which has been a pain for her growing up. Otherwise, it’s the same name.
To me it’s weird, to them it’s normal.
bfp#1-10/29/12,EDD: 7/3/13. nothing found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 12/10/12. "Bean"
bfp#2-5/10/13! EDD: 1/18/14. "Peanut" Arrived 1/13/14. Diagnosed with Cystic Fibrosis
bfp#3- 9/26/14. EDD: 5/7/15. no heartbeat found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 10/23/14. "Little Bug"
@treeofcheem I’ve thought a lot about this. My cousin’s son is named Oliver, and I LOVE this name for a boy. And we maybe see each other twice a year, so I’m cool with it. I’ll probably let her know that we’re thinking of using it as a name before baby is born (something along the lines of ‘I’ve always loved the name and don’t want you to feel like I’m taking it from you!’) To me if you’re using a name that a close relative has (sister in law, aunt) or someone you see a lot it’s just worth having an open conversation with them. This is your child; if you’ve found a name you feel is right for them, you should use it! That’s my opinion
@treeofcheem I'm trying to figure that out too! Some names like John, Jane, Joseph, Sarah, Scott, ect, really common names I don't think twice. I figure anyone who picked those names knows for a fact other kids will have those names. A Facebook friend/real life acquaintance announced her pregnancy and child's name maybe a week before we announced our pregnancy last time. Totally the name I'd picked out for our baby too. Since she's not a relative or a close friend and it was a common name, I didn't hesitate to still use it. Where I struggle is when friends you see often or close relatives have the same name. I'm so torn!!!
I wouldn’t use the same name as a close relative or friend I see frequently, but a Facebook friend or relative I rarely see, I have no issue with. DH doesn’t want to use the name if anyone we know in any way has the same name. Before we found out the sex of our last pregnancy we were talking girl names and I suggested one I liked. His response was no, that’s So and So’s sisters name. The sister lived in a different state and we had met her twice at that point.
@nackie my husband tried to veto our son's name because he used to work with a guy with the same name and apparently the guy was a jerk. I'd never met the guy though so I didn't care and put my foot down, lol. Poor hubby never stood a chance. I'm actually pretty easy going about most things but I was really intensely opinionated about picking our baby's name.
treeofcheem I wanted to use my brother's name but DH said no. I think if you like a name, you can go for it. After I has DD, my cousin asked me if she could use her name too. I really did not have a prob with it, so she did.
@treeofcheem for boys names the only 2 names DH wants are his brother’s name (also his middle name) and my 1st cousin’s name. I said no on both, but these are also very close relatives who we see all the time. He also has friends with those names, other distant relatives, etc. but those don’t bother me. DD has the same name as a good friend from hs who I am Facebook friends with. I didn’t think twice about using it.
@treeofcheem I think it's a classic case of "different strokes for different folks." For me I think it's a combo of how often I'd see the person, how close we are, and the uniqueness (popularity) of the name. For example I love Lucas as an option. One of my cousins used it and another attorney I'm friends with used it, but it's an extremely popular and classic name. I also have over 20 first cousins and see this particularl one every couple years, so it stays on the list! No idea if we'd ever use it, but it makes the cut for now.
@treeofcheem - For me, I would never use the name of a sibling, aunt, uncle, cousin, niece, or nephew. Or that of a super close friend or their kid. Otherwise I think names are fair game. A second cousin or FB friend? I would most certainly use a name if that's what we liked. I think a lot of people wouldn't even worry about cousins, but I see mine fairly regularly so it's easier to skip those names. Which actually kinda sucks because I have a big Irish family and love Irish names so there's a lot that has been used up already.
_______________________________________________________________________________________________ MMC 8/5/15 at 8 weeks DS born 9/13/16 BFP 1/13/18 - EDD 9/20/18 - It's a boy!
Another great freezer meal prep resource are the two books:
Don't Panic, Dinner’s in the Freezer and Don't Panic, More Dinner’s in the Freezer
These books are great because they have tons of different food options, not just your typical casseroles and pastas. They also have the recipe conversions so you can easily multiply the recipes up to 12 times!
Also, wth? Why are the one-offs always discharge? SO MUCH HATE!
