I'm actually moving in a month so keeping it a secret from my parents right now is my biggest accomplishment. Luckily (unluckily?) I have IBS so me having MS isn't anything out of the ordinary.
Of course, my partner knows. My sister is in the loop mostly because she just had a scare (they aren't planning on having kids yet!!) And we bonded over it. My whole family shares way too much on social media. I share food, so I guess my IG followers know! I was posting suspicions even before I took any tests.
Of course, DH knew first, then I told my bff who knew about our treatment and went through ivf herself last year, (and is due in Feb). I have one other long-distance friend who knew we were going through treatment and that we had recently transferred, so I told her pretty much right away, too. Then a little while later I hinted to SIL, (who is the only one in the family who knows about treatment, and the plan is to keep it that way) that maybe it had gone well....(!!!) And we told her for sure after the first scan and betas had come back well. Only just today, (7+0) we visited MIL to tell her in person, and also called my mom from her house to tell her, since she is out of state. So that was fun. :)
I have told one co-worker who knows to be discreet. And the moms know also, "mum's the word," no social media etc. We plan on telling FIL and some more immediate family next weekend, (a little earlier than we might otherwise, since it's his birthday), but waiting before sending paper announcements out to extended family. Social media may wait till after LOs arrival (lol if then!), and not include a picture of the baby, either. I might not mind giving family an access link to a private album <i>maaaaybe</i>??? But not FB. <<shudder>>
I found out last night and told my O16 mamas while I was waiting for my husband to get out of my Son's room (he was doing bedtime). I had to get it out! I've only told one other person now. I'm super nervous to tell my mom. She's an amazing woman, and a great Grandmother to my other 2 babies. But she's really weird and kind of judgey. Like she knows we wanted a 3rd, so it shouldn't come to a shock, but I know she's going to be like "wow that's so soon, didn't you want to wait until you were ready" or something stupid like that.
Married to DH for 6 years (together for 16) DS born 12.13.14 DD born 10.15.16 BFP 1.24.18, MC 3.13.18 BFP 4.25.19, EDD 12.31.19
Told my hubby right away. We told our BFF's. (A couple who also just found out this week that they are expecting!!!) Waiting to tell our parents until we have an EDD this week. We won't be telling anyone else until after we tell our other kids... we're still undecided on when that will be.
Other than my husband, the first person I told is a friend whose wedding I'm in June 2nd. I hadn't ordered my bridesmaid dress so was so stressed about what size to get! Now I have to tell my family ASAP because my husband told my MIL and she posted it on FB! Hopefully my parents won't see that post before I can tell them!
@maisie122713 Why did she post something?! Have her delete that if you’re not comfortable with the news out there that way...not cool! Not her news to post, no?
Oh @maisie122713 I'd be livid and having all sorts of words with DH on handling MIL. Definitely make her delete that post. I mean, it's not just not her business to share and some people deserve to hear it right from you. And if and when it goes FB official you and H deserve that moment, not her.
@nlc8424 I work in a hospital as well. I don't know how it works where you are or in your profession but generally here we tell our manager right away to be sure we are not assigned patients that could pose a danger. For example patients on chemo, with certain viruses like cmv, aggressive patients etc. Good luck!
@tpeci I'll probably tell management sometime next week after my first appointment. My direct report manager has been out on maternity leave and comes back this week, so I wanted to avoid telling more people than needed. And I'd feel weird telling one facility and not the other, so this way they can be on the same page.
Re: Who do you tell first?
Of course, my partner knows. My sister is in the loop mostly because she just had a scare (they aren't planning on having kids yet!!) And we bonded over it. My whole family shares way too much on social media. I share food, so I guess my IG followers know! I was posting suspicions even before I took any tests.
I have told one co-worker who knows to be discreet. And the moms know also, "mum's the word," no social media etc. We plan on telling FIL and some more immediate family next weekend, (a little earlier than we might otherwise, since it's his birthday), but waiting before sending paper announcements out to extended family. Social media may wait till after LOs arrival (lol if then!), and not include a picture of the baby, either. I might not mind giving family an access link to a private album <i>maaaaybe</i>??? But not FB. <<shudder>>
Married to DH for 6 years (together for 16)
DS born 12.13.14
DD born 10.15.16
BFP 1.24.18, MC 3.13.18
MMC 8/5/15 at 8 weeks
DS born 9/13/16
BFP 1/13/18 - EDD 9/20/18 - It's a boy!
We still need to tell our siblings and a few friends.