TFAS late w/o 1/1

holly321

*This is a check-in for those with babies/children at home. If you are having a hard TTC day or TTCAL day this post may mention children or issues specifically related to parenting or babies. Pregnancy may also be mentioned. Please feel free to lurk at your own discretion.***

What number are you trying for?

Cycle/Month?

WTO/TWW?

Ages of other child(ren)?

Any thoughts about this cycle?

Any questions?

Rant/Rave/Brag

GTKY: What is your favorite Christmas gift your child received?

kristah2

What number are you trying for? 2

Cycle/Month? 2/2

WTO/TWW? WTO

Ages of other child(ren)? 14 months 

Any thoughts about this cycle? Waiting for AF to leave so we can get busy  though H will be away for a couple days so hopefully doesn’t effect timing  

Any questions?

Rant/Rave/Brag? DS took a couple to steps yesterday and I saw them! I was so afraid it would happen at daycare  

GTKY: What is your favorite Christmas gift your child received? He really loved his stacking cups. And he got a kids quad he’s enjoying riding around the house. And new basketball! He’s sTarted saying “Kobe” when he throws it, thanks to H. 

elothair

@kristah2 I'm glad you got to see his first steps! Both my kids walked around 9-10 months so thankfully I was still home with them (12 month mat leave in Canada) but I was so worried they would do it while they were with grandparents/DH and I happen to be away for 5 minutes!

What number are you trying for? 3

Cycle/Month? 10/10

WTO/TWW? TWW

Ages of other child(red)? 7, almost 4

Any thoughts about this cycle? This cycle has been wonky due to travelling so my temps are off. Also, given I'm now on month and cycle 10 I tend to not have high hopes other than to make it through the next two so I can get an RE referral.

Any questions? Nope.

Rant/Rave/Brag - My DD just got her next level assignment for gymnastics and she gets to skip a level because she's progressed so much this term!

GTKY: What is your favorite Christmas gift your child received? We got both kids new tablets after they broke the shared one that we had had for 5+ years that was super slow. My DD loves her but shockingly my DS (the younger one) has decided his nerf guns were the top picks this year.

acciocoffee

What number are you trying for? 2

Cycle/Month? 7/5 (1 loss 1 benched)

WTO/TWW? WTO

Ages of other child(red)? 2.5

Any thoughts about this cycle? I'm feeling hopeful. This is my first cycle using OPKs so I'm hoping that makes a difference. 

Any questions? Not right now

Rant/Rave/Brag: Lately DD and I have been having dance parties in the kitchen every night while I cook dinner. I look forward to it every day now. 

GTKY: What is your favorite Christmas gift your child received? My dad gave her a scooter. She doesn't know how to ride it yet, but hopefully by the summer she will love it!

holly321

@kristah2, that is great you got to see his first steps!  I was always worried about missing first when I would be at work!

@elothair my parents got my kids tablets.  Before, they stole and shared my iPad.  It was nice to delete the 800 versions of fake mind craft off if it the other day.  

What number are you trying for? 3

Cycle/Month? 5?/11

WTO/TWW? Benched

Ages of other child(ren)? DD is 6 DS is almost 5

Any thoughts about this cycle? No

Any questions? No

Rant/Rave/Brag. DS is autistic and had been in a special needs Pre-K program since he was 3.  He usually never interacts with any of his classmates, he says it is "boring" to have friends.  This week his teacher said he talking to the other kids more and he played cars with the little girl he has a crush on.  

GTKY: What is your favorite Christmas gift your child received?  DD got Tyler the Tiger.  Which, I really did not want to get her, because it seemed so over priced, but it was the only thing she repeatedly said she wanted.  It is so cute, soft and interactive.  I like to play with him, lol.

offtoneverland

@holly321 I like the "Brag" you added to the Rant/Rave section. At least, I don't remember seeing that before. Good idea! That's so exciting that your son has been playing with his classmates more. That must be such a huge, proud moment for you!
@kristah2 Hopefully you can still get good timing with YH being away for a few days. FX for you! And yay for the first steps and stacking cups. We loved our stacking cups (DD is a bit big for them now, but still plays with them in the bathtub sometimes).
@elothair You just have to rub Canada's maternity leave in our faces! Just joking. That's awesome though and I'm extremely jealous. How cool that your son was more excited for the nerf guns than his new, shiny tablet. 
@acciocoffee I didn't realize that you had a child. Nice to see you here! Good luck with the OPKs this cycle. I find them pretty fun to use. I'm totally fascinated watching the lines get darker or fade. It's really cool! (I'm very easily entertained.) 

