Friday Confessions!

codesoncodes

It’s time for some Flame Free Friday confessions! (FFFC)

Fair warning for the newbies, it’s not always flame free

codesoncodes

Mine is I really really love popping pimples and blackheads, and in grown hairs. I miss living with my brother because he would let me do it for hours. 

pourmeanothermocktail

I enjoy circumcision debates-as long as people are civil and not name-calling. I always let someone else start them though. 

spottedginger

@pourmeamocktail I have yet to see one that doesn’t use the words “barbaric” and/or “mutilation”. Not sure those qualify as civil. 

Redpuma119

@codesoncodes Right there with you. My poor H, I could pick for hours.

pourmeanothermocktail

@spottedginger Yeah no, definitely not civil there. That's why I never make the choice to start them.

Jyoung327

Y'all need to follow Dr pimple popper on Instagram for your daily pops and squeezes....guilty pleasure 

prpl11butterfly

I'm finding myself super annoyed by the generic usernames. It could be hormones making me overly irritated. But how are we supposed to build a "bond" with these people when we can't tell the difference between knottie$%*%*#&*=,% and knottie$%_$%#&*#/%. 

Edited to remove @ so that random people are not tagged.

MandyMost

Pet peeve: when someone states a fact, or even evidence of something, and people respond with "I agree". Agreeing is for opinions. You can agree that it's a good idea to find out the sex before birth, or  agree that fat babies are cute, or agree that the best tea is Tazo Green Tea. But it makes no sense to agree that the American Academy of Pediatrics recommends XYZ. It's a fact. Or to agree that something does/doesn't have any evidence of harm during pregnancy. Either they do, or they don't, it's not something you can "agree with"!!! I'll note that I'm particularly sensitive to this as a scientist and in today's political climate where scientific facts are purposely being portrayed as opinions to serve policy decisions. 

SkilledSailor

@mandymost I kind of agree, but also kind of disagree. The AAP is not the end all be all of my decision making. In fact, I will probably do things they would recommend my not doing. However, I do thorough research from medical professionals across continents and specialties. Examples: 1) I will drink wine again once it sounds appealing. 2) I'm mostly vegan so my child will be mostly vegan. AAP frowns on these but I've done enough research that I trust both to be safe decisions. So basically, I'm disagreeing with some of their "facts".

FFFC: There's a person I follow on FB purely because I think their family is a hot mess and I enjoy watching the train wreck. I'm horrible, whatever.  

lotsofsunshine

My toddler is watching Moana for the 3rd time today because I just can't today. 

MandyMost

@SkilledSailor it’s a fact that the AAP recommends no alcohol during pregnancy, so you can’t disagree that that’s their recommendation. But you absolutely can disagree with the assertion that any alcohol during pregnancy is harmful, because that is certainly not a fact. The AAP made their general, widespread recommendations based on the evidence available...and you are certainly free to read all the same evidence and disagree with their recommendations (as the European agencies have done!). That’s the distinction! 

jhjocelyn

my mil and sil w her 7 mo came over today, it was awkward because they tried comparing the baby to my dd at the baby’s age. DD had trouble gaining and growing (ya know, from the disease that interferes w our lives rather intensely).... “oh isn’t baby just the same size as dd was?” ...Um no, dd was barely 13 lbs and in size 0-3 at 7months. You’re kid is fine, if they had matched it wouldnt be cute, it would be alarming. 

I’m super irritable and it rubbed me way wrong. Also, the baby has at least 3 lbs on dd at that age. I looked it up ‘cause I was so unimpressed. 

Edited for spelling. 

jhjocelyn

@SkilledSailor
I follow a couple people because they have such perfect lives, I’m waiting to see them crash or have to face an actual challenge... and totally judge them just because. ...I am a terrible person sometimes...

codesoncodes

MandyMost said:

Pet peeve: when someone states a fact, or even evidence of something, and people respond with "I agree". Agreeing is for opinions. You can agree that it's a good idea to find out the sex before birth, or  agree that fat babies are cute, or agree that the best tea is Tazo Green Tea. But it makes no sense to agree that the American Academy of Pediatrics recommends XYZ. It's a fact. Or to agree that something does/doesn't have any evidence of harm during pregnancy. Either they do, or they don't, it's not something you can "agree with"!!! I'll note that I'm particularly sensitive to this as a scientist and in today's political climate where scientific facts are purposely being portrayed as opinions to serve policy decisions. 

