I have zero interest in 'This Is Us'. I can't stand shows that just up the drama ante by adding more ridiculous drama. I'm more of an NBC comedy person- DH and I have been binging 'The Good Place'.
Me: 28 DH: 29 Married: 6/2016 TTC #1: 12/2016 Benched due to deployment- Off the bench 8/8/17!
Inspired by the convo happening in the HDBD thread:
I know it's considered generally AW-ish / flameworthy if someone comes on here, usually as a one-off drive-by, show a pic of their bump and complain about the amount of weight they have gained or want to compare weight gain numbers.
My UO is that I'll never have an issue with a woman wanting to come in here and talk about their weight. Yup, even if it's a total brag-fest or dear-diary moment where they're obviously fishing for compliments, I'll chat it up and dish out the "you look beautiful" compliment every time. I think it's much more dangerous to ignore someone or flame them for a body image issue when it's so easy to just give them the compliment that they might just really need in that moment.
Haha I wouldn't be surprised, TB likes to mix up profile pictures. I wouldn't know who you were without yours, yours always makes me so happy! Also, drink all of the coffee!!!
@calimom2524 Awe thanks, it's a facade cause I'm not really that nice lol....
I can't stand the smell of coffee pregnant, either time. Like walking by the coffee pot makes me want to puke. So hot tea is my solution... It doesn't seem to clear the brain fog as well in the mornings.
@jsnakehole I agree. I watched the first season, but I felt that they were just brazenly attempting to emotionally manipulate me, which I hate. Too melodramatic for my taste, which is too bad, because I think the premise is cool. I haven't bothered with season 2, but from what I hear it's only getting worse/more manipulative and melodramatic.
@mrsbubbles-2 I now wonder if you're referencing me (though I'm certainly not a one-off poster) because I mentioned my weight gain. I struggle with body image, and always have. I am the only member of my family who is not obese, but it is a daily struggle for me. It was (along with smoking) my biggest deterrent from having kids for many years. I am already at my highest ever weight, and while I know that it comes with being pregnant, and I've accepted that, I've gained 13 pounds already, and it terrifies me that it won't stop, or the weight won't fall off. I really appreciate the posters who said they gained 50+ pounds during pregnancy, and it DOES come back off. It is a legitimate source of anxiety for me, and has been since about the 4th grade. I don't mean to be an AW; it's a real fear.
Me:32 DH:45 DSD: 20 DSS: 18 Team green baby due: Aug 6th, 2018
I think I got one! I don't know if this is unpopular enough... I'll try it.
I hate it when people refer to their baby by their name before they are here. I have a good friend who has been tagging their baby's name in every picture since she announced her pregnancy, listed his name on their Christmas card, birthday card to my son, etc. and he's not due for another 3 months.
I don't know why it bothers me so much. But it does.
Ooohhh! Did mine and @calimom2524's profile pics get swapped?!? Scandalous!
@calimom2524 I've thought that we need to start ALL the threads (MBF, TMI, UO, etc) on Monday because the same thing happens to me - I have an awesome FFFC on Tuesday and can't remember for the life of me by Friday.
@livinthesunnylife I normally am kinda 'meh' about the smell of coffee but lately I'm like
And the same with the cleaning isle at the grocery store! Normally it's a little overwhelming but lately I could hang there with the smell of fabric softener and air wics all day. Pregnancy nose is weird
livinthesunnylife I agree! I have no idea why it bothers me either but I can't stand it. I thought I was the only one! I don't want to say it jinxes it but something about it seems weird to me.
My mother in law had a stocking made for DS before he was born and we got Christmas gifts for him and he wasn’t due for 3 months. It totally weirded me out. Like, what if we change his name or something?
And, while we are on the topic of names: I don’t participate in the names thread because I’m probably hardcore judging your name choice. And since I don’t really want to be known as the bump bitch, I try to keep those opinions to myself.