What number are you trying for? 2

Cycle/Month? Uhhhh... 8/7, I think? 1 benched cycle.

WTO/TWW? WTO.

Ages of other child(ren)? Almost 3.5! She's getting so big.

Any thoughts about this cycle? I thought I would bench myself for a cycle, but I'm pretty sure now that I'm just going to keep trying and see what happens. I would NTNP if I could, but there's absolutely no way I could do that because I'm way too controlling. 

Any questions? DD complains about her bottom hurting every once in a while and I can't for the life of me figure out what it is. At first I thought UTI, but I really don't think that's what it is because it doesn't seem to hurt when she urinates and it comes and goes. I wonder if it's from not wiping all the time after she goes to the bathroom (she doesn't wipe all the time at school and usually doesn't after using her toddler potty in her bedroom). I'm curious if anyone else has experienced this or found something to help with it. I put cream on it every once in a while but I'm not convinced it does anything. I also stopped using bubble bath in case that was irritating her. *shrug*

Rant/Rave/Brag: It's so cold here today and DD does not like it at all. We were in Florida just last week and she keeps saying she wants to go back to Nanny and Poppy's house where it's warm. She's been a bit of a pill this week because she doesn't want to go outside in the cold. It's adorable though and I don't blame her. 

GTKY: What is your favorite Christmas gift your child received? My MIL got her a magnadoodle and she loves it. It's a simple toy but it entertains her for a long time and I love how easy it is to bring it with us in the car for easy entertainment. 

eleven_

What number are you trying for? 3

Cycle/Month? 7/7

WTO/TWW? 

Ages of other child(ren)? 2.5 & 3.5

Any thoughts about this cycle? Not right now. 

Any questions? None

Rant/Rave/Brag: My 3.5 year old is currently screaming in his room after I put him to bed. I don't even know what to do with him anymore. We woke up at the same freaking and I can't wait to go to bed. I feel so guilty when he cries  :'(

GTKY: What is your favorite Christmas gift your child received? My son got this giant t-rex that walks and has all these little shooters and canons on it. He's obsessed! DD got the frozen doll house and she is over the moon.

@kristah2 So so cool you were there to witness his first steps! He is at such a fun age right now. Lol at Kobe 

@elothair We have my 3.5 year old a nerd gun for Christmas too but it was already taken away. He kept shooting the dogs! So awesome about your daughter with gymnastics. 

@acciocoffee So flippin cute about your dance parties! My kids got scooters to for Christmas. Can't wait for them to get to use them! 

@holly321 That is so good to hear about your DS! I've never heard about Tyler the Tiger but now I want to look it up lol. 

Edit: Fixed tag

eleven_

@offtoneverland I always forget to refresh before I post. I'm sorry I don't have answers for you about your DD. My kids are both wearing pull ups still and are struggling with potty training. I hope you can figure it out though. Poor thing! The winter is so long with kids. I feel so bad for them being stuck inside. Their cabin fever is probably a lot worse than ours. 

holly321

@acciocoffee, dance parties are so much fun.  My kids like to have them every now and then still.
@offtoneverland, I added it sort of selfishly, since I am benched and don't feel like I have much to contribute.  It was mentioned a while back to add the option, but I guess it was forgotten.   
Do you think your DD could have a yeast infection?  DD used to have irritation that I could not figure out, and it turned out to be yeast infections.  She would get them from eating large amounts of apples.  Diaper cream never helped.
@eleven_. I hope your little guy goes to sleep for you soon so you can get some rest.  I know it is awful to hear them cry sometimes, but sometimes it is best to just let them, especially if he is like my DD, if you comfort them in the moment, it usually starts up as soon as you walk away so it just prolongs everyone's misery.  Is he still having sleep issues, or is today just a bad day?

kristah2

@elothair I'm in Canada too! DS was late with his steps. He was /is such an efficient crawler he has no desire to try to walk. I'm hoping to be able to afford to take advantage of 18 month leave on #2! but 33%..eek!

@holly321 so great to hear he is being social. and adorable he has a crush!