I feel the same way when people say they “don’t believe in _____”. Like “I don’t believe in TV.” Ok, wel it still exists. Maybe you don’t believe in WATCHING tv, but it's a thing that exists whether you believe in it or not. 

spottedginger

So another confession: i still remember some of the people from the top of my post it from my last bmb. One of them started shit with the most ignorant mom-shaming post on another bmb today. Makes me feel validated and vindicated that I was right in my past assessment of character. 

ETA: nevermind. Just another idiot with a very similar screen name. 

ashh2018

This is a stupid confession! So, H and I live across the country from our families. We decided that after my first appt and us this past wed, we would send our “surprise, we’re expexting” announcements to our families. Made some cute little gifts and shipped them 2 day air so that they’d arrive Saturday, with notes that say not to open until we tell them to. We’ll FaceTime and do it that way. 

Well, I confess that I ended up spending $180 on shipping so it would all arrive (three separate people) on Saturday. And now I feel like a jackass. And I’m terrified bc there’s no turning back from telling them now!

born2run911

Well, I confess that I ended up spending $180 on shipping so it would all arrive (three separate people) on Saturday. And now I feel like a jackass. And I’m terrified bc there’s no turning back from telling them now!

Kind of cute but very intense. I want an update on how this goes please! I would be so pissed if a shipment didn’t arrive on time. 

stothi

ah1982 said:

This is a stupid confession! So, H and I live across the country from our families. We decided that after my first appt and us this past wed, we would send our “surprise, we’re expexting” announcements to our families. Made some cute little gifts and shipped them 2 day air so that they’d arrive Saturday, with notes that say not to open until we tell them to. We’ll FaceTime and do it that way. 

Well, I confess that I ended up spending $180 on shipping so it would all arrive (three separate people) on Saturday. And now I feel like a jackass. And I’m terrified bc there’s no turning back from telling them now!

I wouldn't feel bad/guilty/whatever. It's your money. You earned it. Spend it on whatever makes you happy. If that moment of FaceTime with your family and getting to see their reactions will bring you and them joy, then it's money well spent. We pay money for experiences all the time if you think about it. 

stothi

FFFC: I usually don't mind the one off random drive-by posts. Usually. Sometimes I just ignore them and other times I straight up enjoy the drama. (I don't get out much these days.) 
They do drive me freaking batty though when it gets to where there are 8 different one off posts asking/commenting about whatever it is that EVERYONE is currently going through. If you don't know how to use the search function, fine, whatever, but seriously, you can't just look at say the first half dozen posts on the thread and see that 5 other people already asked your question? I think it's the sheer laziness of it that bugs me.

ashh2018

Thank you @born2run911 and @stothi! We wanted to send an US pic with the little gifts, and we didn’t get that until Wed and didn’t want to wait. (for my parents, a personalized puzzle that says “you’re going to be grandparents”, for FIL I made a little wooden box - it says “choose wisely” on top, and inside are little “my name is” stickers with different nicknames for Grandpa, and a card for my aunt and uncle). I want everyone to open it on FaceTime - we moved so far away last year and it’s been very hard for my family. I’m worried they’ll be sad now that I’m finally having a baby and they aren’t here but, these are probably just my crazy crying-at-work-now hormones lol. 

smsaulino

This may just be my freaking hormones talking right now (been crying almost all day for no reason at all) but I absolutely hate to see the same posts, just in different words on here in the same week. I know some people may be new or whatnot.. but so am I. I'd never been part of a board until January 2nd this year and I still understood to read the instructions first and then proceed. Ugh..... 

Patience7150

Fffc: I am not Google.