Not sure if this is a true UO or more of a FFFC but while I like this board, and I am a super scheduled, organized person IRL, I am having a hard time keeping up and always responding to people because since all the titles of posts are repeats and the same every week, I am having a hard time remembering who posted what, where to go back to. Or conversations get really lost to me because there can be like 20 different topics happening in the randoms post for example every week.
I've been a part of a board that developed from the Knot since back in 2006 and we transferred over to a free private board on Activeboard and everything is just topic focused so maybe that's why I am having a time with the general titles of things!
I have zero interest in 'This Is Us'. I can't stand shows that just up the drama ante by adding more ridiculous drama. I'm more of an NBC comedy person- DH and I have been binging 'The Good Place'.
Yes to the Good Place! I binged it while we were overseas a few months ago. Sometimes its nice to watch a show without really "thinking" about it haha
@scottishlass1213 yes! Or there will be similar convos in different threads, like symptoms in both the symptoms & random threads, and I can’t remember what is where. I can’t get on TB when I’m at work, so I usually only read & comment at home in the morning & evening. But then there will be 6 new topics in the random thread in an 8-hr period.
ETA: My phone apparently thinks random = ransoms. DYAC!
Welllllll, I was raised to believe that you don't take your kids to daycare until they can speak. However, I was raised by my grandparents and realize that this is an old school of thought. It's just that I see stories that detail toddlers being mistreated often. This is my UO but I wouldn't mind being talked into utilizing daycare and reaping it's benefits.
My UO, I think reality TV is the stupidest thing to ever be a thing.
I don't watch much actual network TV anymore anyway, mostly reruns on MeTV or Netflix in the background for noise. But it really makes me wonder about people who actually enjoy reality TV.
@satin_doll The child doesn't need to speak for you to know if they like it there. My son jumps out of my arms to go to his daycare teacher and play with his little friends every day. He has not once cried when I drop him off. When I pick him up, I look through the window first so I can see how he's doing before he sees me and he's always laughing and having fun with his little buddies. Also, developmentally being around other kids has really helped him. He will eat things at daycare that he won't eat at home- because the other kids are eating them.
Picking a daycare is a huge decision. I researched the heck out of facilities, talked to parents, read every inspection report (they are publicly available through your state agency), and toured a 10 facilities. Ultimately it comes down to finding that teacher that you can trust with your most precious object. Mom gut knows when you have the right person. I adore our daycare teachers, they are like family.
UO: I think parents who are creating family vlogs and using their kids to create an income are tacky and classless. I can understand wanting to create a vlog to share parenting tips and vents/frustrations.
But the ones with ridiculous "challenges" and constantly posting videos of their kids and making money off of it just leaves a bad taste in my mouth.
@livinthesunnylife I agree to a point. Monogramming things, tagging pics, hashtags are too much for me. However, I use babies name in everyday conversations. Such as 'Emma is really telling me to get the extra taco right now.' Or 'DAMN Lachlan is super upset/happy about something.' I feel that those name drops help me to start to visualize the baby and make it more 'real' and I can start to feel an attachment.
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Me: 28 H: 24 Married: 7/22/14 Baby L: 8/4/2015 August 2015 Moms Baby E: 11/18/2016 December 2016 Moms TTC #3 08/2017 BFP 11/27/2017. Twin B lost 11/22/2017, Twin A doing well.
@livinthesunnylife Omg, thank you for such a thorough response. Research EVERYTHING, connect with teachers, and trust the mom gut! I think that will really make me feel comfortable with my daycare decision, especially when family members give me the third degree. Oh, and that inspection report tidbit. Priceless!
OH I have one. I hate kid name hashtags. I have an acquaintance who hashtags all of her pictures with her kids in them #tommy1201 and whatever her daughter one is. SO STUPID.