@offtoneverland DD is my kinda girl. Never mind the cold, FL is much better! (I say as we had to shovel ourselves out this morning)

@eleven_ H started saying kobe when shooting balls in the bathtub basketball hoop.. he's picked it up. poor kid is going to make friends who are all going to be so confused about who kobe is.Also.. that t-rex sounds so cool!!!

Spylon

@kristah2 Missing the first steps was one of my big fears too! Glad you got to see it happen.

@eleven_ That t-rex sounds awesome. We watch dinosaur train at our house, and I'm so happy DD is starting to enjoy it.

@offtoneverland I hear you on the cabin fever! We've been stuck in a two week long cold snap up here. It's so cold there's no way we can take DD outside. She's definitely getting bored and acting up. I usually love winter, but this -40 crap has to stop. 

What number are you trying for? 2

Cycle/Month? 4/4

WTO/TWW? TWW

Ages of other child(ren)? 19 months

Any thoughts about this cycle? If AF shows this month, I am for sure going to start temping. I've only been going off CM, and I noticed this cycle that I got EWCM pretty late, making my LP shorter than I'd like. But since I'm not temping, I can't be sure, which is driving me nuts. I should've started temping sooner.

Any questions? No. 

Rant/Rave/Brag: DD started saying/repeating so many new words over the Christmas holidays! It's the cutest thing. She points at family members and tries to say their names now. I know she can, but until now she seemed too shy to try. 

GTKY: What is your favorite Christmas gift your child received? Well, MY favourite was the bamboletta doll I got her, but she couldn't care less about it. Her favourite gift is the sesame street figurines she got from MIL. They're the same size as the Little People figures, and she is crazy about Elmo and Cookie Monster. 

Edited to fix tag. 

jengibre_zorro

@kristah2 - my son totally took his first steps at daycare, but they have a camera and i was watching him.  When i picked him up, he walked over to me, and everyone made a big deal about how that was the very first time, lol.
@elothair - sorry that a trip to the RE is in the works, but maybe they will have the solution
@acciocoffee - OPK's are a game changer - good luck!
@holly321 - so cute that your son has a crush, and like its a good influence!
@offtoneverland - i feel the same way as your daughter!
@eleven_ it sounds like the holiday messed up everyone's sleep schedule.  Fx things are back to normal soon!
@Spylon - yay for new words!  We keep waiting for a language burst from our son, but alas, nothing yet.  Hopefully soon!

What number are you trying for? 2

Cycle/Month? 3/3

WTO/TWW? TWW

Ages of other child(ren)? 18 mos

Any thoughts about this cycle? it's crap

Any questions?

Rant/Rave/Brag  - My son is language delayed and it is so frustrating sometimes.  He gets frustrated when i don't understand him, and it drives me up the wall.  We work with a speech pathologist, but i just wish things moved faster than they did

GTKY: What is your favorite Christmas gift your child received? This super cheap truck with a button on it that makes a dinosaur pop out.  It was a $3.99 impulse buy, and he's obsessed.  We literally could throw out every other gift, lol

eleven_

@holly321 Its every single night that DS cries. We read him a book and lay with around 10 minutes and then he cries anywhere between 15-45 minutes. We usually go to him at that point but it never helps. He just starts crying again like you said after we leave. I never know what the right answer is. 

@spylon Are you using OPKs? SO cute your DD is starting to talk. I love to hear their little voices. 

@jengibre_zorro I'm sorry you and your DS are feeling frustrated. My son had a severe speech delay as well and also worked with a speech pathologist. It takes time but he will get there! My son didn't really start trying until he hit 3 and now it's like he's a different child. He's talking so much. But I remember the stage you are in and it's so hard! Are you guys doing sign language? 