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Me: 33 DH: 32 Married 7/18/15 1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16 Team green turned BLUE! 2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18 Team green turned PINK! Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
@pourmeamocktail I was thinking the other night why couldn't the one offs be about celebrity crushes or something? "Omg, these pregnancy dreams! Last night I had a sexy dream about Idris Elba. Anyone else having sexy pregnancy dreams? Here's a picture of him shirtless in case you don't know who I mean." Why can't something like that be the recurring one off!?
@pourmeamocktail I was thinking the other night why couldn't the one offs be about celebrity crushes or something? "Omg, these pregnancy dreams! Last night I had a sexy dream about Idris Elba. Anyone else having sexy pregnancy dreams? Here's a picture of him shirtless in case you don't know who I mean." Why can't something like that be the recurring one off!?
Dear Endometrin Suppositories, please sign me up for the above. Sincerely, adirat
@treeofcheem a close relation or someone you see quite often, I think it would be weird to have their same name. Unless it's like a name passed down father/son, mother/daughter. But I named my daughter Emily and my cousin's kid is named Emily. There's 18 years between them and I haven't seen that Emily since she was born, so my cousin had no qualms about me using the name too. I did out of respect mention the possibility at my baby shower, but my cousin didn t care.
Ugh. I feel like death. Allergies have turned into a sinus infection plus a sore throat. Debating on whether or not getting into my PCP because I start back to work tomorrow.
Ugh. I feel like death. Allergies have turned into a sinus infection plus a sore throat. Debating on whether or not getting into my PCP because I start back to work tomorrow.
Since I just did the whole sinus infection thing I have to say, "go! Go now! Get you some antibiotics like 5 minutes ago!" Sinus infections hurt your face and make life horrible. I really do think it's worth getting in to see your doc if you can. I wish I had gone in sooner, cause ow.
Re: Weekly Questions 3/3
new bottle nipples (just a few to try, hopefully they like the same bottles)
new pacifiers
new pump valves/tubing (and hopefully new pump through insurance)
Baby bath products
extra diaper genie or pail and bags
New burp cloths
Sound machine
double stroller (Lo’s will be 17 months apart)
wrap/ring sling (until LO is big enough for our Lille)
Extra camera for baby monitor
Im trying to keep it minimal but 2u2 is hard! Hopefully family will help out but I don’t want or expect another shower or “sprinkle.”
I’m not thinking we’ll have another shower, but if anyone wants to buy us anything it’ll be there. And if not, I can use the registry discount at the end to scoop it all up.
Edit: actually, we might need clothes. DS was born in January, so the seasons might not line up too well with the clothes we have. I should check that out
I will also set up one through BRU because that's most likely where I'll get our furniture and I want the completion discount there too. I've been waiting to make that one though until after we announce in case someone stumbles upon it somehow since as far as I know there's no option to keep it private.
MH's parents and grandparents bought our crib, mattress, toddler rail, dresser, and changing table topper for DS so I'm secretly hoping they'll do something similar for this one. And my parents bought our UPPAbaby Cruz so maybe my mom will want to help out with the Vista this time. I am 100% planning for us to be making those purchases on our own, but considering there won't be a shower to spend money on this time, I won't like that a little help on those specifics would be nice.
I really don't think there's much else we need actually. Nothing else big anyway.
MMC 8/5/15 at 8 weeks
DS born 9/13/16
BFP 1/13/18 - EDD 9/20/18 - It's a boy!
I may ask about this at my next appointment since they’re taking allll the blood
me: 27 | husband: 35
IR PCOS dx Sept. 2014
married May 2015 --> started NTNP
BFP 6.28.15 - EDD 3.6.16
baby #1 born 2.19.16
TTC #2 in April 2017
BFP 12.30.17 - EDD 9.6.18
Fertility Friend Chart
I doubt anyone will throw us another shower and if anyone buys us clothes I’m returning or donating them (we have too many as it is, and my sister has a boy, so we are covered!) so the registry will mostly be for the one off requests to buy baby something.
bfp#1-10/29/12,EDD: 7/3/13. nothing found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 12/10/12. "Bean"
bfp#2-5/10/13! EDD: 1/18/14. "Peanut" Arrived 1/13/14. Diagnosed with Cystic Fibrosis
bfp#3- 9/26/14. EDD: 5/7/15. no heartbeat found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 10/23/14. "Little Bug"
**Psalm 139:16**
new LO’s bedroom can’t accomodate all that, so I think we will go with a kids bedroom set with a cheap crib that can be packed up later. Since we don’t know what the sex is, we will pick out furniture after they arrive.