I hate even knowing the name of a baby before they are born. Which I know is so weird, but it feels like some kind of jinx or something, even though I am a firm believer in science. *Shrug*
@satin_doll My DS has been in daycare since he was 3mo. It's hard to leave a baby, but by the time he was 1 he loved all of the stimulation and interaction. And, even when he was only a few months old, they had better activities and interactive toys than I had at home. He moved up to the 2 year old room about 6 weeks before he turned 2, and his language and ability to express himself just exploded. I don't think he would have grown as quickly had he not been surrounded by peers who were talking/expressing in the way they do.(Also, the 'peer pressure' to potty train is definitely encouraging him to want to do that sooner than he may have otherwise) He's also learning so many vital socialization skills at such a young age, that I don't know if I could have taught at home without other kids to help create those important interactions with. But, my UO is kind of opposite. I know I'm a great mom, but I don't have the skills to teach and work with a toddler all day every day. I'm great with him on the weekends, but I couldn't do what people who are professionally trained to do every day. That's just me though. I really admire SAHMs because I know I couldn't do it. I was one of the weird ones who was excited to go back to work after maternity leave.
@satin_doll sorry but that really rubbed me the wrong way. I can't afford to not put my kid in daycare before they can talk. I need to work to take care of my family and my kid isn't even born yet and I already feel horribly guilty about having to put them in daycare so I can work. I hate mommyshaming working moms for working almost as much as I hate mommyshaming SAHMs for staying home.
Me: 28 DH: 29 Married: 6/2016 TTC #1: 12/2016 Benched due to deployment- Off the bench 8/8/17!
@princesslockness I think they had me when the signed the birthday gift to my son with the baby's name too....sorry, the 5M old fetus did not help pick out his gift.... I understand referring to the baby by their name in the way that you said, but that's living in reality about what the kid is and isn't doing. They aren't buying birthday gifts or signing Christmas cards yet.
@satin_doll I don't let family watch our son. What qualifications do they have? Daycare teachers have years of experience and qualifications. Watch them change a diaper on a squirmy toddler and you'll be in awe at their talent. My mom can watch my son, because she's amazing. But MIL? Never. Nope, not happening.
@westphilly Thanks for thorough response! I feel the same about stimulation. I know that professionals and interaction can further my child's growth better than I can.
@jsnakehole I'm sorry for making you feel that way. I hope you can understand that shaming wasn't my intention. Just trying to participate and knew that I could get some much needed advice here to open my own options up. It's weird that you got that idea because I know my family will shame me for using daycare, if I choose to.
@calimom2524 I’m with you on the stupid hashtags for your kid and I REALLY hate the punny/cutesy hashtags for weddings these days. Ugh, thank the good lord I got married before all that crap started.
We had no clue what DS’s name was until we had him. This time, I’d like to pick one because I feel like it would help DS bond, but that’s probably ridiculous. I also get weird jinx feelings. Like we already bought a crib because a friend was selling hers for super cheap and it felt silly to pass up, but it makes me uneasy kind of.
eta: I’m also really trying to think of an UO but can’t!
@neeraja_k I freely admit I sometimes watch Real Housewives or Teen Mom so I am curious as to what exactly you "wonder" about people who watch reality TV? Maybe I can clear it up for you
@mrsbubbles-2 you are far nice than I am. I'll absolutely engage any of the regs/semi regs who want to talk about weight and I will tell them they are beautiful and need not worry about weight gain, but if some rando comes in with a humble brag post about how little they've gained or how (so clearly and obviously NOT) fat they are then I will avoid avoid avoid!!
@jsnakehole the mom guilt is real, I hope you can be kind to yourself! I had a VERY hard time putting DS in daycare but now I realize how wonderful of an experience it is for him. You and your baby will be just fine. Big hugs!!
My UO is that it's getting a little repetitive at this point when people keep complaining about the layout of the board. Every UO or FFFC I feel like it comes up! I understand it's not for everyone, the app sucks and if you don't check in regularly it can be very overwhelming but at the same time, it is what it is *shrugs*
My fetus has a first name, but I don't know what it is yet. We have a boy name and a girl name, but until it's born and we know the sex I don't know which we'll use. I just call it "the fetus." Sometimes I wish I had a better way to refer to it, but this is working for now.