wishiwaspreggo

@kristah2 - hooray for catching the first steps! DS took his at roughly 11 months and I was glad we were there for that. It's so wonderful to see them meet their milestones.
@holly321 - that is awesome that your son is enjoying some interaction! And adorable he has a crush already so sweet. I saw some kids playing with Tyler Tiger at an indoor play gym I take DS to and he was enthralled by it. It's a pretty nifty toy. I was thinking about getting one for his 3rd birthday but he got so many big toys for Christmas and we're holding a big party for him next month so I don't know if I can justify it unless I find one for cheap on Amazon or something now that the holidays are over.
@elothair - so jealous of Canada's maternity leave!!! We 'murricans are pro-life but God forbid we provide a decent standard of living or proper work/life balance for new parents adjusting to life with baby.
@offtoneverland - does your daughter have any troubles with constipation? My son gets constipated maybe once a month (usually when he's sick and drinks too much milk for comfort). I do my best to give him enough fiber-rich foods like fruits and veggies but if he has a sore throat he won't touch them (probably due to the acid content hurting his throat). Anyway, he'll complain of a sore bottom when he's constipated. We resort to giving him Miralax because he won't eat fiber gummies or any other natural remedies masquerading as candy.
@eleven_ - sorry about the sleep troubles I wish kids were like us and WANT to go to bed! But I remind myself that one day I will be the one grabbing DS's ankles and dragging him out of bed to go to school.
@jengibre_zorro - my son was speech delayed, too. Didn't say a word until he was 2 and didn't really start talking until 3-4 months after turning 2. It is very frustrating, I understand! It sucks when you know your kid understands you and he knows what he wants but won't even try to talk (at least that's how DS was). He'd whine and point until we gave him what he wanted. But it'll happen over time. If he understands everything you say, follows simple directions, and attempts to communicate through gestures then it's really just a matter of time. Hang in there!

AFM...

What number are you trying for? 2

Cycle/month? Meh

WTO/TWW? Benched

Age of other child(ren)? He'll be 3 in one month!!

Any thoughts about this cycle?



Just waiting for DW to figure out what she wants to do. Time is passing quickly, though. I wish she'd make up her mind so at least *I* could start trying or making plans to do IVF myself. I stopped asking her about it because she shuts down every time I mention it. I don't want to push her to do something she's not prepared to do but for crying out loud, I wish she would just SAY something. For now I'm just focusing on losing weight and getting in shape in the hopes that my body will be better primed for TTC/pregnancy. The Weight Watchers plan is fantastic. It's the only diet I've ever tried where I don't feel foggy or shaky, which is what leads me to cheat.

Any questions? Nope

Rant/Rave/Brag? I'm a bit concerned about DS because he's been really lethargic and disinterested in leaving the house since the holidays. He's very outgoing and energetic normally. In the summer and fall he'd wake me up and say "go outside, play with kids!" To which I'd grumble, get out of bed, and tell him to wait until I've at least had some coffee and breakfast. But lately I'll get up and ask him what he wants to do and he just wants to stay home and play with his toys. That's all well and fine and I don't mind that but it's uncharacteristic. I think it's either the shit weather we've been experiencing (sub-zero temperatures) or maybe he's burned out from all the partying we've done in December. I'll give him a couple weeks and see if he perks up but I miss my spunky little dude.

GTKY: What is your favorite Christmas gift your child received? Mine is the bike my grandparents got for him. It's one of those 2-wheelers without peddles so he pushes with his feet and learns how to balance his body over time. He's not good at using peddles but he can scoot around on the bike easily enough. I'm hoping he'll learn to ride a bike without training wheels but that's far down the road, I know. HIS favorite toy is his Thomas & Friends Super Station. He can't seem to get enough of it.

coco2787

TW *Loss mentioned below*

What number are you trying for?

2

Cycle/Month?

Starting over after MC.  Month 4 I guess then?

WTO/TWW?

WTO

Ages of other child(ren)?

4

Any thoughts about this cycle?

Supposed to be WFAF but I don't really want to since I was only told to wait a cycle after my loss for dating purposes.  It's been almost 4 weeks and HCG still isn't quite 0 so at this rate AF is still a couple weeks away and I can't stand the thought of potentially being benched another 6+ weeks.  Like @offtoneverland I would like to just be laid back and NTNP but I know I won't be able to resist using OPKs.

Any questions? Nah

Rant/Rave/Brag

My son is starting to try and learn to read and it's so much fun to see their little minds working things out. 

GTKY: What is your favorite Christmas gift your child received?

He's pretty into all the board games he got.  Monopoly Jr. and Sorry are big hits.

cdepperschmidt

I’m glad this thread is up, I almost posted it earlier this week, but I didn’t want to step on anyone’s toes.