I started my registry once I found out I was having a boy! I had Amazon and BabyList.
Diapers- my son was in newborn for a while (he was 6lbs) and size 1's- the size he has been in the most have been size 3.. we switched over I think close to 7 months and hes 13 months next week and still in size 3! He's a little guy though- average height but not on chart for weight. (17 lbs at a year)
For baskets- I would add some quick to grab snacks, hair tie, breast pads, nipple cream, burb cloths
me: 27 | husband: 35
IR PCOS dx Sept. 2014
married May 2015 --> started NTNP
BFP 6.28.15 - EDD 3.6.16
baby #1 born 2.19.16
TTC #2 in April 2017
BFP 12.30.17 - EDD 9.6.18
Fertility Friend Chart
BFP #1: 1/23/2012 DD: Born 9/20/2012
BFP #2: 12/30/2017 DS: Due 9/10/2018
Some of my favorite resources:
Damm Delicious- lots of crock pot/easy to freeze recipes
Newleafwellness.biz -almost exclusively has freezer meals
Sweetmakesthree
Fabulously Frugal
Six Sisters Stuff
Highly recommend using a food saver/vacuum sealer of some sort. Ask any questions you may have!
MH has zero boundaries here. He kept bringing up a certain name when we were trying to pick names last time, and while I like the name, it's his sister's name. And he would absolutely not be naming his child after his sister. He thinks if we like a name, we should use it, and doesn't consider that it will seem like we're naming our kid after someone. Or will seem like we're just ignoring their name, kind of like we're saying, "Oh, sorry you had the name Sara first, but this is the new Sara."
What if we like the name that a relative used for their kid - something like a 2nd cousin or some level of relation that I can't properly figure out what to call them; someone we're FB friends with and see in person maybe once every few years. That still feels a little strange to me but I think I'm probably being overly picky about that, right? At what point does name sharing become weird?
I'm guessing there's a lot of personal preference here. I try to think about what I'd think or feel if they named their kid MY name. But what's your limit on it?
Expecting again -- EDD 7/27/20
To me it’s weird, to them it’s normal.
bfp#1-10/29/12,EDD: 7/3/13. nothing found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 12/10/12. "Bean"
bfp#2-5/10/13! EDD: 1/18/14. "Peanut" Arrived 1/13/14. Diagnosed with Cystic Fibrosis
bfp#3- 9/26/14. EDD: 5/7/15. no heartbeat found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 10/23/14. "Little Bug"
**Psalm 139:16**
Where I struggle is when friends you see often or close relatives have the same name. I'm so torn!!!
DH doesn’t want to use the name if anyone we know in any way has the same name. Before we found out the sex of our last pregnancy we were talking girl names and I suggested one I liked. His response was no, that’s So and So’s sisters name. The sister lived in a different state and we had met her twice at that point.
I'm actually pretty easy going about most things but I was really intensely opinionated about picking our baby's name.
I think if you like a name, you can go for it. After I has DD, my cousin asked me if she could use her name too. I really did not have a prob with it, so she did.
MMC 8/5/15 at 8 weeks
DS born 9/13/16
BFP 1/13/18 - EDD 9/20/18 - It's a boy!
Don't Panic, Dinner’s in the Freezer
and
Don't Panic, More Dinner’s in the Freezer
These books are great because they have tons of different food options, not just your typical casseroles and pastas. They also have the recipe conversions so you can easily multiply the recipes up to 12 times!
Also, wth? Why are the one-offs always discharge? SO MUCH HATE!
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
Why can't something like that be the recurring one off!?
BFP#1: 11/15/2010 * Missed M/C 12/28 * D&C 12/29/2010
BFP#5 12/26/2017 *SURPRISE* Due 09/02/2018