Me:32 DH:45 DSD: 20 DSS: 18 Team green baby due: Aug 6th, 2018
@jsnakehole Yes, it's hard leaving your baby that first day. I actually flew my mom out for the first 2 weeks I went back to work so I could get used to the idea of leaving him by leaving him with the person I trusted most. But from the sounds of it there are a lot of us working moms that are here to support you and can tell you stories about how great daycare has been for our littles. I'm not even going to pull my son out completely while I'm on leave this time because he needs his little buddies. Daycare is awesome. And worth 10x what I pay for it. Those are the hardest working women I know.
@ecwk TOTALLY agree! I think the thing is people don't realize yet that we're setting the foundation for a support system that will be irreplaceable in a few short months. The layout of this forum doesn't really matter in the end. The people that are here will matter a lot.
Okay, this may be super controversial but here goes: I would almost certainly terminate my pregnancy if there is a genetic issue (after we have confirmed any positive NIPT results through an amnio or otherwise). I am surprised by how many people I have seen say they would never even consider it no matter the results of screening/testing. Aside from those with strong religious convictions (I am not religious, but I respect those who are), I don't really get it.
*TTC History*
Me: 37, MH: 38; Married August 2017
TTC #1 October 2017: BFP on 12/1/2017, DD born 7/24/2018 @ 37+1 after induction due to preeclampsia
TTC #2 January 2020: AMA, dx with DOR in May 2020
IVF July 2020: 16 eggs retrieved, 14 mature, 12 fertilized, 3 blasts, 2 PGT-A normal
FET 10/7/20: BFP on 10/12/20!!! (EDD 6/25/21); First beta 10/16/20 (9dpt): 148; Second beta 10/19/20 (12dpt): 621; Third beta 10/26/20 (19dpt): 4732; Fourth (and final!) beta 11/2/20 (26 dpt): 22,000+
Okay, this may be super controversial but here goes: I would almost certainly terminate my pregnancy if there is a genetic issue (after we have confirmed any positive NIPT results through an amnio or otherwise). I am surprised by how many people I have seen say they would never even consider it no matter the results of screening/testing. Aside from those with strong religious convictions (I am not religious, but I respect those who are), I don't really get it.
I'm actually with you on this. I know it's controversial but I agree. It would be single handedly the hardest thing I would ever do, but I would still do it.
@legallykate I cannot comment on what I would do because I just don't know but I can tell you I would not at all judge you. When people make statements like that, I wonder do they really know what they're talking about? That it is often a condition that is incompatible with life that is the issue. To me it does not seem as black and white as saying "no way, I would never ever ever do it" - although I'm sure to some people it is. I would not wish that exeperience on anyone.
@satin_doll I was a “grandparents raised me while parents worked” kid. I put DS in FT daycare at 2.5yo, when I went back to college.
We tried the grandparent route when DS was younger, and it was a disaster. I would pack a bag with everything DS would need for the day, and MIL wouldn’t use the stuff. DH’s nephew was there a lot around the same time. MIL would use the nephew’s diapers instead of DS’s even though the nephew’s diapers gave DS horrible diaper rash. Or the nephew’s mom would send kool-aid in, so MIL would give both boys kool-aid instead of giving DS the milk I sent up. Then the food & drink I sent up was left in the bag to spoil. When I put him in daycare, he flourished, as opposed to being left in a play pen to his own devices at his grandparents’ house. Even now, they complain that they don’t see him much, but when he is up there they turn on Netflix and sit him in front of the TV while they play cards.
@calimom2524@ecwk Yes, to be clear, I so do not want to have to make that decision and hate that anyone has to make it (hence my currently being so anxious about my NIPT results that I can barely function) but I just don't get the "nothing would make me make that decision" rhetoric, I agree @ecwk that people maybe just aren't really thinking about what they are saying.