What number are you trying for? 2 

Cycle/Month? 2/2

WTO/TWW? WTO

Ages of other child(ren)? 2

Any thoughts about this cycle? None, just nervous about TTC. IDK what to except, DS was an oops. I don’t know how long it will take, or how it will be emotionally. In the past 2 years I’ve dealt with period of debilitating anxiety. I wonder if I’m ready for the emotional roller coaster. 

Any questions? No. 

Rant/Rave/Brag: It’s a snow day today! But the windchill is like zero. 

GTKY: What is your favorite Christmas gift your child received? His toy vacuum, he LOVES it. 

holly321

@eleven_ I don't remember what I suggested last time, so sorry if I repeat myself.  We used to have similar issues with DD.  Is it hard for him to fall asleep?  If so have you tried melatonin?

jengibre_zorro

@wishiwaspreggo and @eleven_ thanks    we do sign language, but it still leaves gaps.  I know i just need to be patient - thanks for reminding there is a light in the distance!

eleven_

@holly321 Yes, it takes him so long to fall asleep! I've heard about the melatonin but I've never tried it. It makes me a little nervous. Have you had good experiences with It? 

holly321

Both my kids use it.  Disclaimer, both my kids are on the autism spectrum, and autistics notoriously don't properly produce melatonin.   DD used to be up regularly until 11. She even as a baby didn't sleep well, rarely napped after a year and stopped almost completely at 18 months. She would wake up quickly and several times a night.  She has used it since she was 4. I was afraid to try melatonin, so I waited to use it.  It has been amazing.  

 DS started a few ago with no issues.  He used to go to sleep well, but he always slept on the floor.  Once we were able to get him to go to bed in his bed he kept having a hard time falling alseep, it made a huge difference.  He refuses to take it (gummies make him gag) so I melt it and put it in milk before bed.

Both kids started with 1.5 mg, DD is now on 3.  DD doesn't respond to it like you are expected to.  Most people should take melatonin a couple of hours before bed, but her window for falling asleep is quick.  I give it to her 30 minutes before bed time, and if she doesn't fall asleep within the hour, she requires a 2nd dose.  Thst rarely happens, and it isn't because the melatonin isn't working, it is because she isn't listening, or I accidentally let her stay up too late.

Ideally melatonin isn't supposed to be used every day for ever, because eventually, some people won't be able to fall asleep without it, but it is clear in DDs case especially, she will not fall asleep without it.  Some people say it causes nightmares, we haven't had that issue. The way it works doesn't help kids stay asleep, but we noticed improvement, I think because they were less exhausted by falling asleep earlier. 

I personally can't take it.  Even the 1.5 mg dose causes me to have brain jolts that keep me awake, but I have read research that says melatonin supplements aren't good for people with autoimmune diseases.

eleven_

@holly321 Thank you so much! You are a well of knowledge. I may consider trying it if things keep up like this. 

holly321

@eleven_, you are welcome. Nhaving obsessive compulsive disorder and uncontrollably researching the crap out of stuff can come in handy. 

If you do try, I hope it helps. If you are nervous (understandably, as I was too) there are foods that naturally contain melatonin like cherry juice and if my memory is correct, bananas maybe?

cdepperschmidt

@holly321 I can’t take melatonin either. It does absolutely nothing for me.

kns1988

What number are you trying for? 2

Cycle/Month? 1/1

WTO/TWW? WTO

Ages of other child(ren)? 8 months

Any thoughts about this cycle? I still haven't gotten my period back since giving birth. It wasn't always the most regular to begin with, and I'm still breastfeeding. I don't think I'll have a good shot at a BFP until I stop breastfeeding in May.

Any questions? Would you bother to temp and chart if you didn't think you were ovulating? I think I should probably get back in the habit of it. My thermometer has been sitting on my nightstand for the past week...

Rant/Rave/Brag: DS woke up really sick and gross today. He was pretty miserable, but he took a bunch of naps and went down easily at bedtime. My biggest excitement of the day was creating an Airbnb listing for our house. We spend a portion of the year at a cabin because my husband is a camp director, so our house is available for guests. 

GTKY: What is your favorite Christmas gift your child received? Clothes! He moved into 12 month clothes in December and I didn't have any. I was holding off because I knew I'd get some as gifts. His favorite are wooden blocks. He loves knocking them down and pouring them out of the container. 

offtoneverland

@eleven_ I'm assuming you've tried the obvious stuff like night lights and/or sound machines? DD has had one of those light up things that plays music attached to the side of her bed since she was an infant and she has a hard time sleeping without it! Sleep issues are so hard though. Thankfully, she's typically a pretty good sleeper but on the nights she doesn't want to go to bed, it's so tough. I hate listening to her cry/whine for such a long time. I hope you can figure out something that works for your son so he gets some more sleep and you get to relax a bit more. Good luck with the potty training too! After just having gone through it recently, I'm pretty sure it's the absolute worst part of parenting. 
@wishiwaspreggo I don't think it's constipation, so that's good at least. I'm sorry that YW still hasn't made a decision. That must be so frustrating. It's really great of you not to push her though, I'm sure it's a huge struggle not to! Good for you for taking the time to focus on yourself and start up Weight Watchers. I did WW years ago (before they made all the big changes to their plans) and I thought it was great. I'm convinced it's the only "good" diet out there, since it's not actually a diet but a plan that teaches you how to change your lifestyle for the better. Also, I've heard really great things about those bikes without pedals! Hope YS loves it!
@coco2787 I so hope that AF starts soon for you. Can't imagine how frustrated you are just waiting for it to come back. 
@cdepperschmidt I'm so sorry your anxiety has been coming back as you're thinking about TTC. Hopefully you don't find yourself here for too long! I try to find other things to focus on to take my mind off of TTC, but it's a constant struggle.
@kns1988 I don't have any specific advice for your situation since I didn't TTC while breastfeeding, but if I were you I probably wouldn't start temping yet. No use (in my opinion) in doing it if you might not be ovulating, plus I'm sure you're still waking up in the middle of the night with your baby, so that would add another struggle. But of course it's up to you and whatever you think is best! Hope YS feels better soon!

meatballs37

@kristah2 How exciting to see your LO's first steps!

@elothair Is it sad that we are considering a tablet for our almost 17 month old? maybe that should be my FFFC, but honestly she is a beast in the car, and I have been giving her my phone to watch sesame street. What do your kids like the most on their tablets?

@acciocoffee dance parties are the best! DD just recently started getting into music.

@holly321 I had to google what tyler the tiger was because all I could think of was daniel the tiger (mom brain). Holy crap! That is an expensive toy! But I could see myself playing with it too. 

@offtoneverland I am with your DD. winter stinks. How cold is it where you are at? We have been below freezing for weeks and I am already dreaming of spring. 

@eleven_ Solidarity in the bedtime crying.

@spylon DD has the same sesame street figurines and she also adores cookie monster!

@wishiwaspreggo I hope your little guy perks up soon. 

@coco2787 I can't wait for DD to be old enough to like board games. I used to love monopoly. 

*TW*

What number are you trying for? 4

Cycle/Month? benched

WTO/TWW? waiting for my first PP period still

Ages of other child(ren)? DD is 16 almost 17 months. My twin boys were 22 weeks and 29 weeks when they passed. 

Any thoughts about this cycle? I just wish I would have my first PP AF, I am starting to worry it won't happen and that my body has been through too much. I really want to start temping again, although with the way DD has been sleeping, it wouldn't be very reliable. I think if I was able to start temping again, it would ease my anxiety about us deciding if we want to try again. I am for sure benched at minimum 4 more months due to c-section. 

Any questions? nada

Rant/Rave/Brag: DD is going through the 18 month sleep regression and it is AWFUL! For a year she has been sleeping consistently through the night and put herself to sleep. The past two weeks she screams and we have to pat her bum to sleep. She is up 2-5 times a night and then up for the day by 6 am. I can't wait for this phase to pass, it is miserable! My rave is she seems like such a smart cookie. She put a simple kids puzzle together this morning and knew to turn pieces to get them to fit. I know a majority of people would think, meh so what? But I am amazed at all she does. 