*TTC History*
Me: 37, MH: 38; Married August 2017
TTC #1 October 2017: BFP on 12/1/2017, DD born 7/24/2018 @ 37+1 after induction due to preeclampsia
TTC #2 January 2020: AMA, dx with DOR in May 2020
IVF July 2020: 16 eggs retrieved, 14 mature, 12 fertilized, 3 blasts, 2 PGT-A normal
FET 10/7/20: BFP on 10/12/20!!! (EDD 6/25/21); First beta 10/16/20 (9dpt): 148; Second beta 10/19/20 (12dpt): 621; Third beta 10/26/20 (19dpt): 4732; Fourth (and final!) beta 11/2/20 (26 dpt): 22,000+
Welllllll, I was raised to believe that you don't take your kids to daycare until they can speak. However, I was raised by my grandparents and realize that this is an old school of thought. It's just that I see stories that detail toddlers being mistreated often. This is my UO but I wouldn't mind being talked into utilizing daycare and reaping it's benefits.
On the flip side of what everyone else is pointing out (but still supporting the same idea), I have a 4yo and 2yo in daycare, both very verbal, and I 100% would not trust them to tell me if they were being mistreated. Between the nonsensical things kids say and their inability to even remember what they did at school that day or what they had for lunch, I just know I wouldn't hear it from them anyway. So it's important to trust the daycare etc as others have said - my kids love their daycare teachers basically as much as me and I know they are in good hands there, and I am incredibly choosy about where I will leave them.
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Married: 6/2016
TTC #1: 12/2016
Benched due to deployment- Off the bench 8/8/17!
I know it's considered generally AW-ish / flameworthy if someone comes on here, usually as a one-off drive-by, show a pic of their bump and complain about the amount of weight they have gained or want to compare weight gain numbers.
My UO is that I'll never have an issue with a woman wanting to come in here and talk about their weight. Yup, even if it's a total brag-fest or dear-diary moment where they're obviously fishing for compliments, I'll chat it up and dish out the "you look beautiful" compliment every time. I think it's much more dangerous to ignore someone or flame them for a body image issue when it's so easy to just give them the compliment that they might just really need in that moment.
TL;DR - I feed the AWs
Me: 37 Him: 38
Married 11.07.2015
I had a hella good UO on like Monday or something and now I forget what it was.
August 18 Siggy Challenge: April Showers
August 18 Siggy Challenge: April Showers
I can't stand the smell of coffee pregnant, either time. Like walking by the coffee pot makes me want to puke. So hot tea is my solution... It doesn't seem to clear the brain fog as well in the mornings.
I agree. I watched the first season, but I felt that they were just brazenly attempting to emotionally manipulate me, which I hate. Too melodramatic for my taste, which is too bad, because I think the premise is cool. I haven't bothered with season 2, but from what I hear it's only getting worse/more manipulative and melodramatic.
@mrsbubbles-2
I now wonder if you're referencing me (though I'm certainly not a one-off poster) because I mentioned my weight gain. I struggle with body image, and always have. I am the only member of my family who is not obese, but it is a daily struggle for me. It was (along with smoking) my biggest deterrent from having kids for many years. I am already at my highest ever weight, and while I know that it comes with being pregnant, and I've accepted that, I've gained 13 pounds already, and it terrifies me that it won't stop, or the weight won't fall off. I really appreciate the posters who said they gained 50+ pounds during pregnancy, and it DOES come back off. It is a legitimate source of anxiety for me, and has been since about the 4th grade. I don't mean to be an AW; it's a real fear.
DH:45
DSD: 20
DSS: 18
Team green baby due: Aug 6th, 2018
I hate it when people refer to their baby by their name before they are here. I have a good friend who has been tagging their baby's name in every picture since she announced her pregnancy, listed his name on their Christmas card, birthday card to my son, etc. and he's not due for another 3 months.