GTKY: What is your favorite Christmas gift your child received? A minnie mouse car/airplane that she can scoot around on. 

eleven_

@offtoneverland Yes, he has a sound machine and night lights. I think we got in the habit of laying with him so long that now he never wants us leave. Do you have a time limit for how long you'll let her cry or does she not usually cry that long? 
@kns1988 Sorry your DS is sick. Hopefully he is feeling better today. That's so cool you guys can Airbnb your house. We wanted to turn our basement into a mother in law and do a BNB for the ski season. 
@meatballs37 I'm so sorry you are still waiting for AF. I hate that it's just one big guessing game. I hope it returns for you before you are off the bench so you can have some peace of mind. The 18 month sleep regression is just awful. I always hated how even though they barely slept all night, they'd still wake up super early. Hopefully the regression ends quickly so that you guys can get some rest. 

eleven_

@wishiwaspreggo I'm sorry your DW isn't giving you any answers. Do you know why she is being so hesitant? That's such a tough situation. As for your DS, how long has he been feeling lethargic? Maybe he is feeling slightly under the weather but not showing other symptoms? Or maybe he's just in a mellow mood? I've noticed both of my kids have weeks where they seem really mellow and tired and then all the sudden have tons of energy and never stop moving. 

elothair

@meatballs37 Both my kids are addicted to YouTube videos but I didn't install it on their tablets as it's too hard to monitor and I wanted them to be able to use them somewhat independently. My daughter likes a bunch of math games and uses the kindle feature to do a lot of reading on her, my son likes the transformers games and some of the pre-school games I added on for him. Neither of my kids can watch their tablets in the car unfortunately because they both get car-sick and screens make it way worse! I feel like if it works and keeps her happy at times when you can't do anything else, such as when everyone is strapped down in a car, then do it! We also use ours during long waits/restaurants as last resorts. If it keeps the allusion that they are somewhat well behaved when everything is going sideways I'm willing to do it.

meatballs37

@elothair waiting in lines is a good use for sure! 

offtoneverland

@holly321 I forgot to respond to you about your suggestion that my daughter might have a yeast infection. Thank you! I hadn't even thought of that. I'm not sure that's what it is at this point since it doesn't seem to bother her all the time. DD does eat tons of applesauce so I wonder if you might be on to something...I will definitely be calling the doctor if it gets any worse.
@meatballs37 Below freezing for weeks? That sounds terrible! It's been anywhere from 3-20 degrees this last week, but has felt colder with the wind chill. The temperature is supposed to climb some this week, so I'm looking forward to that. DD keeps asking to go back to Florida.  I have my fingers crossed for you that AF starts soon so you don't have to be in limbo for much longer. Hopefully your stress/anxiety from the past few months won't throw off your cycle too much. I also hope the sleep regression gets better soon. One thing I read online a long time ago that helped me was to think of a sleep regression as more of a "progression" because kids' minds grow so much during those times and it shows that they're growing and thriving, even though they're not sleeping. I know that doesn't help at all, but it helped me realize that there was nothing I could do to make it better, and I just had to deal with it as she learned and grew. 
@eleven_ I think we've pretty much passed the crying phase with DD since she's 3.5 now. She kind of whines at night lately, but she doesn't really cry. She's not in a crib anymore, so if she gets too mad, she usually will get up and play for a little while. Trying to think of anything else you guys could do to help YS get to sleep easier. Does he take too many naps during the day? Or are you maybe trying to put him to bed a little too early? It could also just be a clingy phase...those are so hard, but sometimes they just need mommy and daddy for a little extra time to calm them down. I'm so sorry it's been so stressful for you. I wish I had better advice to give you!

jengibre_zorro

@kns1988 - you never know!  i think more people can get pregnant while breastfeeding than can not.  (of course i was the latter, but i am generally on the struggle bus anyway) Hoping it happens sooner rather than later for you!

@meatballs37 - my son is in the same sleep regression    It doesn't help that i just noticed a couple canines poking through, too.  I try to not dwell on the lack of sleep because i know some people with kids the same age that have never slept through the night, but man, there is just not enough coffee.  Hoping it passes quickly for you.  I was told 3-4 weeks?  who knows.....  

wishiwaspreggo

Well what do you know, just after I posted my complaint about DW not taking any steps towards TTC she asked to go to the lab over our lunch hour to get her AMH tested. I'm grateful she at least took that step. That way we know at least if the numbers are poor we can move on from her to me. And if they're good - yay!

She says she wants to try one more IUI rather than move on to IVF right now. Part of me feels like we'd be throwing $1500 away that could've gone to IVF that would have a better shot at working but then if it DID work then we'd save all the money that would've gone to IVF. But then the other factor is what if we want a 3rd child? I thought I only wanted 2 but we've both been on the fence about having a 3rd and we may want to move forward with that in a few years and having embryos on reserve would make things so much easier.