I don't know why it bothers me so much. But it does.
@calimom2524 I've thought that we need to start ALL the threads (MBF, TMI, UO, etc) on Monday because the same thing happens to me - I have an awesome FFFC on Tuesday and can't remember for the life of me by Friday.
@livinthesunnylife I normally am kinda 'meh' about the smell of coffee but lately I'm like
And the same with the cleaning isle at the grocery store! Normally it's a little overwhelming but lately I could hang there with the smell of fabric softener and air wics all day. Pregnancy nose is weird
Me: 37 Him: 38
Married 11.07.2015
And, while we are on the topic of names: I don’t participate in the names thread because I’m probably hardcore judging your name choice. And since I don’t really want to be known as the bump bitch, I try to keep those opinions to myself.
I've been a part of a board that developed from the Knot since back in 2006 and we transferred over to a free private board on Activeboard and everything is just topic focused so maybe that's why I am having a time with the general titles of things!
@jsnakehole I’ve also never watched This Is Us and have no interest. But I don’t really watch much tv at all.
ETA: My phone apparently thinks random = ransoms. DYAC!
I don't watch much actual network TV anymore anyway, mostly reruns on MeTV or Netflix in the background for noise. But it really makes me wonder about people who actually enjoy reality TV.
Picking a daycare is a huge decision. I researched the heck out of facilities, talked to parents, read every inspection report (they are publicly available through your state agency), and toured a 10 facilities. Ultimately it comes down to finding that teacher that you can trust with your most precious object. Mom gut knows when you have the right person. I adore our daycare teachers, they are like family.
But the ones with ridiculous "challenges" and constantly posting videos of their kids and making money off of it just leaves a bad taste in my mouth.
Formerly known as Kate08young
August '18 Siggy April Showers:
Married: 7/22/14
Baby L: 8/4/2015 August 2015 Moms
Baby E: 11/18/2016 December 2016 Moms
TTC #3 08/2017 BFP 11/27/2017.
Twin B lost 11/22/2017, Twin A doing well.
Actually I think I just hate hashtags in general.
August 18 Siggy Challenge: April Showers
@satin_doll My DS has been in daycare since he was 3mo. It's hard to leave a baby, but by the time he was 1 he loved all of the stimulation and interaction. And, even when he was only a few months old, they had better activities and interactive toys than I had at home. He moved up to the 2 year old room about 6 weeks before he turned 2, and his language and ability to express himself just exploded. I don't think he would have grown as quickly had he not been surrounded by peers who were talking/expressing in the way they do.(Also, the 'peer pressure' to potty train is definitely encouraging him to want to do that sooner than he may have otherwise) He's also learning so many vital socialization skills at such a young age, that I don't know if I could have taught at home without other kids to help create those important interactions with.
But, my UO is kind of opposite. I know I'm a great mom, but I don't have the skills to teach and work with a toddler all day every day. I'm great with him on the weekends, but I couldn't do what people who are professionally trained to do every day. That's just me though. I really admire SAHMs because I know I couldn't do it. I was one of the weird ones who was excited to go back to work after maternity leave.
Married: 6/2016
TTC #1: 12/2016
Benched due to deployment- Off the bench 8/8/17!
@princesslockness I think they had me when the signed the birthday gift to my son with the baby's name too....sorry, the 5M old fetus did not help pick out his gift.... I understand referring to the baby by their name in the way that you said, but that's living in reality about what the kid is and isn't doing. They aren't buying birthday gifts or signing Christmas cards yet.
@satin_doll I don't let family watch our son. What qualifications do they have? Daycare teachers have years of experience and qualifications. Watch them change a diaper on a squirmy toddler and you'll be in awe at their talent. My mom can watch my son, because she's amazing. But MIL? Never. Nope, not happening.
@jsnakehole I'm sorry for making you feel that way. I hope you can understand that shaming wasn't my intention. Just trying to participate and knew that I could get some much needed advice here to open my own options up. It's weird that you got that idea because I know my family will shame me for using daycare, if I choose to.
eta: I’m also really trying to think of an UO but can’t!