I don't know. Hopefully the doctor will have a recommendation for us one way or the other. I am just so anxious to have a plan in place.

holly321

@wishiwaspreggo, i would be careful about decisions about whether or not you are done.  A year ago, DH had an appointment for a vasectomy, clearly we changed our minds, lol.  I am glad your wife is getting the blood work, hopefully you will get good answers!

cdepperschmidt

@wishiwaspreggo It’s great to hear that your DW is on board and finally getting that ball rolling! Forgive me for asking, I don’t know your whole story. Which of you carried #1? 

hummingbird35

Hi guys! I've mostly been lurking but would like to add that I also have a DS with a language delay. We work with an SLP and an OT. Interesting to see that there are few others with similar issues here.

What number are you trying for? 2

Cycle/Month? 1/1

WTO/TWW? WTO

Ages of other child(ren)? 2

Any thoughts about this cycle? nope. last one was wonky as I'm usually always a 28 day girl but this one was 32.

Any questions? nope

Rant/Rave/Brag: Rant: DS has been getting speech therapy and OT since about 19 months. I think that he would benefit from peer interaction, but I stay home with him and we haven't had any luck finding a good play group near us. We do Gymboree once a week and that seems to help but it's not enough. I have applied for 3 intensive speech groups, and he's been waitlisted for all 3. Two he can't start until March/ May respectively!

Rave: One of the speech programs I applied to is supposed to get back to us this week! He should be able to start that one this month. I have high hopes for it.

Brag: Might not seem like a big deal to those with early/ regular talkers but my son is just starting to learn his colors! He says blue (boo) and purple (boo-buh) and even tried to say green this morning.

GTKY: What is your favorite Christmas gift your child received? I'm obsessed with the Melissa and Doug barn that MIL got for him, it's so cute. & it keeps him busy because it has a bunch of doors on it with different kinds of locks. His favorite is probably the dry erase/ chalkboard easel.

wishiwaspreggo

@holly321 - yes, that's a point I'm going to mention after we get the results. By the time we're ready for a 3rd we'd be in our late 30's. IUI would be pretty useless and we'd only have 3 vials of donor sperm left at that point (assuming this next attempt works). I worry that we'll be 37/38 and wanting that last baby but who knows how easily we'd be able to conceive by then? If we had younger embryos frozen in the lab we wouldn't have to worry as much about our ages when we transfer. We'd have to do IVF then anyway and it would be with older eggs.

@cdepperschmidt - I did IUI and carried the first! Took me several tries but it eventually happened. W did a couple IUIs already without success. It's getting to the point where we just want to be done.

@flyingmombula - you should check out your local library for baby & me classes or story time. And when the weather finally turns nice again, taking him to the park. DS was a slow talker, too, and stays home with my MIL so he doesn't regularly go to a daycare or anything. Getting him out around other kids helped a lot with getting him to talk.

hummingbird35

@wishiwaspreggo we tried library story time but for whatever reason he hates it. Screams and cries to leave every time. We may try again in a few months. We go on outings pretty much every day— he shows interest in the other kids, just doesn’t yet communicate with them much. I was hoping that a more preschool-esque environment would give him a little push. This particular program doesn’t allow parents in the room so I won’t be there to anticipate his needs, but they have a double-sided mirror I can watch through. I’m really curious to see how he interacts with other people when I’m not around!

meatballs37

@jengibre_zorro we have definitely been spoiled up until this point with sleep. I’ve heard the regression lasts anywhere from 2-6 weeks. Oh boy. We are on week three. 

offtoneverland

@flyingmombula Welcome! Good luck with getting your son into those intensive speech groups. I hope you hear back from the one this week. That would be great if he got to start one soon. And yay that he's starting to say some of his colors! We have that same Melissa & Doug barn with the locks. It's such a great interactive toy.
@wishiwaspreggo Yes! I'm so happy to hear that she wants to get started. Hopefully her experience getting her AMH tested goes okay. I know she's really anxious with medical stuff, so I hope it goes smoothly and easily for her. GL figuring out a plan going forward. Keep us posted!
@meatballs37 Yikes! Hopefully it doesn't take your daughter 6 weeks to get through this regression. Sending lots of luck and some virtual wine your way.  

holly321

@flyingmombula, have you looked into if the local schools offer playgroups?  My DS goes to one at my daughter's school.   And that is wonderful that he started to say colors!