@mrsbubbles-2 you are far nice than I am. I'll absolutely engage any of the regs/semi regs who want to talk about weight and I will tell them they are beautiful and need not worry about weight gain, but if some rando comes in with a humble brag post about how little they've gained or how (so clearly and obviously NOT) fat they are then I will avoid avoid avoid!!
@jsnakehole
the mom guilt is real, I hope you can be kind to yourself! I had a VERY hard time putting DS in daycare but now I realize how wonderful of an experience it is for him. You and your baby will be just fine. Big hugs!!
@calimom2524 OMG I agree about the hashtags
My UO is that it's getting a little repetitive at this point when people keep complaining about the layout of the board. Every UO or FFFC I feel like it comes up! I understand it's not for everyone, the app sucks and if you don't check in regularly it can be very overwhelming but at the same time, it is what it is *shrugs*
DH:45
DSD: 20
DSS: 18
Team green baby due: Aug 6th, 2018
@ecwk TOTALLY agree! I think the thing is people don't realize yet that we're setting the foundation for a support system that will be irreplaceable in a few short months. The layout of this forum doesn't really matter in the end. The people that are here will matter a lot.
Me: 37, MH: 38; Married August 2017
TTC #1 October 2017: BFP on 12/1/2017, DD born 7/24/2018 @ 37+1 after induction due to preeclampsia
TTC #2 January 2020: AMA, dx with DOR in May 2020
IVF July 2020: 16 eggs retrieved, 14 mature, 12 fertilized, 3 blasts, 2 PGT-A normal
FET 10/7/20: BFP on 10/12/20!!! (EDD 6/25/21); First beta 10/16/20 (9dpt): 148; Second beta 10/19/20 (12dpt): 621; Third beta 10/26/20 (19dpt): 4732; Fourth (and final!) beta 11/2/20 (26 dpt): 22,000+
August 18 Siggy Challenge: April Showers
We tried the grandparent route when DS was younger, and it was a disaster. I would pack a bag with everything DS would need for the day, and MIL wouldn’t use the stuff. DH’s nephew was there a lot around the same time. MIL would use the nephew’s diapers instead of DS’s even though the nephew’s diapers gave DS horrible diaper rash. Or the nephew’s mom would send kool-aid in, so MIL would give both boys kool-aid instead of giving DS the milk I sent up. Then the food & drink I sent up was left in the bag to spoil. When I put him in daycare, he flourished, as opposed to being left in a play pen to his own devices at his grandparents’ house. Even now, they complain that they don’t see him much, but when he is up there they turn on Netflix and sit him in front of the TV while they play cards.
Me: 37, MH: 38; Married August 2017
TTC #1 October 2017: BFP on 12/1/2017, DD born 7/24/2018 @ 37+1 after induction due to preeclampsia
TTC #2 January 2020: AMA, dx with DOR in May 2020
IVF July 2020: 16 eggs retrieved, 14 mature, 12 fertilized, 3 blasts, 2 PGT-A normal
FET 10/7/20: BFP on 10/12/20!!! (EDD 6/25/21); First beta 10/16/20 (9dpt): 148; Second beta 10/19/20 (12dpt): 621; Third beta 10/26/20 (19dpt): 4732; Fourth (and final!) beta 11/2/20 (26 dpt): 22,000+
On the flip side of what everyone else is pointing out (but still supporting the same idea), I have a 4yo and 2yo in daycare, both very verbal, and I 100% would not trust them to tell me if they were being mistreated. Between the nonsensical things kids say and their inability to even remember what they did at school that day or what they had for lunch, I just know I wouldn't hear it from them anyway. So it's important to trust the daycare etc as others have said - my kids love their daycare teachers basically as much as me and I know they are in good hands there, and I am incredibly choosy about where I will leave them.